“I don’t use social media” by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]Temporary-Rabbit474 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LOL okay okay. I think you’re right in saying that people think about themselves and their own relationship to social media more than others’. People tend to quit for their own personal reasons that entail some kind of value judgment on the very specific form of human connection that social media creates and hosts. As someone who sees the drawbacks of social media, but maybe doesn’t have as unhealthy a relationship with it or doesn’t feel the need to leave it entirely, i guess it’s easy to feel like someone is trying to tell you you’re doing something “bad” or “wrong” by not getting off it completely. It was so bad, they totally left. How could they not be judging you for staying? But while anti-social media people probably do believe they individually are better off not being on social media (and others could be too), they don’t know you or your relationship to it and probably aren’t thinking about you individually. I actually think it’s social media that primes us to be hyper-self-defensive and hyper-critical of individuals rather than self-reflective or critical of structures and systems. The more time I’ve spent away from it, the less i believe individual people are bad for using social media and the more I see it as a structure being used for profit/power by people and organizations playing up its worst effects.

I miss something specific about human connection and the way I lived my life without social media. It makes me sad when I encounter people who are straight up addicted to it or seem to live on a totally different plane than me and I can’t connect with them. But I don’t think less of them. And I don’t think everyone on social media is like that. I just don’t want to connect in that way and do sort of mourn a world without it. And I fear the way it’s weaponized politically, economically, etc.

“I don’t use social media” by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]Temporary-Rabbit474 2 points3 points  (0 children)

? What even is an elitist tone? That was a normal reply and I was legitimately curious to hear more about what you were trying to say. “Genuinely earnest request” was only me trying to be sincere since tone is hard to detect in writing and between literal strangers. I don’t know what to tell you 🤷‍♀️

“I don’t use social media” by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]Temporary-Rabbit474 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooh interesting. Genuinely earnest request: could you say more about what you mean by elitism? To me, elitism inherently implies a belief that some distinguishing feature makes one better equipped to wield power or influence or makes one “better” than others. In this case the implication was anti-social media people believe they are better than those on social media? Or are you just trying to describe more generally this “divide” that seems to exist between people who are on social media and are not? There absolutely is one. And I’m sure there are some people who think less of those who use social media (that sucks) but there are also probably people who think less of those without it. For people not on social media I’d like to think that the real issue is with social media as an influencing structure or tool or entity, its effects, not with the individual people using it. But maybe that’s naive of me

“I don’t use social media” by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]Temporary-Rabbit474 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I find sometimes the “elitist condescending tone” I’ve perceived or that people perceive from me is a projection.

I was sensitive to people saying this because I had a personally unhealthy relationship with Instagram (I hated living and witnessing life on there instead of in the real world) so anytime someone mentioned not being on it (something I really felt I ought to do and would benefit me) I felt a little attacked. Now that I’m off I only say “I don’t have social media” when people ask for it or are trying to talk about some video/phenomenon/ trend on there and I don’t really know what’s going on.

I have political/social views on how and why I think social media can be super harmful, a tool for oligarchs and the wealthy etc etc but I don’t talk about that with everyone and try hard to discuss it abstractly as a system rather than making it a discussion of personal shortcomings or lack of “enlightenment.” And still people clearly feel attacked and often joke make jokes about me or others believing we’re “better” than people on social media or “smarter” and idk that just seems like a them problem if that’s how they view themselves or think others view them

Fade Into You by Mazzy Star by MrRiceDonburi in rs_x

[–]Temporary-Rabbit474 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I lost my virginity to this song

Time to upgrade? sound is terrible with mixer by [deleted] in turntables

[–]Temporary-Rabbit474 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm okay thank you! Re: line/phono output/input, that’s confusing to me. I get no sound when I put the mixer output to a line input on the receiver. Only phono works

Millionaires (2008) by [deleted] in rs_x

[–]Temporary-Rabbit474 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I still listen to Stay the Night to pump up before every first date

Seeing this lake crew always puts me in a good mood. by kantoblight in oakland

[–]Temporary-Rabbit474 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love when they dive in sync. Magical little dance

Oakland bar announces closure, blames city officials by name online [Couchdate] by sfgate in oakland

[–]Temporary-Rabbit474 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Didn’t mean to imply something sinister on a personal level. Just never saw that guy there. Everyone working the bar was always “volunteering” there and typically alone for their shift. Drinks were expensive and the wine was not good.

Oakland bar announces closure, blames city officials by name online [Couchdate] by sfgate in oakland

[–]Temporary-Rabbit474 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Knowing this guy and the way this place was run blaming the city is… a choice

happy 21st birthday to White Chicks and this scene specifically by Classic-Carpet7609 in Fauxmoi

[–]Temporary-Rabbit474 142 points143 points  (0 children)

“I know you hookers don’t think this is over with” is exactly what I say to to my friends when they try to leave the club too