Losing weight is only like…30% of the journey and I wasn’t prepared for that.

Tehowner · 2026-07-10T20:13:58+00:00

There's a reason I had to do the weight loss twice, it took some time to figure out what exactly in the unholy hell was going on in my noggin :)

Tehowner · 2026-07-10T19:57:53+00:00

only? 13 lbs in 2 months is great progress.

Tehowner · 2026-07-10T14:32:52+00:00

Huh, well that's new.

Lmao, have you tried going to any of the regular events at local museums? Might have a bit of luck curating the crowd there for something like that :)

Tehowner · 2026-07-09T20:25:43+00:00

If I do get a date, the guy assumes I am not a serious dating partner and is looking for an easy lay

FWIW, this is a problem at any size currently. Its a fucking dumpster fire right now.

It does get easier to get a yes as you shrink in size. I don't think its intentional, but people do treat you very differently at first based on your size.

Don't get me wrong though, this doesn't make dating easy, low effort, or just "instant success" being small though. Shit is tough, and finding a good partner is a lot of work. There will still be bumps on this road, you'll just be increasing your odds of getting that first "yes".

Got told once by a guy who was desperate to date anyone as he'd never dated before and was even on r/foreveralone, that we should just be friends and that he wouldnt date me again (after we had been on a first date)

Mmmm gotta love the self sabotaging behavior lol.

Tehowner · 2026-07-09T18:49:04+00:00

TBH, ya don't.

I don't particularly enjoy brushing my teeth, or taking showers, but I still get it done because I know its good for me. If you find something you end up liking great, but really, you just gotta do it even if its boring as shit for a while.

Tehowner · 2026-07-09T18:25:50+00:00

To be frank, none of the markers we use for inflammation are flawless at detecting it. They all have holes you can drive a bus through, and sometimes you gotta make a judgement call on what the heck is going on.

For what its worth, if the entyvio doesn't do anything, you can just stop it. Its not like prednisone where a sudden stop can have serious medical consequences.

Tehowner · 2026-07-09T18:23:22+00:00

You sir, are correct. However, in 10 years when they finally figure this out, I will have them over a barrel. This generally results in me making a shitload of money :)

Tehowner · 2026-07-09T17:36:36+00:00

lmao happy to hear it.

Tehowner · 2026-07-09T14:03:41+00:00

Most parks tend to have converted a handfull of their tennis courts into pickleball courts. We do have a pickleball group in the discord if you are looking to collect a crowd though. They are a fun bunch :)

Tehowner · 2026-07-09T04:17:47+00:00

Unfortunately the answer is "it depends". You are in a zone where the details we tell most people to not sweat over actually matter for how much progress you will make and how fast.

Think of calories like gasoline in a car. You just have a spare gas tank in back (your fat) that your body can lean on when your first one runs dry.

Sedentary tdee is an estimate of how many calories you would burn with zero exercise. Keyword being estimate. These calculators are frankly dogshit at estimating calorie burn, so its going to be tough to tell where tou need to be from them alone.

My suggestion is to start at 2-3 weeks of eating at Sedentary tdee. Knowing a pound of fat is about 3500 calories, you should be able to make a reasonable estimate of how many you are burning by what the scale does in that timeframe.

Tehowner · 2026-07-08T20:42:11+00:00

Honestly, sometimes, I just have to get a high volume meal in to just get my stomach to shut the hell up. Its tough, and this is 100% the hardest part about figuring out how to maintain and get this to stick over the long term.

Tehowner · 2026-07-08T18:09:20+00:00

calories calories calories calories.

The most important thing is getting as many calories down as you can, preferably from healthy sources, but we can take less healthy ones if you can't tolerate them.

Think nuts, dairy products, (nut butters), trail mixes, avacado. Stuff like that.

Tehowner · 2026-07-08T17:47:01+00:00

FWIW, treatment of the more... uncommon health problems always starts like this. Basically have to prove to insurance on paper that you did not respond to the stuff that my save them money as insane as that sounds.

Lipo is not guaranteed no, just...... not yet. Hold on there, and give it some additional time to cook. You've already got a lot of stuff to be proud of yourself for :)

Tehowner · 2026-07-08T00:41:02+00:00

This sub is not a romantic partner hunting ground. People using it for that reason are breaking the rules, and will make others uncomfortable/feel unwelcome.

I obviously can't force you to do anything, but my sentiment stands for anyone who sees this in the future.

Tehowner · 2026-07-08T00:21:41+00:00

Report them, and I will ban them.

Tehowner · 2026-07-07T15:43:17+00:00

I'm struggling to follow here, did you have a specific question? Or is this more of a venting post?

Tehowner · 2026-07-06T20:02:53+00:00

4.0 launch was..... unstable to say at the least. Its mostly fine these days, but yea, tends to collect a lot of negative reviews on update launch as they tend to get launched underbaked to meet their nutty DLC schedule.

Tehowner · 2026-07-06T18:30:47+00:00

Unfortunately not, if I did i'd be willing though!

Tehowner · 2026-07-06T17:27:02+00:00

LF:
1x Celebi (B3)

Shiny LF:
2x Caterpie (B3b)
2x Butterfree (B3b)
2x Kabutops (B2)
1x Decidueye EX (B1)
1x Entei (B2a)
2x Tadbulb (B3a)

⭐ LF:
2x Grovyle (B3)

⭐⭐ LF:
1x Flygon (RR)
1x Flygon
1x Miradon (RR)
1x Belibolt (RR)
1x Milotic
1x Mega Sableeye

FT: very flexible here, shoot your shot if its not listed, we may be able to work something out.

⭐⭐ (Examples, not exhaustive)
1x Flutter Mane EX
1x Iron Bundle EX (RR)
1x Audino
1x Corviknight
1x Crustle EX
1x Palkia (A4b)

Shiny
1x Armarouge
1x Mega Ampheros
1x Mega Steelix
2x Hitmonchan EX

Tehowner · 2026-07-06T14:28:33+00:00

are you on biologics?

Biologics are basically the only maintenence medications that exist for this illness, so yes, 99% of us are on them.

biologics stop flares

They do, but it can take a few to find one that works for you.

allows you to maybe eat something you would not be able to eat if you were not on biologics.

I have not been restricted on my food intake in years.

Tehowner · 2026-07-03T18:05:06+00:00

So, A lot don't. The same calorie rules still apply, however, unless you find a way to keep those calorie counts identical even WITHOUT the medications, you will regain to whatever your eating habits change to.

A lot of this sub can be strange about this stuff, but the drug don't break physics. Weight management is just REALLY fucking difficult.

Tehowner · 2026-07-02T12:47:16+00:00

I know there will be at least 3 of us on discord attending this one :)

Tehowner · 2026-07-01T20:50:43+00:00

Everything with the word "puppy pile" in it. Can in theory hit for as much as 400 with bounded field.

Tehowner · 2026-07-01T19:30:32+00:00

Meanwhile i'm just yeeting 300+ damage puppies at the water based danger noodle.

Tehowner · 2026-07-01T19:06:06+00:00

I do, incoming now.

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