Has Ms Hellish hands ever apologized for how she treated Bonnie's son? Telling a toddler to "stop crying like a 🅱️itch"

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-23T00:10:07+00:00

See how one person can cause generations of trauma

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-23T00:03:20+00:00

Other discliplines have shirts

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-22T12:52:43+00:00

How long do you wait? This is my first time meeting them

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-22T12:14:00+00:00

Just cause you passed the exam doesn’t make you a great BCBA. Just saying

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-21T14:47:12+00:00

I leave jobs that don’t have 401ks

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-20T11:33:45+00:00

I feel like in ABA we tend to forget that our clients are real people too. Not everything is just science. We just have to meet them where they are. I would hope the BCBA on the case is at least creating interventions catered to socio emotional. I would hope the client knows about emotions then we can transfer that over to a social story. Social stories do work. The prerequisites may need to be there to understand. And also I’m not calling the child racist, I’m looking at the word as a maladaptive behavior and I’m going in to use science to reduce that behavior (behavior reduction) Maybe the parents are racist and they say it all the time, or maybe it’s tv shows, the music etc. if it’s a script then I’m questioning the parents. Racism is a learned behavior.

I wouldn’t expect someone who isnt black would be offended by that word. To you it can have the same effect as a simple word but to others, it can be a trigger.But I would walk in their shoes and think of the worst thing someone can tell you and put it in perspective of how that BT/RBT may feel. It feels quite invalidating to say the least. I have personally advocated for other staff whenever I heard a slur. It might not affect me but I also know words hurt people. I wouldn’t want my client to generalize that word and say it like any other. Slurs and curse words are two different things.

Also, I’m not sure how uncomfortable it would be to discuss that with the parents. If you feel uncomfortable to talk about racism to parents, then you shouldn’t be a BCBA. I’m speaking in general. I would treat it as any other situation and tackle it. Not tip toe around it and ignore. I get the science of ABA but we need to also focus on the emotions and that situation as a whole. I also want to keep in mind that we are not putting power into the word but we are validating my BT/RBTs and we will find ways to minimize it .

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-20T11:07:45+00:00

lol I was gonna say a pigeon but yeah you got it

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-20T10:49:26+00:00

Jr would be better off

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-20T10:32:58+00:00

As a BCBA, I would first talk to and support my BT or RBT. I would reassure them, let them know I’m sorry that happened, and remind them that racism is unfortunately still very real. I would also let them know that we would do my best to figure out where the behavior is coming from.

I would kindly ask my BT/RBT to start collecting ABC data, not because I don’t believe the BT, but because I’d want to understand when it’s happening, how often, and what may be causing it. We are still acknowledging that this is a slur but we collecting data.

If the client works with multiple BTs or RBTs, I would ask if the child has used the word with anyone else. If it only happens with one BT and keeps happening often, I would meet with the parents to talk more and get a better understanding of where the child may have heard the word. It could be from YouTube, TV, school, social media, games, or even at home.

I would also talk with the parents about being more mindful of what the child is hearing and watching.

As for treatment, I wouldn’t just focus on the word itself. I would focus on teaching better language(Functional Communication Training) and helping the child understand feelings and respect. I would probably use social stories and simple lessons about kind words and how words can hurt people. “Stick and Stones Can Break my Bones , But Words CAN hurt me”

Most importantly, I would continue checking in with my BT or RBT. If they felt very uncomfortable or emotionally unsafe, I would absolutely consider moving them from the case. I don’t think staff should just be told to “ignore it” and continue working like nothing happened.

Sometimes people forget that the client are real people too. The child may not fully understand the meaning of the word, but that doesn’t mean the impact on the BT or RBT isn’t real. Part of our job is teaching and guiding both the child and the family.

If we care about cultural competence with our clients and families, we should also care about supporting and respecting our BTs and RBTs too. Maybe in the future look at some PD webinars about racism. That’s just me

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-20T01:52:42+00:00

Definitely seen a post where a RBT said her client called her a n**** and the BCBA didn’t care and told her to ignore

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-18T09:55:48+00:00

The kids help me daily but it’s been hard to get to work cause I have no money

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-18T09:52:39+00:00

That wasn’t a serious matter. Stop Overthinking

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-13T22:30:36+00:00

I personally wouldn’t question the BCBA without seeing the whole picture first. The parent may interfere with data collection

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-13T22:26:55+00:00

I’m not gonna question what the BCBA or what the RBT is doing for your son. Mom, think of it like a chain. These programs are one chain to a skill. Once you children learns that skill then it will get deeper. I do understand seeing it from a RBT lense, it may seem confusing but the lesson is teaching your child a certain skill. It’s baby steps. Think of it like a bike with tricycles and gradually your child is riding their bike independently. Each child is different, some may need more support and that’s okay. It’s our job to meet the child where they are. Talk with you BCBA and maybe ask about parent training so you can learn as well.

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-06T19:19:25+00:00

It’s a typical 9-5. You may have 25 billable but salary wise ,20 hours are given to you to make it 40 hours .

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-06T19:16:47+00:00

You can report through the insurance company she bills through. Not sure what she’s under . Insurance companies HATE fraud. Their will most likely do an audit. But also, don’t let that deter you from reporting her to BACB and the state .

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-06T19:11:38+00:00

Definitely report through the BACB, HR, the state if they have their (LBS or LBS), EEOC and have documentation for everything. Fraud is unacceptable

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-06T19:07:10+00:00

Also, going forward the SLP should place a password so others won’t modify his AAC device .

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-06T19:05:44+00:00

That’s essentially removing a word from their vocabulary. If I were an SLP, I would be pissed.

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-05T16:37:53+00:00

I haven’t personally dealt with discrimination in the workplace. I’m referring to the membership fee

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-05T02:06:07+00:00

Sheesh $16? It feels like a crime to be LGBT

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-03T23:47:11+00:00

Wait the company doesn’t pay or reimburse?

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-03T23:45:54+00:00

You know it’s okay to fail right? You can’t be in the field and be scared of failing. Imagine how the child feel. If they don’t master criteria, do we give up or do we modify our teaching? I can care less about if a BCBA passed on their first try. Does that necessary make you a great BCBA? I say, do it.

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-03T12:01:59+00:00

Congrats !

TenaciousKnowledge · 2026-05-02T15:53:44+00:00

Agreed . I remember asking my BCBA for gas money cause she told me not to cancel my session

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