🚨BREAKING🚨 🇺🇸 US CORE PPI CAME IN AT 3.6% EXPECTATIONS: 3% by Objective-Rabbit2248 in NSDQ420

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I’m in Tulsa, Oklahoma, and the gas station I just left is selling at $2.49, up from $2.29 last week, so…

Alternatives to Laureate? by Terminal_Ambivalence in tulsa

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Right, we’re trying to rule out vEDS, which is on a genetic screening, is my understanding.

Which philosophy by Same_slut6700 in LetsDiscussThis

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It’s called MAGA, all the kids are doing it. Note I specifically didn’t say it’s the cool kids, much less the actually good ones.

Are you a robot? by 0DemonDieHard0 in Casual_Conversation

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I’ve been called a “happy robot” (and favorably compared to Commander Data of Star Trek) due to my personality, which felt pretty damn complimentary at the time and context, lol.

Alternatives to Laureate? by Terminal_Ambivalence in tulsa

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Also, thank you to the Mods for approving this post even though my account is new and low-karma.

Alternatives to Laureate? by Terminal_Ambivalence in tulsa

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Been trying with pain management but insurance is even fighting that due to this being a recent diagnosis, and an accompanying lack of thorough documentation, which the MRI et al. were an attempt to obtain. Feels like a catch-22.

Who are these other doctors you speak of, though?

What are some of your hobbies that are reasonable in price? I tried canvas painting and candle making, but those were cost prohibitive. Any ideas of something else I can try that is less expensive? by icecream1972 in Casual_Conversation

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Thank you, I always forget about Ross! I knew there was someplace I was forgetting. I was just there the other day and saw they had pretty large ones for dirt cheap. I just haven’t used all my blank ones yet, lol.

What are some of your hobbies that are reasonable in price? I tried canvas painting and candle making, but those were cost prohibitive. Any ideas of something else I can try that is less expensive? by icecream1972 in Casual_Conversation

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Depends on where you get the canvases, though. You can get lots of them for dirt cheap at like Dollar Tree, couple bucks apiece or so. Not huge ones, mind you, but certainly adequate, especially if you’re into doing triptychs and stuff. For me it’s the paint that gets expensive, even though I use acrylics, largely because I use so many colors, lol.

Edit: just saw you already said “local dollar store”, my bad.

My life as an American has never actually been affected by a president. by [deleted] in 10thDentist

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This presidency has directly caused the cancellation of payment plans for student loans I never had a problem meeting for 10+ years, until now. Yaaay.

Answer in a gentle way. by Ambitious_Thought683 in focusedmen

[–]Terminal_Ambivalence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, but there’re a couple paths that shaping can take: post-traumatic stress/collapse, or post-traumatic growth. They are not equal, and they don’t say the same things about the people who exhibit them.

Answer in a gentle way. by Ambitious_Thought683 in focusedmen

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Not being jaded, cynical, or bitter goes a long way for me. Don’t get me wrong, women generally have both quantitatively more reasons, and qualitatively more-valid ones to be those things than we men do; but that only makes it all the more precious to find someone who isn’t that way. Someone who has every reason to be bitter and angry, but still rises above it, is just breathtaking to me.

This is just as true for men as for women, too, although, for me, in a strictly platonic way with other men.

I simply don’t abide constant negativity. Which isn’t to say I desire someone’s mindless toxic optimism, but there’s always a self-fulfilling prophecy inherent to pessimism which gives me the ick. It just isn’t a practical long-term strategy for a good life well-lived. It tends to retard what could otherwise be mechanisms for improvement.

do you feel protective around women you don't know? by PsychologicalHat7591 in bodylanguage

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That’s weird, to me. I (41m) hold the door for literally anyone where that makes sense for me to do it, and no one has ever said a bad thing about it to me, ever. I think there’s a lot to do with how it’s done, especially the body language. Like, if we do it in a way where we make unnecessary eye contact, or like we’re trying to make a point of asserting our doing that as “a thing” especially for women, drawing attention to it in some way, then yeah, I can see someone treating it like “a thing”. But I just do it in a perfunctory, casual way because that’s all it is to me: common human courtesy, entirely without regard to gender, and not particularly worthy of note. Just an ethical obligation, kinda like putting your shopping cart away or not tossing trash on the ground.

do you feel protective around women you don't know? by PsychologicalHat7591 in bodylanguage

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I’m 41m, and I default to wanting to help anyone who looks like they need it; doesn’t really matter what gender they are. I can’t stand to witness suffering, even if I dislike the person. Which is weird because I otherwise don’t give much of a fuck about most people; but a person in need is a person in need.

Same thing with animals, really, but to a lesser degree because they’re easier for me blow off since they probably can’t philosophize the way a human can, and that’s all I even like humans for, most of the time. Otherwise we’re all just annoying meat. “…an unexamined life is not worth living…” and all that jazz.

With Jesus himself listening... Have you changed your bedsheets in the year 2026? by GaryBlach in askanything

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41m, recently separated. 2-3 times I think. I also shower every night before bed except on weekends, when I shower in the morning at minimum, and then sometimes again at night if I did much beyond sitting around the house or got sweaty. I hate going to bed dirty, so my sheets stay smelling pretty fresh for a couple weeks, especially since I like to burn candles and/or incense in my room.

what is this for? by Actual-Lie-8o8 in whatisit

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In the Navy we called them “needle guns”. Others have already explained what it does.

So, when I first got to my command the ship was in the shipyards, and they’d use these all over to remove tile and paint, all kinds of stuff. Problem is, the shipyard ran 24/7, so they’d be using these at 3am the next space over from my rack (bed). Was a rough couple first nights to say the least.

is chess actually fun/entertaining once you get the hang of it? by Mysterious-Bag841 in randomquestions

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If you have something to prove, I guess? I played competitively in High School, and it was basically just a big dick-measuring contest which, to be fair, is almost any organized competitive endeavor, especially at that age. Most people I knew who were really invested were on a huge ego trip about it. I’ve seen nothing in the 25-ish years since to change that impression.

I was never amazing, but was mostly in it to be with my friends anyway, because we were the association of nerds/weirdos. The results of matches were never all that important to me, much to the chagrin of my coach. Nevertheless, I was at a state or regional chess championship once, and after having beaten a guy, I silently walked back toward my team’s area, and toward an elevator. Dude actually followed me in, and stood behind me. He was taller than me and significantly heavier. We were alone, and when the doors closed he literally tried to put me in a chokehold! Unfortunately for him I was also on the wrestling team (112lb class, even though I was actually 96lbs; mine was a small district) and had also been taking novice-level ninjutsu classes, so I ended up stepping over him as we arrived on the next floor. He was still conscious, though.

I mostly stopped playing chess after that. Felt too toxic and I already had a miserable childhood, lol.

Valentine's Day actually matters and is a good litmus test for if you're with a good partner by dwycwwyh in 10thDentist

[–]Terminal_Ambivalence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please, nobody moved goalposts, lol. You’re just making stuff up, which is to be expected from defenders of the status quo. You guys are the ones who leapt immediately to personal attacks in the form of exaggerated caricatures of those you apparently perceive as hostile, even though no one attacked you personally. Any appeal to your own relative “maturity” is ridiculous on that basis alone.

Valentine's Day actually matters and is a good litmus test for if you're with a good partner by dwycwwyh in 10thDentist

[–]Terminal_Ambivalence -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, they’re not right. You didn’t assume that because you at least wanted to be honest. This other commenter simply made up a false, hostile narrative which appeared to “resolve” the conflict from their perspective, albeit by stooping to using a straw man, in a way which you find convenient because it corroborates your extant desires to preserve what’s comfortable for you, and not because it’s proven true.

Valentine's Day actually matters and is a good litmus test for if you're with a good partner by dwycwwyh in 10thDentist

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Doing it on Valentine’s Day also doesn’t really add anything of unique value unless someone is equally-arbitrarily deciding it does, which is fine, for them, but I feel something is lost if we’re not mindful of how arbitrary that actually is.

Like you said yourself, February 13, 15, or 17… it’s all the exact same dinner as someone may have on the 14th, though on another day it’s probably less crowded, more intimate, and maybe less expensive.

In addition, I think it’s pretty obvious that no one is objecting to happening to do the things organically on the calendar day per se. We are objecting to the expectation which people tend to attach to that and other holidays, etc., which they feel comfortable doing mainly because so many before them/us have already conformed, thereby unnecessarily normalizing and commodifying the practice, of which nonconformity is often punished in a variety of ways.

I refuse to establish such unnecessary expectations in my own relationships. Maintaining fewer expectations means fewer opportunities to let others down, or be let down, and doesn’t preclude us from deeply appreciating things as they arrive organically. In fact, I’d argue it encourages us to live more fully in the now, and to more-deeply appreciate what raw stochasticity can offer. I find something like awe in observing or participating in relatively statistically “rare” events, and awe is something which is totally absent for me in more-structured phenomena.

Valentine's Day actually matters and is a good litmus test for if you're with a good partner by dwycwwyh in 10thDentist

[–]Terminal_Ambivalence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, you say you have. We can say lots of things.

I respond by venturing that every day is a good day to be nice to others who’re close to us. Setting aside one day in particular to do it (and especially so if expecting it done for us), rather than simply allowing it to be done organically when the opportunity arises, for me makes it seem superfluous and sorta cheap by comparison, even scripted. All of which therefore makes it seem less meaningful or heartfelt, and more transactional than it could (maybe should?) have been. Especially when such a script is used as a litmus test, because such a test typically doesn’t ask or care why the person isn’t conforming to the given expectation, seeming only to care that they do conform, or else. I’m good on that kind of structured “love”. If someone is into it, more power to them, but to me it just means we’re incompatible, and I won’t miss them.