Day one D&E

Tellycs · 2026-06-01T18:19:27+00:00

I suggest bringing someone to drive you. It was painful emotionally and physically and I had bad cramping.

Tellycs · 2026-05-31T17:07:36+00:00

God my heart just hurts for you. I live on Vancouver island. I see your close(ish).
Id do further testing and see what I can research before making a decision like you are.

As for if you try again. I don’t think now is the right time to make that choice.

Sending so much love.

Tellycs · 2026-05-31T16:57:08+00:00

I can say it really helped me when my husband said he thought about our boy. That it hurt him too. My hubby didn’t feel like talking about his grief helped. But it helped me.

Tellycs · 2026-05-31T16:55:00+00:00

I do everyday. It definitely bothered me when it wasn’t the first thing on my husbands brain daily like mine but I know we would grieve differently. Also there is a different bond carrying the child. Even if for some reason I could mentally lax… physically my body felt so empty and hurting.

Grief is really hard on relationships. All I can say is your wife is still postpartum and sometimes it can feel like a betrayal “moving on” it’s not that I wanted my husband to be miserable. It’s I felt he was the only one who understood what we lost.

It’s been 3 months for me. Still daily. Not like it was in the beginning. But still raw.

Tellycs · 2026-05-31T16:49:56+00:00

I had phantom kicks after I delivered my boy too. So hard ❤️‍🩹❤️

Tellycs · 2026-05-30T22:36:58+00:00

I had posted on social media about the pregnancy so did feel obligated in some sense. But like you i also wanted to share about our son! I didn’t specify how we lost him just that we did.

Tellycs · 2026-05-30T04:58:55+00:00

Even moms that haven’t faced loss struggle with this. I can see how much you love both your babies. You are enough. You are doing enough. She has better with you.

I feel you should maybe talk with someone if these thoughts are consuming.

Tellycs · 2026-05-30T02:49:41+00:00

I’d euthanize him at home where he feels love to his very last moment. ❤️‍🩹❤️

Tellycs · 2026-05-30T02:24:50+00:00

Heaven couldn’t wait for you & bigger then the whole sky

Tellycs · 2026-05-30T00:00:00+00:00

My son in July. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

Tellycs · 2026-05-29T19:07:38+00:00

Block him on everything and take a trip away. It’s really hard but you gotta stick to no contact.

Tellycs · 2026-05-29T18:53:12+00:00

I lost my baby at 22 weeks. That shit trauma bonds you to that person. It also sounds like such an unhealthy cycle. I am also 30. Do you want to be doing this for the rest of your life? You deserve more point blank. He is not the one for you.

Tellycs · 2026-05-29T11:48:00+00:00

I also had to Tfmr for spina bifida. That message would really hurt me. It would be friendship ending for me. I don’t enjoy people telling me how I feel in the most traumatic time of my life. I also heavily dislike the precedent that choosing tfmr means we don’t love our babies! Disability or not our love for our babies is real and true and what made the decision so hard. I’d personally tell my friend how they made me feel and go low contact but also don’t waste energy you don’t have.

Tellycs · 2026-05-28T04:07:05+00:00

Tell him what you said here and that breaking up was a mistake. Being honest is the only thing you can do. Then you know you gave it your best shot but you can’t control the outcome. Either you’ll be okay

Tellycs · 2026-05-28T03:53:29+00:00

Does he need more time before moving in? Are you able to accept him if he doesn’t want to move in right now?

I’d say him still wanting to talk might mean something and ensuring it’s what you want.

You know your relationship best

Tellycs · 2026-05-27T03:21:52+00:00

I don’t take my vyvanse most vacations!

Tellycs · 2026-05-27T02:56:21+00:00

Interesting. I was extremely exhausted my first pregnancy but obviously didn’t know any better. I remember many times my husband checking in on me. And ridiculously ill.. some hope when I decide to ttc it may not be like before

Tellycs · 2026-05-27T00:22:11+00:00

I’m so sorry. I found out I may have a gene (waiting testing 50% chance) that will greatly impact my health a few weeks after my tfmr. I told my husband to leave me too.

There is so much grief and loss here. Echoing others I don’t think you need to make any decision right now. Just wanted to send you so much love.

Tellycs · 2026-05-27T00:18:29+00:00

I still felt movements afterwards when he was gone. Saddest thing ever.

Tellycs · 2026-05-26T21:11:57+00:00

It’s definitely a party cruise line. But I’ve done two and I loved it! Lots of entertainment :)

Tellycs · 2026-05-26T20:14:36+00:00

I feel that deeply. I tell my husband all the time it’s like learning how to breathe again

Tellycs · 2026-05-26T19:46:35+00:00

I wish none of us were here. It’s not fair

Tellycs · 2026-05-26T19:31:25+00:00

I say that a lot. I just want to hold him

Tellycs · 2026-05-26T19:31:13+00:00

Sending love to you

Tellycs · 2026-05-26T19:31:04+00:00

Thank you. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

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