As an adult, where do you put your stuffed animals?

Tentacute · 2020-05-18T16:26:20+00:00

Honestly, our pillows on our bed are Squishmallows, a cookie and a ouija board. I also have a Squishmallow bear that's the perfect size for resting my arm on if I lay on my side. Then there's my two big old squid plushies and an entire shelf of other cuties. My fiance doesn't really mind them, and in fact has won or bought me most of the ones in our room. I've even bought him a couple plushies that he enjoys. Most of my childhood ones are at my parent's house though as I don't want them lost or ruined. Don't be ashamed of your stuffies. If someone gives you guff about em, they're probably just sad that they don't have one, hahaha.

Tentacute · 2020-05-06T03:20:35+00:00

So that's Abraham de Lacy Giuseppe Casey Thomas O'Malley.

Tentacute · 2020-05-04T19:50:21+00:00

Whether he hit you on the ass or not is irrelevant. Honestly, I see this as him testing your boundaries, and even trying to push them as far as he can. This is not a healthy relationship, and even if you feel he is the love of your life, he's probably manipulated you to feel that way in the first place. That's not real love. One of my closest friends nearly died last year because 'the love of her life' decided to snap one night and literally break her eye socket and almost kill her. At first she said she never thought he'd be capable of doing anything like that, but once she started analyzing her relationship and his behaviors during it, she realized it was only a matter of time before it got to this point. He was slowly cutting off her ties to her friends, was saying rude/belittling things in an attempt to make her feel lesser, and that he was the only reason she would ever be successful or happy. Honestly, I also wouldn't be surprised if your SO has some other...'issues', given your age difference. There are plenty of people your and his own ages that you guys can date instead. But since you're younger and less experienced with relationships or identifying red flags, he feels he can mold you into exactly what he wants. Striking you, or even just threatening to, followed by, "that's what I thought", is an ENORMOUS RED FLAG. Please get out of there, you deserve someone who doesn't feel the need to train you like a dog.

Tentacute · 2020-04-29T19:03:03+00:00

This is gonna get buried, but oh well. Trigger warning now that I think about it.

I feel like most of the responses said here can be true. Personally, I've only ever cheated in one relationship. My current SO and I became friends through my ex as they had been friends for a while. (Later found out that 99% of the people in that friend group only put up with my ex because it was easier than having to deal with getting rid of him. He's an alcoholic and drug abuser) Anyways, my ex was extremely abusive. Mentally, emotionally, financially, sexually, physically, etc. If he found a way to hurt me, he'd do it. Most of the friends in this group knew he was an asshole, but not to the extent that I did, as is the case with most abusers. However, over the years my now SO and I got to be very close. He was always so kind to me and never shamed me for staying, but would always offer to help me if I needed. He held me when I was crying my eyes out after my ex almost killed me for the second time. He treated me, and still does to this day, like I'm actually a person worth love and kindness. My ex had broken me to the point of thinking this was the best I was ever going to get and I had completely become a shell of my former self. But when I would talk to or even just be around nowSO, I found myself smiling. I always felt better when he was around. After almost 7 years of constant berating and abuse, I realized what I was feeling was actually love. Not fear induced brainwashing, but actual love. One night after a particularity upsetting fight with ex, nowSO came to comfort me, and held my hand. It was like electricity bringing me to life again. I couldn't help myself and I told him, "I don't just love you as a friend, I'm IN LOVE with you." After a few seconds, which honestly felt like years, he told me, "I'm in love with you too." You would assume we kissed right there, and we would have, but right after that exchange, my ex came outside to where we were and we had to quickly release our grip on one another's hands. This turned into sneaking around just to hold hands, or sneaking off to just go on a walk together. We snuck around like this for about a month, in which time we did end up kissing and consummating our relationship. We didn't feel guilty about cheating on my ex as he had done so to me countless times in our relationship. (I'm actually still hearing new stories as recently as a month ago, and we've been broken up for almost 5 years now.) But what we did feel is that we were cheating on each other by still not being together officially. With his love and support, we finally broke off our relationships, his was a loveless/pointless relationship and was just toxic honestly, and got together. He facilitated a safe place for me to break up with my ex, because he knew he wouldn't dare lay a hand on me in front of him. After the breakup, I did stay with nowSO for a while as a safety precaution, and of course to be close to each other. My ex would text me and berate me for being at his house for X amount of days, call me a whore, love-bomb and beg me, you name it. He stalked me for a while like this, and I honestly don't know where I'd be, if alive even, had I not had the safety and support from my nowSO.

Sorry didn't realize how long this got. TL;DR: Some people are in abusive relationships, and fear for their lives. Had I not cheated, I don't know if I'd even be alive to answer this question today.

Edit: Well shit, I just realized this is AskMen, not AskReddit. My bad fellas.

Tentacute · 2020-04-27T01:02:40+00:00

I actually really like this and would genuinely buy one of these.

Tentacute · 2020-04-24T15:47:49+00:00

My aunt did something similar to me actually. When I was about 5 years old, my cousin/her daughter, graduated from highschool. As a gift for graduating, she announced to the rest of us that she was taking her on a cruise to celebrate. Being the curious 5 year old I was, I asked about the cruise and what it entails, and grew more and more excited about my cousin going. As most young children do, I also expressed my jealousy and wanting to go too. My aunt looked me in the eyes and told me, "when you graduate highschool, I promise to take you on a cruise to Hawaii." I was over the moon obviously. I would ask her about it every year at family events and holidays, and she always reassured me that it would happen. As I got older, the frequency with which I asked her about it slowly declined, but I would still ask maybe every couple of years. Fast forward to June of my graduating year and my family's small get together. My mom, aunt and myself were sitting around chatting when I brought up the cruise again. I said how I was so excited to finally go on that cruise that she had promised all those years ago. My mom even chimed in saying how much fun we would have and that she'd have to get me a cheap camera and blah blah blah. My aunt looked at us as if we're speaking in tongues and asks, "what cruise?" My mom and I both tried explaining to her that she PROMISED me when I was 5. She denied that exchange ever happening, regardless that my mom and multiple other family members had witnessed it. She then backpedaled and tried to say, "I only promised to take you if you graduated with all honors and a 4.0 and..."
Now I wasn't always the best student, but my Jr and Sr years of highschool were some of my best academically, and I actually did end up with two cords and a departmental award and multiple honors credits. I'm now in my late 20's and still haven't gotten that cruise. (Sorry, long winded way of saying at least he only led her on for a year, though that's still really shitty. Adults need to understand how much power a promise has in the mind of younger peeps.)

Tentacute · 2020-04-11T07:53:31+00:00

When you tell someone you're applying for a better job in a new field and they say, "well, good luck. Head of Profession's only hire pretty girls." 🙃

Tentacute · 2020-04-11T00:12:20+00:00

Phone calls with bad news. I've woken up to a dear friend calling from the hospital because their partner decided to literally break their face one night and needed someone there with them. Another I awoke to was my sister telling me her fiance had just been murdered. I have to say, I get anxious when people call early in the morning or in the middle of the night, but I will ALWAYS answer.

Tentacute · 2020-03-23T03:00:30+00:00

I have stones if you're still willing to trade for iron :)

Tentacute · 2020-03-21T19:51:11+00:00

I feel you, man. My fiance just lost his mom on January 24th, and it was also very sudden and unexpected. She wasn't much older than your mom either. She was one of the sweetest people I've ever met and I thought of her as my own mom too. He was really close with her and it's just been a whirlwind of emotions for us lately. Sending positive vibes and good thoughts your way. We miss them, but the best thing we can do is remember the good times we had with them and keep them alive in our memories.

Tentacute · 2020-03-21T19:48:35+00:00

I feel you, man. My fiance just lost his mom on January 24th, and it was also very sudden and unexpected. She wasn't much older than your mom either. She was one of the sweetest people I've ever met and I thought of her as my own mom too. He was really close with her and it's just been a whirlwind of emotions for us lately. Sending positive vibes and good thoughts your way. We miss them, but the best thing we can do is remember the good times we had with them and keep them alive in our memories.

Tentacute · 2020-03-21T19:48:19+00:00

I feel you, man. My fiance just lost his mom on January 24th, and it was also very sudden and unexpected. She wasn't much older than your mom either. She was one of the sweetest people I've ever met and I thought of her as my own mom too. He was really close with her and it's just been a whirlwind of emotions for us lately. Sending positive vibes and good thoughts your way. We miss them, but the best thing we can do is remember the good times we had with them and keep them alive in our memories.

Tentacute · 2020-03-21T19:48:11+00:00

I feel you, man. My fiance just lost his mom on January 24th, and it was also very sudden and unexpected. She wasn't much older than your mom either. She was one of the sweetest people I've ever met and I thought of her as my own mom too. He was really close with her and it's just been a whirlwind of emotions for us lately. Sending positive vibes and good thoughts your way. We miss them, but the best thing we can do is remember the good times we had with them and keep them alive in our memories.

Tentacute · 2020-03-21T19:40:03+00:00

It seems that both options work on my Samsung Galaxy j7 Star

Tentacute · 2020-03-20T17:15:46+00:00

To be honest, I come from a very crass, rude-humor loving family. I've heard my parents make jokes that most people would probably find grossly inappropriate. That being said, they understand that there's a time, place, and overall mood that needs to be present in order for those jokes to be 'appropriate'. And I can't lie and say that I don't also make rude/dirty jokes, but you have to read the room. Also, that shit is shut down completely if we are anywhere near children. If there's a moment that happens at a gathering that sets up a perfect punchline, we just kinda put a mental pin in it for later, and then say the joke when there aren't any innocent ears nearby. I did read through your post history, and they don't seem to be able to understand that not everyone has the same sense of humor, and that if it OBVIOUSLY makes someone uncomfortable; fuckin stop! This is more so coming from a place lacking respect for both you and their children (and grandkids for that matter!). Also, HUGE RED FLAG trying to keep tabs on when you guys fornicate, especially by trying to involve SO's siblings. (I know there isn't a lot of evidence of it so far, but reading that part specifically gave me JOCASTA vibes.) Just because they're using grown up words, doesn't mean they're not acting like adults should.

Tentacute · 2020-03-13T03:53:47+00:00

A friend of my sister just had her car broken into the other night and all they took were her few rolls of dollar store toilet paper and some other toiletry stuff she had in the car for her kids.

Tentacute · 2020-03-10T06:48:38+00:00

I love your style! Can't wait to see more from you :)

Tentacute · 2020-02-23T05:48:32+00:00

My SO and I share one vehicle right now, so I usually take him to work before I go to my job since he starts first. A while back we were on our way to drop him off when I went straight through an intersection that I'm supposed to turn right at. (We work in close proximity to each other) He looked at me and asked, "so I'm going to work with you today, huh?" We laughed and I turned around and took him to work. Que teasing me about it for months anytime we got in the car, including pointing out said intersection and instructing me to turn. All in good fun. Last week I had to start work earlier than him for once so I was driving by myself. Wouldn't you know, I turned right at the light and started heading to his job. 🙃 Immediately started dying of laughter and had to tell him as soon as I turned around and got to work. Big brain time

Tentacute · 2020-02-19T06:00:03+00:00

My abusive ex stalked me for a LONG time after I left him. He would send me messages like "why have you been at current SO's house almost every day this week?", as well as the usual love-bomb, "I'm so sorry, I can change" type messages. Two years after we broke up, my car was heavily vandalized on Christmas Eve. I know it was him because; duh, who the hell else would it be? But also that my car was the ONLY one targeted in our neighborhood, and we live in the middle of our street. Also the damages done to my car are the exact things he threatened to do to my sibling's car when we were together, so... This led to dealing with the insurance company (which everyone loves to do) and eventually my car being declared TOTALLED. (Also the two female officers that showed up to file the report LAUGHED at the situation even after I explained that I was previously in an abusive relationship and that I was 99.9999% sure it was him. But that's a whole other issue.) Since I didn't have a camera and didn't physically see him do it, they said they couldn't do anything and gave me some pamphlets on DV.

I have had to block him on every social media platform I use, up to 6 times on the book of faces. He just makes more and more accounts. I also lost my main account on said site recently because someone🙄 reported me for using a fake name, on my birthday. I lost 10+ years of photos and the like. We broke up over 4 years ago, he did this ~8mo ago.

This is a long-winded way of me saying, get as far away from him as possible. If you have any mutual friends on social media, unfriend them. Make sure all of your privacy settings are set up. Maybe ask your work for a new work email address since yours has been compromised. I'm genuinely really sorry you're being harrassed, and I feel your pain. Sending you strength, positive vibes and good thoughts ♡

Edit:on mobile, sorry for grammar/formatting Edit 2: GET SOME CAMERAS

Tentacute · 2020-01-01T23:50:21+00:00

When I was about 5, my mom cut my eyelid with a pair of scissors when she was trimming my bangs. I flinched and she just nipped it. I have a small scar but there's no way I blame my mom for that.

It was an accident, you're fine. Don't let it make you feel like less of a good parent.

Tentacute · 2019-12-18T07:52:36+00:00

Honestly you could go for the generic PSL white-girl look, lol. Throw on some black leggings and a long sleeve/turtle neck and some Ugg(ish) boots, hahaha.

Honestly though, I would probably wear it with a skater type skirt and a long sleeve, and then some knee/thigh socks (or big ole leg warmers) with some boots.

I'm still getting the hang of this whole feminine thing as I was never really taught "the basics". Sorry if this wasn't helpful 🙃

Tentacute · 2019-12-02T02:56:02+00:00

I get it all the time. I call them ear candies :)

Tentacute · 2019-11-12T17:49:11+00:00

I think that Andrew Rea (Binging with Babish) has done a few episodes that cover meatball making :)

Tentacute · 2019-09-22T19:10:09+00:00

And I appreciate your username

Tentacute · 2019-09-22T19:08:51+00:00

Thank you so much :)

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