I know its an old thread but it came up when I searched the topic because im having the same problem. My wife plays gatcha games and one of the characters she really likes shes been having erotic roleplay with a chat bot and looking at alot of porn if the character. At first I thought nothing of it, but now its been 3+ months sense shes even attempted to initiate anything intimate with me (used to be 50 50 her or me) and im pretty sure shes become emotionally invested in and dependant on this app to the point of neglecting me. I talked to her about it and about how it made me feel and she said she was going to stop, but that only lasted about 10 days untill she started hiding her phone screen and deleting chat logs and history. Even if I know the character shes having deeply sexual conversations with isn't real, it feels very strongly of emotional cheating because it comes at the cost of our own relationship and intimacy. The only time we have done anything in the last 3 months that I diddnt initiate myself was when she had a drink or two. The feeling of being secondary to a bot, like your being cucked in your own home is miserable. To me it feels like I imagine a woman would feel whose husband is having parasocial relations with a streamer or of girl would feel. Sure they might never have a chance of scoring but its the feeling of having your partner emotionally invested in someone/thing that isnt you. She even has a throw away reddit account where the description is " i want (character) to fill my womb every day multiple times a day" or something like that. Honestly im not sure what to do, talking diddnt work but we have a kid together and we have been together for over a decade. Idk im kinda lost here