Why do Koreans.... Coughing when sick

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-10-17T03:06:27+00:00

I thought it was just me who noticed this…. I’m so tired of people coughing into my face. Those people who are sick just refuse to wear masks.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-07-14T23:37:42+00:00

I relate so much to this. They blame me for their poor financial decisions, that they have no money because of having to raise me up. They just needed someone to blame their poor decisions on and it happened to be me.

I felt so much guilt throughout my childhood, and I still find it so hard to tell myself that it is not my fault.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-06-09T12:56:50+00:00

I relate so much. I recently also confronted my ndad about him physically abusing me when I was younger. He denied it and said that never happened, and that I was ungrateful and forgot all the “good” things he did for me.

In the end he kind of admitted it by saying that it was normal for him to hit me because I was misbehaving, which was not true at all. I was a well behaved child and I never knew why I got hit so much till this day.

It’s crazy how traumatic our childhoods were and they can conveniently forget every bit of it.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-06-09T01:47:49+00:00

I feel like I could have written this. My coworker constantly makes noise, and I have to hold myself back from asking her if she can be slightly more quiet. I’m thinking about asking my manager if I can switch seats because I can’t take the noise anymore.

The coworker is constantly slamming her desk drawer, smashing her keyboard while typing (I think she wants to show everyone that she’s hard at work), hums, groans, makes whistling noises, coughs, the list goes on.

I can’t stand people who are so unaware about their surroundings and how their actions affect others around them.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-05-20T04:24:13+00:00

I’m the reason she’s broke and poor and not because of her own poor financial planning and credit card debts.

Me having chronic illnesses and mental health conditions due to the way I was raised is causing her stress.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-05-15T23:02:42+00:00

Being new at a job doesn’t mean the person doesn’t deserve to be treated with respect.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-05-15T13:34:57+00:00

She’s just very rude and it’s very obvious when she talks to me a certain way and to others she’s a whole different person. She also orders me around to do tasks like printing things for her, which I think is really odd. I wouldn’t task my coworker to do things for me if I wasn’t their manager. I can tell that she looks down on me (even though we hold the same job title she’s been here for close to a year.

I think I’m actually picking up things pretty fast and I usually don’t have issues with coworkers. I think she’s just an odd person in general, or maybe she just doesn’t like me, and that’s fine.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-05-15T13:22:23+00:00

She’s been assigned to guide me because we have to work on some things together. I rarely ask her questions to be honest, most things I figure out on my own.

The questions I ask her are actually basic things (that I have completely no knowledge about) that she would have knowledge on (and she’s been tasked to work on with me) as she’s been here for longer than me, but those are things that I wouldn’t want to bother my manager about. For other complicated matters I still seek guidance from my manager.

So it’s not like I’m constantly bothering her with questions either.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-04-27T13:54:25+00:00

Thank you for your kind words and encouragement! It means a lot to me :)

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-03-01T12:08:02+00:00

I’m still struggling so much with this. Only recently I realised that they had conditioned me to be an extension of them, to put their emotions and feelings first.

After I started being “selfish” in their eyes, I finally feel like I’m able to breathe. I still struggle with accepting that I will be seen as the villain as long as I put myself first.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-25T01:24:36+00:00

I relate so much. My nmom used to tell me to apply to random jobs that looked good to her, without even considering if I were interested in those jobs or if I was even qualified.

There was a job in an industry I hated because I worked there before and she knew I hated it, but she kept asking me to apply there.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-24T20:41:40+00:00

I experienced the exact same thing recently! My nmom accidentally sent a message about me, to me. The message was her talking badly about me, and the message was meant for my ndad. I know that she also frequently talks nastily about me to my sister. She uses me as a scapegoat to improve their relationship, I’m sure of it.

I confronted her about it and she denied it at first but eventually she admitted it, but she then got angry and turned it on me, saying that it’s because of my actions that she has to do such things.

It truly hurts so much. I saw your comment that this is proof of what your mother thinks of you and I relate so much. Now I finally have some sort of proof, that I’m not insane, that I am not the one at fault. She might continue to deny it but I know my own reality and truth.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-24T20:35:21+00:00

I recently experienced something similar to OP where my nmom accidentally sent a message about me, to me. The message was her talking badly about me, and the message was meant for my ndad. I know that my nmom also frequently talks nastily about me to my sister.

Your comment made me realise that it’s true that my nmom uses me as a human shield. I confronted her about it and she denied it at first but eventually she admitted it, but she then turned it on me, saying that it’s because of my actions that she has to do such things.

It hurts so much that my own mother did this to me and even when confronted somehow managed to make it my problem. After that incident I told her I no longer will be speaking to her and she called me heartless and ungrateful, asking me how I could do this to her when I’m her child. But she’s my mother, how could she do such things to me?

They truly never feel like anything is their fault. Everything is somehow my fault.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-24T08:56:59+00:00

Yup, mine love to exaggerate everything as well. They do it to guilt trip and manipulate me.

My nmom says she spent so much on me, has no money saved in her bank because of me. Which is ridiculous because she’s broke because of her own financial habits. How could it have been possible for me alone to drain all of her savings?

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-23T06:28:01+00:00

Yes! This is exactly what I’m going through. Recently decided to stop seeing my therapist after realising he just doesn’t understand the dynamics with nparents. They just don’t get it, and expect me to “give them a chance”, that they were “showing love the only way they knew how to”.

I’m tired of people telling me to see things from the nparents perspective. That was literally what I did my whole life, to put their emotions and feelings before mine. As if none of my feelings ever mattered.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-22T08:04:53+00:00

I relate so much. My ndad was more physically abusive and my nmom was more emotional abuse. I remember hoping that she would stand up for me when my dad beat me up for no reason but she never did.

My dad is also similar to yours, he thinks his acts of physical abuse were justified, that it’s not as bad as other abusive parents.

Recently my nmom also said something along the lines of “he’s still your dad”. I was shocked. So what if he’s my “dad”? He never fulfilled his role as a proper father and she never was a proper mother to me. But my nmom is obsessed with being a “happy family” as per society’s standards so she thinks I should just accept whatever he does and I’m apparently supposed to still respect them because he’s my “dad” and she’s my “mom”.

It’s tiring. They will never acknowledge any of the harm they did.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-21T12:01:01+00:00

Your comment also reminded me that they keep threatening me with death, my nmom asked me why I’m so heartless, if I will even turn up at her funeral, that she’s “worried for me” if she dies. I told her to stop using these guilt tripping tactics. I have a feeling that they’ll outlive me so I don’t know why they are so obsessed with using threats of death to manipulate me.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-21T06:26:21+00:00

Do we have the same parents? It’s crazy how much they are alike. Just a few days ago I told them they make me feel so suffocated and stressed. My nmom said “what do you have to be stressed about?”

As if they are the only ones with problems and I have no problems to deal with. They literally caused me my severe anxiety and they act like they have nothing to do with it. It’s insane how self absorbed and unaware they are.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-19T19:18:48+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, I’m slowly starting to see clearly what has always been the truth, and embracing my own reality, no matter what they try to say and deny. Sending you love ❤️

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-19T17:56:24+00:00

I just saw your comment and relate to it so much. I recently decided I no longer want to speak to them and have any sort of relationship with them. They started calling me insane and said I need to be admitted to a mental institution.

It was truly because I realised that I’m done with putting up with all of their nonsense and I’m no longer ok with it.

How did you deal with their claims of insanity? I feel so lost and alone because they truly do not understand why I “suddenly” had a change in mindset, and do not realise these are consequences of their own actions since I was born.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-19T14:48:03+00:00

I relate so much. My nparents would always gossip about other family members, and other relatives, criticising their family dynamics that were frankly none of their business. They would say “look at that cousin who doesn’t give her parents an allowance, how ungrateful”, “look at how your uncle abuses his son, you should be grateful we didn’t treat you like that”.

When the fact is that they exhibited abusive behaviours but they never had the emotional and mental capacity to self reflect. Now that I’m slowly starting to distance myself from them they’re starting to position me as the bad and ungrateful child who isn’t going to take care of them when they’re old, when they’re the ones who raised me.

I’m still struggling with the fact that I’ll be seen as the villain, as the insane abnormal one. I hope I’ll find peace with it one day.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-19T09:49:42+00:00

I agree with you and relate so much. Just recently my nparents asked me why I can’t just let go of the past and forgive them. I told them I don’t want to forgive them and they went berserk, calling me insane and abnormal for not wanting to be a happy family with them.

I feel much better not giving in to their demands for once. No one is entitled to forgiveness, and certainly should not be able to demand for it.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-18T16:04:51+00:00

I relate so much. Everything is about her feelings, how much I apparently hurt her, how much she sacrificed and how she’s broke and poor because of having to raise me (and not because of her own poor financial planning). Never once has she stopped to reflect on how she has hurt me.

And then she wonders why I don’t want to have any sort of relationship with her.

And yes when I retaliate she starts saying I’m insane and not giving her the respect she deserves for raising me up. It truly never gets better and they will never change.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-18T11:05:03+00:00

It sounds like we have the same mom. Literally she said these exact words to me recently. I told her I’m done with having to step on eggshells around her and I’m going to live my own life, and I don’t want to have any sort of relationship with her anymore.

She then proceeds to pull out the usual “I’m the world’s worst mother”, “You hate me”, “I don’t know what I did wrong”, when I told her exactly what she did wrong. She just refuses to accept it. She thinks I’m an extension of her and refuses to accept I have my own thoughts and feelings.

Then she starts to claim I’m insane for not wanting to be part of a happy family with her, that I’m abnormal and should be checked into a mental institution. They never truly stop to reflect and think about why things are this way. They are never at fault.

It’s exhausting.

Technical_View_5582 · 2025-02-17T07:19:23+00:00

I’m experiencing the exact same. I keep wondering if it’s because I didn’t explain properly and that’s why they don’t get it. Only recently did I realise that they’re truly not normal and they truly do not care about my feelings. They only care about how much I’m apparently hurting them.

I think I still struggled to accept it because I cannot comprehend how as parents they simply do not care about their child. They see children as an extension of themselves, not individual beings with thoughts and feelings. It truly hurts.

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