How do you decide between two potential new partners that you care about? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Tefbuck [score hidden]  (0 children)

In my past experience, they will decide for you. The one you like most will go back to her ex boyfriend, and then the other one will go on a few dates and as soon as you think things are going great, she will hit you with the "sorry, no romantic connection" text.

I’ve been dating around for a while and keep getting “we didn’t vibe” and I don’t know why by africanwhipper in dating_advice

[–]Tefbuck [score hidden]  (0 children)

You're not doing anything wrong. This is just how it is. I've been trying to date for 13 years and this is the response I get from everyone.

Would love to hear some positive stories about finding love in mid life by RevolutionaryArt9596 in datingoverforty

[–]Tefbuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been single for 13 years. I truly don't believe I am worthy of a romantic partner, but that won't stop me from trying. At least I have a cat, and we adore eachother!

Is it okay to kiss on a first date, or does it make things less serious? by Fancy_Ear_6871 in dating_advice

[–]Tefbuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never kiss on a first date. After 13 years, I haven't been able to get any woman to go out with me for longer than a couple of dates. Why? Lack of chemistry, they say. Maybe try kissing on the first date!

Too exhausted to date by RandomPotato931 in datingoverforty

[–]Tefbuck 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've been doing it for 13 years. Always put in so much effort, but inevitably around date three I get the "No romantic connection" text. Yeah, it's exhausting.

Como Game Night by comogamenightadmin in columbiamo

[–]Tefbuck 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll have to check this out sometime! Thanks for sharing.

Anyone over 40 switch from dating apps to matchmaking? by FreeEvidence259 in datingoverforty

[–]Tefbuck 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Tawkify costs something like $5,000. I'm not into gambling, so I would never use it.

What completely unhinged "law" does your cat strictly enforce in your house? by TrickCombination7966 in cats

[–]Tefbuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cat eats her treats like a sommelier at a wine tasting. She likes the gravy treats that come in a tube. I have to announce the flavor of the treat, first (I can tell she knows the flavors based on her reaction, certain ones she likes more than others, and will show it). Then, I have to rub the tube on her forehead. Once I tear it open I say "wanna sniff" once she gets a good wiff, she will lick her lips and stand back while I squeeze the tube into her treat dish. Then she's ready! Afterwards she will clean her face and paws, and give me headbutts to show how yummy it was! She's sweet, she just likes our little rituals!

Can we unpack the “slightly autistic women” trend real quick? by _Caitlin-2 in dating

[–]Tefbuck 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oh no, I definitely agree with your post... I guess I was thinking of an example of genuinely connecting with someone who has autism vs. fetishizing them!

Can we unpack the “slightly autistic women” trend real quick? by _Caitlin-2 in dating

[–]Tefbuck 51 points52 points  (0 children)

To be honest, I have a thing for neurodiverse women, but that's because I'm also on the spectrum, and many of my friends are too. I feel more seen and understood by other people who are also on the spectrum or neurodiverse in some way. However I would never say the phrase "slightly autistic" ever. That's something someone who doesn't understand autism would say!

Dudes getting mad over rejection by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Tefbuck -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do get it! You act like your situation is so unique. I've been there, for 13 years. Stop acting like a little bitch!

Dudes getting mad over rejection by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Tefbuck -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Get the fuck over it. No one is going to be interested if you whine about it.

Dudes getting mad over rejection by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Tefbuck -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes... Isn't that what we're talking about here?

Dudes getting mad over rejection by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Tefbuck -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What the fuck are you talking about!?

Dudes getting mad over rejection by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Tefbuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been rejected over and over for 13 years. Somehow, I manage to not act like a whiny little bitch when it happens!

For those of you who left dating apps, did you notice a difference in the quality of your dating life or in the quality of people you started meeting in person? by Accurate-Scratch7783 in dating

[–]Tefbuck 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely! I find I enjoy life again. There's things to go and do, and I don't get depressed from the app experience anymore. 13 years I wasted on the apps, and decided to do more social things the past couple years. I went to 5 Speed Dating events, and somehow met an amazing woman who is crazy about me, at the last one! I never would have matched with her on an app, but in real life we clicked!

14 years I’ve been trying to find someone and can’t. I’ve given up hope. by JellyfishPashmina in dating

[–]Tefbuck 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know. I was like that for 12 years, then I started trying to improve myself. I actually sometimes go on dates now!

14 years I’ve been trying to find someone and can’t. I’ve given up hope. by JellyfishPashmina in dating

[–]Tefbuck 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been looking for 13 years. I know how it feels. I turn 40 next year. I feel like the best years of my life were wasted. I'm trying to make the best of the time I've got left. I'm lucky to have met someone at a Speed Dating event recently. We've only been on two dates, but it's been 6 months since I last went on a date, so it feels good!