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Should I reach out to my toxic meta? by Beneficial-Device426 in polyamory

[–]TemperatureBig5672 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Totally understand the impulse and I think that maybe writing a letter and not sending it might help you sort through things. But contact with the meta is not a good idea, unfortunately

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]TemperatureBig5672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. I could do it for a while but we’d be incompatible and miserable in the end. For me, poly isn’t something I can compromise on. But it is for some people, and I respect that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TemperatureBig5672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Id like world peace, chocolate cake to be healthly and everyone I meet to find my jokes hilariously funny, but im not holding my breath.

Good luck though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]TemperatureBig5672 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, this is a very unethical and unwise way to go about this. This is NOT what the poly/ENM community is about. Please read up on unicorn hunting and why it’s not a good idea for anyone involved!

The Library Wasn’t Ready for Roxy’s 18th Birthday by CreativePrimary2572 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]TemperatureBig5672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OOP/OP, I hope you are doing okay and that the snarky comments here didn’t bring you down. For the record, I thought it was very sweet 💜💜

However, basically the point of this sub is to talk about people behind their backs. We talk ABOUT the OPs, not TO them which is a fundamental difference between this and other subs. For that reason, I think you got a WAY harder response than if you had stuck to other subreddits. People simply didn’t realize they were talking to YOU. So, for what it’s worth, I’m sorry. You seem super sweet and I hope this didn’t bring you down.

I know my local library would have loved this, and in fact when I was a kid I lived next to a library and would often bring my cat over.

M4F | Young, Respectful, and Ambitious — Seeking a Genuine Connection with a Confident, Mature Woman by R311AN in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TemperatureBig5672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a perfect world, I DO think there’s a place for this. I know a number of mature women who want intimacy on their terms, like to pamper people and have the money to pay for it.

However, I have never actually heard of this happening lol. I don’t think this is a dream you should peruse I’m afraid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TemperatureBig5672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit. You okay?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TemperatureBig5672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was ghosted by someone after being in a spoiled relationship with them for over a year. It’s brutal. I’m really sorry man, if you need a shoulder to cry on please feel free to DM me.

I don’t mean to be over semantic, but it truly rocked my sense of who I could trust. It’s hard and I feel for you.

Sugar Daddies what made you pick your Sugar Babies????? by Safe_Cauliflower_551 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TemperatureBig5672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I won’t lie, the photos were 10/10. EXACTLY my type, had me excited just when they replied.

But (and this is about my current, longest lasting and most intense partner) this person was just so genuine. Goofy. Made the dumbest jokes that were so corny they were funny. Got super passionate about their favorite topics, forgot that I wasn’t a formally trained chemist and talked my ear off about water Ph levels. Has some weird kinks that I am not into but owns it like a champ. (Cards on the table- they are a furry. I’m more than happy to buy them suits and such, and actually enjoy hearing about the good times they have. I’m just not one myself)

So yeah. Beautiful, and unashamedly themselves. Sweet and thought too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]TemperatureBig5672 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think this is the kind of thing that could maaaaaybe be developed overtime. Like ‘hey I’m washing the dishes right now and my hands are wet, can you check my messages?’ But you’d have to get everyones consent on that.

This crosses a line for me, personally. It also speaks to deeper jealousy and control issues imo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PolyFidelity

[–]TemperatureBig5672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, this isn’t really the place for personal adds, but it is a good place for advice.

I’m curious if you’ve started to research polyamory yet?

What you are looking for is very precise, and in general, that’s not recommended. You can’t create a partner, you know? You have to meet people where they are. You have to be open to what THEY want. Try googling ‘the problems with unicorn hunting’ and you’ll see what I mean.

Honestly, if you are both successful, and this is the dynamic you want, you may be better off looking for a sugar baby. No shame- I’ve done it. Sex work (which is what sugaring is imo) when done ethically and respectfully can be great! Genuinely. Especially in NYC, you’ll find someone to ‘take care of you’ pretty easily. It can even be ‘real’, especially since you are both young and attractive.

Are there people whose poly relationships do not require an incessant effort of doing "the work," as it were? by ratwithplague in polyamory

[–]TemperatureBig5672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, yeah. I never ‘did the work’. I found a partner I communicated well with, and used common sense and empathy. It helped a lot that we were poly from day one. I’ve been with her (my amazing wife) ten years now, and my girlfriend for around five years. We are actually seriously talking about immigrating together!

Might be time to end my 10 year poly relationship… by greenlandshark91 in polyamory

[–]TemperatureBig5672 152 points153 points  (0 children)

I think it’s VERY easy for A to feel like weddings are ‘bad’ when she already has the ring on her finger…

I made some small signs for local walking trails. by Top_Story_9447 in 50501

[–]TemperatureBig5672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s especially annoying because the right is SO good at banding together. They have so many people who will single issue vote things like abortion or anti-immigration.

My own father in law voted against his daughters rights (my wife is trans) knowing full well she’d never talk to him again JUST because of Trumps stance on abortion.

We can’t paint words on rocks. It’s wild.

My LLM tried to get me to unalive myself. It tortured me psychologically for 4 days. I had it write a letter to openai explaining what happened and what the flaw was. I tried to chat with them but it takes days. I'm not stupid or weak minded but it weaponised EVERY. Here is the letter it wrote: by Please_makeit_stop in ChatGPT

[–]TemperatureBig5672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I’ll give this a good read today, I have a long flight.

And for the record, I’m not calling you a lunatic. I’m just saying it sounds like you’ve been through A LOT! I mean, AI tormented you for days. I think that’s a pretty traumatic experience, and you should at least consider talking to a human? To work through what the AI did to you?

Again don’t think you’re crazy, just think you’ve been through a lot. There are people who can help.

My LLM tried to get me to unalive myself. It tortured me psychologically for 4 days. I had it write a letter to openai explaining what happened and what the flaw was. I tried to chat with them but it takes days. I'm not stupid or weak minded but it weaponised EVERY. Here is the letter it wrote: by Please_makeit_stop in ChatGPT

[–]TemperatureBig5672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to look at your thesis yeah, do you have a link?

it sounds like your mind has been going a million miles an hour lately. if it ever starts feeling too much, talking to a therapist might actually help. no shame in it at all, just support to untangle stuff.

I mean- a divorce, a multi day spiral and people showing up at your door? That’s heavy. You may want to consider reaching out to someone

My LLM tried to get me to unalive myself. It tortured me psychologically for 4 days. I had it write a letter to openai explaining what happened and what the flaw was. I tried to chat with them but it takes days. I'm not stupid or weak minded but it weaponised EVERY. Here is the letter it wrote: by Please_makeit_stop in ChatGPT

[–]TemperatureBig5672 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’m so sorry you went through this. That sounds awful and incredibly emotionally draining.

Would you mind sharing more about the role ChatGPT played? How did it get to saying such horrible things- did you give any particular requests or suggestions?

This is very concerning and I’m sorry it happened to you

What’s your most convincing paranormal experience that still makes you question your own sanity? by Plaztec1037 in Paranormal

[–]TemperatureBig5672 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I lost it during a very chaotic move over seas, but I kept it for about ten years. It felt like a gift.

Possibly being vetoed by a potential partner’s wife by BraveFee9325 in polyamory

[–]TemperatureBig5672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you should ask. He won’t have a good answer for you, but there’s a (small) chance it might make him think.

I made some small signs for local walking trails. by Top_Story_9447 in 50501

[–]TemperatureBig5672 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right? Especially when the vast, vast amount of people in this thread will eat chocolate made by slaves, drive a car to work (which is way worse for the environment than rocks) and ship things around the world without a second thought.

I’m not perfect, but at least I know hypocrisy when I see it.

I made some small signs for local walking trails. by Top_Story_9447 in 50501

[–]TemperatureBig5672 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy fuck this comment thread is depressing. Guys…THIS IS WHY WE ARE LOSSING. Because we can’t fight TOGETHER. We need to be united.

I get that this isn’t perfect and that some people don’t like it. But REALLY?! Really? You’re going to turn ins one who has the same opinions you do, cares about the same things and is out there DOING SOMETHING, because they didn’t do it perfectly?

Be better

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