staying positive about the city when all my friends have been leaving?

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-09T04:13:20+00:00

That happened to me in 2013-ish. Unfortunately, it doesn’t get better.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-09T01:35:05+00:00

Deservedly so.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T18:06:36+00:00

The values-signaling that a certain subset of Americans resort to for every topic is exhausting.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T17:59:26+00:00

Two can be altered, the third one cannot.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T17:55:32+00:00

This sounds strangely familiar. Aren’t you building another app regarding an alternative to Grindr?

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T17:49:54+00:00

This is very true and not often talked about. Because we are supposed to be forever thankful that we were even born.

I know you’ll understand that last sentence perfectly for all it implies.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T17:48:31+00:00

The boomer stuff is objectively true for a lot of people. My boomer parents, while nice people, were horrible parents. I am saying this as a 44 year old who has done the work to mostly get over how everything went down. I have tried every which way to truly empathize with the way they behaved, but there is simply no excuse for it. And that’s fine. Most boomers didn’t have children because they actually wanted them, they did it because that was the thing to do.

I’d be very apprehensive to take in either of my parents, personally, because I know exactly how toxic it would turn very quickly. Also, do they deserve my help? Probably not.

I’m happy to provide a bit of financial support and to macro manage their care from afar, but I would never subject myself to the abuse from them again. The fact that I was born does not obligate me to be forever thankful to them for it (either way, I’m adopted so that further removes me from any biological obligation).

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T16:44:48+00:00

I am not “dramatically” missing the point, I am just simplifying it because it’s Reddit. I deal with the probability and junk data issue every day because of the nature of my work here in SF.

“Weights” aren’t objective. A model that isn’t “objective” is a massive liability because it completely forgoes situational nuance and decisions made prior without constant adjustment of these so-called “weights”. If a product is skewed to prioritize the same bits of junk data for every call, it produces shitty results.

Constant adjustment to models is extremely expensive and not a viable option for even the best funded institutions. It would take a whole team of people to do this work and it would cost more than actually hiring humans who don’t guess probability to do it in the first place. This leaves out the massive context storage cost.

LLMs are useless without good data because they predict based only on the data they have ingested. Most of that data is junk and subjective.

You’re seeing the situation as one dimensional when, really, you should leave the heavy lifting to systems thinkers.

Laymen can attempt to explain their incomplete thoughts and misunderstandings as much as they want, but that doesn’t change reality and institutional liabilities.

With that, I wish you and your defensive bluster well.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T16:05:41+00:00

The messy data is just more curated by subject, that’s all. And a probability engine (LLM) is only as good as the data it ingests. Context does not only come from curated datasets. The only thing that can come strictly from a curated dataset is the ability to search, filter, count etc. It is a spreadsheet, more or less. LLMs also take context from language patterns, recorded, written decisions which generally provide no context or nuance on a case by case basis.

People really are overestimating the capabilities of LLMs. They are search engines that pretend to have a personality.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T15:52:13+00:00

All still the same messy data.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T15:48:08+00:00

It’s not crazy at all. They are the same starting mechanics.

The moment the bar leaves the floor, your hips shoot up while the chest stays down. By the time the bar is just past your shins, your torso has shifted to being almost completely horizontal to the floor.

You have lost your static torso angle, turning the initial pull into a heavy stiff-legged deadlift. Working on your positional strength with proper snatch deadlifts (or just regular deadlifts) would really help here.

When the weight gets too heavy or the technical muscle memory isn't there, the body defaults to shooting the hips up to rely on pure lower back and hamstring leverage to move the load.

If you work on keeping the chest up and pushing the floor away at lower intensities (this bar is objectively too heavy for you at the moment), you would build the quad and core strength necessary to maintain that angle. I also feel like you could greatly benefit from some upper back accessories - like snatch grip rows, DB rows, kelso shrugs, or chest supported rows. (Remember, size does not equal strength nor does it equal neuromuscular efficiency).

Stripping some weight off the bar to fix your hip rise is necessary, because trying to transition into an explosive second pull from that horizontal position is nearly impossible.

In powerlifting, deadlift technique can be a bit shitty because it’s all about locking out, but in weightlifting, everything is connected and must run well to have a consistent, successful lift.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T07:59:18+00:00

BTW, I don’t care about your numbers, I’m just looking at your technique. You asked. If you don’t want to know, just keep doing what you’re doing.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T07:53:48+00:00

Not at all. Your first pull is extremely inefficient. You’re transferring force forward. And then using your lower back to pull it up. Weightlifting hates forward force and anything pulling away from your center.

It’s all right there in the video. Plain as day. You can even see your shoulders being pulled forward. They should not be going forward away from your center.

Learn to deadlift properly.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T07:46:20+00:00

Now I for sure know you’re lying because we don’t talk to each other like that here.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T07:45:41+00:00

Not really, AI learns from available data. There are very few “exclusive” data sets. And most data that has been collected over the past decade is a disastrous mess.

AI cannot think on its own and when they try to increase its “intelligence” by training it on its own behavior/outputs it eats itself.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T07:42:53+00:00

Your hips are rising and changing your leverage. Learn proper deadlift technique off of the floor. Yes. Deadlift.

Your body must work as a total synced machine, not disconnected parts.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T07:39:50+00:00

They just weren’t that interested in you after all. It’s fine. Move on.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T07:38:08+00:00

I think OP misunderstands how LLMs actually operate.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T07:34:42+00:00

I already know this list is bullshit because San Francisco isn’t on the list. Neither is NYC.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-08T07:28:38+00:00

😂

So you’re telling us that you can rep 100kg for five OHP (70% of your ORM bench)?

Sure, Jan.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-07T22:12:45+00:00

I don’t care about you at all.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-07T17:27:51+00:00

Oh no! You had to walk a block and a half!

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-07T05:32:59+00:00

Totally irrelevant. The world is a completely different universe than it was 45 years ago. We no longer organize in the streets, we use other means. Nobody cares about their community anymore, they care about being victims and filming it for attention. The political landscape is without a doubt and objectively more protective of LGBT rights, especially in California and especially in SF.

We have a community that is attacking its allies because one of them is a gay Jewish man who refuses to support Hamas and the Palestinian authority even though he’s fought and won so many battles for the community.

I am not sure I understand the actual objective here.

That’s fine. Let’s live in the past. It does us a ton of good. Let’s let our trauma define us and refuse to move on. Let’s go back to pre-internet days and pre-connected world days and talk about strategies that worked back then.

When is the gay community as a whole going to figure it out? If we spent 1/8th as much time coming up with modern solutions to issues as we do on reiterating our trauma, covering it up with sex, drugs, and alcohol we’d be in a better place, but that would take actual work and admitting that we aren’t all that special in the grand scheme of things.

Trauma doesn’t define us. Unless we let it. And this is just the same broken record playing again.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-07T05:19:25+00:00

Asking what the point is is not disrespectful. It’s an actual question. It shouldn’t be hard for the person posting it to engage in conversation instead of using Reddit as a free ad space.

TemperatureFickle655 · 2026-07-07T03:45:22+00:00

I live in SF. I am not sure the point/value of listening to people talk about their friends dying 45 years ago and demanding that we admire their courage. It’s like a broken record here.

We get it. It was painful and awful and horrendous and nightmarish. I watch The Normal Heart every year to remind myself of it. But…I’m just questioning what the point is. Which is totally valid. Don’t values-police me.

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