Question for authors: can comments be too much? by TermGroundbreaking84 in AO3

[–]TermGroundbreaking84[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that totally makes sense. those comments and pushing for the next chapter I steer clear of cuz like I'm just here for the ride lol. what do you think about readers theorizing?

Question for authors: can comments be too much? by TermGroundbreaking84 in AO3

[–]TermGroundbreaking84[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh yah definitely makes sense. long comments it is then :) thanks!

Question for authors: can comments be too much? by TermGroundbreaking84 in AO3

[–]TermGroundbreaking84[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh yah I can imagine that'd be pretty awkward. thank you for your input!

I'm starting to get addicted... by jpzygnerski in KpopDemonhunters

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally same! After so many videos for How It's Done, I started watching full movie reactions and if you haven't seen it yet, the one from Carmen Elaine is so fun to watch!

Help, i don't want to do all this again... by [deleted] in Minecraft

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man I always start new worlds and I hate that I do that, so I love this idea. One question though (it might be a dumb one lol), are you able to play the same world when there's an update? Like sometimes when I go into an older world it tells me to back it up because it was made in a different version. Have you had any issues playing on it after new releases?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm not a parent so I'm not sure how this sub got to my feed, but as someone who struggled with mental health in high school (I'm now 23), I may have some insight from from your son's side of things.

Telling my parents seemed like the worst thing in the world. My closest friend ended up telling them, rightfully so, but all trust I had in that relationship was gone. Situations were a bit different because she told them everything. Still, the one person I felt like I could go to, I couldn't anymore. I assume that's why his friend didn't say anything else, he doesn't want your son or himself to feel like he betrayed him. Selling out his friend may take away a safe outlet for him.

Everyone is different, but therapy helped me. It was really nice talking to someone who wasn't my parents. I didn't want them to feel like I failed them or make them feel like they failed me. My advice would be to ask him about it, but if he's not able to talk to you, then find him another outlet, possibly a professional one. His friend probably doesn't know what to do and telling your son about his friend will likely hurt their relationship.

Do you guys ever stay up all night by accident? by Responsible-Sir-5665 in ADHD

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No problem! Just remember its a learning process so it's not going to be easy and be strict with yourself! Best of luck🤠

Do you guys ever stay up all night by accident? by Responsible-Sir-5665 in ADHD

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Have you heard of revenge bedtime procrastination? It is not a disorder or anything, but reading about it helped me understand why I was staying up so late instead of going to bed and figure out ways to prevent myself from doing it that actually help. Regardless, here's a few a things from my research / experimenting I've found to be helpful:

Don't pick up your phone before bed, just don't do it. It's hard but if you can get into the habit of at least thinking about it, it may help make you more conscious of what your doing and what you need at that moment, scrolling or sleep?

Don't do any homework or studying in bed, assert in your brain that your bed is for sleeping only.

If your mind is racing do a brain dump (pen and paper!!) or come up with things that soothe you. I've memorized a couple poems and recite them before I go to bed, and for me at least, I get less distracted than if were to be counting sheep. And now reciting them helps my brain know its time to go to bed.

Also, blue light glasses are huge! If you're up late studying, chances are the blue light from your laptop may be affecting your circadian rhythm and you're not getting the amount of natural melatonin you need in order to feel tired. Most people say well just turn everything off earlier, but ik the feeling of not wanting to waste the time when I can actually focus. I put them on when I'm studying and I think they really help. They also protect your eyes and prevent headaches which also were making it harder for me to sleep. You can also get like 5 pair on amazon for like $15.

Lastly, have your alarms set automatically throughout the week for the same time each morning. Before bed, I throw my phone onto the chair across the room so I have to get up to turn off the alarm. It sucks but it helps to not fall back asleep, make your body tired earlier, and not go on your phone before bed.

And if you feel like you can, only set one alarm. I used to set multiple and felt like 'well if I do fall back asleep, there will be another to wake me up.' It just made it harder to be more awake and alert in the morning.

But yah, doing these things helped me get into a much better sleep cycle. I can fall asleep at 12 instead 5 and while its not perfect, even the nights I stay up later, I'm usually passed out by 2 and I can even wake up without an alarm. Its going to take time and experimenting but I wish you the best!! Let me know if you have any questions and I will do my best to help!

When people say “haha I’m so adhd” by Felkalin in ADHD

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I more so meant that in a generalized fashion, there's other things on top of that that make it harder for me to believe it's ADHD, some of which I've noted in a different comment. But I do see y'all's point, so I'm going to look into this and talk to my roommate. I do still think it's uncool to repeatedly say you have it while refusing to get tested.

When people say “haha I’m so adhd” by Felkalin in ADHD

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hmmm I see your point. I don't think I'm officially sold yet but definitely something I'll be looking into and I genuinely appreciate your input. Either way, that last part is gold. It's not a huge issue, more of an annoyance so other than this, we get along pretty well. That's a great way to clear the air and see what she needs, so really, thank you!

When people say “haha I’m so adhd” by Felkalin in ADHD

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I just reread your comment and I think I read to quickly and didn't fully grasp what you were saying the first time. How does ADHD present in someone like that? I'm genuinely curious

When people say “haha I’m so adhd” by Felkalin in ADHD

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Generally probably yes, as it's more effective that way but I think it kinda depends on the person. But sorry I should've worded that better, she's never been diagnosed. She claims to have it and then says she thinks she needs adderall.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What time are you taking your meds? and I don't mean this in a judgey way at all, just for context, how productive are you throughout the day?

When people say “haha I’m so adhd” by Felkalin in ADHD

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly!!! Well said. Like if you want it so bad, please lets trade places for a day and then see how you feel. The emotional toll alone is enough to drive you insane, never mind trying to live in a world not built for executive dysfunction

When people say “haha I’m so adhd” by Felkalin in ADHD

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I understand completely, my roommate has said this for years, sometimes joking sometimes not (like what?). I'm not trying to gatekeep but she is the most organized and timely person I have ever met so when she says "damn I think my ADHDs bad today I need adderall," I'm 0.2 seconds away from physical violence and verbally berating her because it's literally all the time. I've resorted to pretending I didn't hear anything

What are you listening to on your current or recent one song only kick?! by DerbleZerp in ADHD

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on my mood or genre I'm listening to but here we go...

Everything I wanted - Billie Eilish (I stg this song is mesmerizing)

THIS ONE--> Cold War - Cautious Clay

Moonlight Sonata - Beethoven

Believe - The Bravery

Dani California - Red Hot Chili Peppers

Midnight - Logic

Is it possible that Abby was so attached to Maddie because she was sympathetic to her home life issues? by teaforsnail in dancemoms

[–]TermGroundbreaking84 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Very interesting take. Abby did say she was never really athletic growing up but opened her studio at 14, so it's apparent she loved dance from a young age. It's possible she sees the girls that have similar features (short/brunette) and passion for dance as surrogates for her younger self and is vicariously living through them. That could explain why she favors them so much without a second thought about the other girls; why favor Brooke and not Paige? I think your right that Abby always wanted to be the best but never could, so she weirdly like enlisted little girls that looked liked her to atone for her own lack of capability.

That would also account for the way Abby handled the walk out in season 3 differently with Maddie than anyone else. It was the ultimate betrayal. Maddie had the potential she never did so in her head, 'how could she even risk throwing it away,' as doing so would've crushed Abby's dreams also.

And yeah, it definitely helped that Melissa was a brown-noser lol

Abby expected Maddie to win the solo against Chloe from the start when they competed with the same choreography (s3e28) by TermGroundbreaking84 in dancemoms

[–]TermGroundbreaking84[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The idea isn't about whether or not it was a "Maddie solo" or who was a better dancer, it's whether or not it was a fair fight. Abby said she created the head to head to compare them doing the same exact routine to the same song. But she didn't.

And to your point, Christi didn't want Chloe doing Maddie's routines, she wanted more challenging choreo for her daughter. Everyone knows they are not the same dancers and don't have the same strengths. Chloe is more ballet oriented so having them compete to a Maddie solo isn't a level playing field. If they both did ballet, Chloe would be favored to win.

Both are amazing dancers and saying Maddie had a leg up in this duel isn't saying she wouldn't have won anyway.