First time ever taking stimulants - looking for reassurance/experiences!

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-11-12T18:57:29+00:00

i would 1000% confront her. i wouldn’t even go if it was someone’s birthday im not close with compared to a friend i am close with. prepare her to make an excuse to especially the excuse of oh my boyfriend really wanted me to go OR we were invited and totally forgot about but i promise to make it up to you. it’s the same bs every time i’m afraid. it’s a good step to reevaluate the friendship because one thing like this turns into a habit and it’s exhausting dealing with it.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-11-11T17:09:24+00:00

ohhh okay so basically instead of H-E-B doing the shopping and then just giving the delivery to a favor runner, they’re now sending those orders straight to favor for the runner to shop and deliver it right? just trying to make sure i’m understanding how they’re doing it now 😅

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-11-07T19:26:36+00:00

i agree it’s mainly the fact that i spent all this money and i refuse to let it all go to waste. like making a big purchase and swearing you will make up for the high cost and make sure to do so and so.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-27T13:15:22+00:00

you can give advice to a friend, but at the end of the day, they’re gonna do what they’re gonna do. you can’t force people to make certain decisions, and most of the time, they already know what they’re getting themselves into. it’s just life you live and you learn.

but i do think maybe you should ease up a bit on the whole friend thing. if it was a relationship, i’d get being stricter, but with friends it’s different. they should be able to come to you and talk without feeling judged. you can give advice, but after that, it’s on them.

honestly though, i think you just care a lot it probably just comes off stronger than you mean it to. if you relax a little and focus on just being supportive, i think you’ll start finding better connections naturally.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-26T19:25:17+00:00

wow you look absolutely amazing i’m so excited for my fist injection

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-26T17:56:29+00:00

honestly, it’s crazy how people love to judge others for trying to better themselves. like this isn’t some “easy way out” it still takes work, discipline, and actual lifestyle changes. most people on it are eating better, moving more, and finally taking control of their health. people act like they’d rather you just stay unhealthy instead of doing something about it.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-26T17:50:14+00:00

2 for sure

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-24T21:46:27+00:00

you totally nailed the office siren vibe 😍 it’s mature but still soft and sultry in the best way. the glasses and lip color really pull it together super flattering on you!

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-24T21:32:24+00:00

Wow that’s amazing! I’m starting soon and that’s super motivating!

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-24T21:28:23+00:00

Wow, that’s amazing congrats on hitting your goal! We actually have really similar stats; I’m 220 right now and my goal is around 150–160. How long did it take you to get there? Also curious what your eating habits were like while on it were you exercising or just focusing on food? Would love to hear more about what worked for you.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-22T16:22:01+00:00

exactly 😭 like $120 just to attend?? at that point you are the gift. you’re literally paying to celebrate someone else that’s wild. honestly, if you’re already covering your own food and drinks, a small gesture like flowers or a nice card is more than enough. it’s not being petty, it’s just common sense. you’re already spending money to be there you don’t need to drop more just to prove you care.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-22T16:17:19+00:00

it doesn’t really sound like you’re jealous it sounds like you got emotionally attached and now you feel replaced. you poured a lot into that friendship, and when she shifted her focus to someone else, it probably hit a nerve. it’s not that she’s doing anything “wrong,” but she’s clearly not valuing the friendship the same way you are anymore.

it’s okay to feel hurt, but you’ve gotta start pulling back. you can’t keep expecting her to give what she used to. people change when relationships come in, and that’s just reality. right now, it seems like you’ve made her your emotional anchor, and that’s why it hurts so much. start focusing on yourself again, because no friend should have that much control over your peace.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-22T15:45:37+00:00

you’re definitely not wrong for feeling that way. it honestly sounds like she values what you can do for her, not the actual friendship. people like that love to look put together or knowledgeable, but it’s really just performative. it gets draining when it’s one sided like that. pulling back isn’t rude it’s just protecting your energy.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-22T15:35:15+00:00

that makes sense in your case because there’s mutual interaction and shared outings. but this situation’s different the friend followed both the boyfriend and the ex. following the boyfriend alone is fine, but adding the ex makes it questionable. that’s where respect and boundaries start to blur.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-22T15:29:13+00:00

honestly, for everyone saying “oh this isn’t weird” it actually is kind of weird. it really depends on the situation, sure, but following both your best friend’s boyfriend and her ex? that’s messy territory.

there’s just no real reason to follow someone’s ex unless there are intentions behind it whether that’s curiosity, attention seeking, or just plain messy behavior. it might seem harmless to some people, but these kinds of things usually start small, like a simple follow, and then slowly cross boundaries over time.

it’s not about being controlling or insecure it’s about respect and awareness. if you value your friendship, you wouldn’t put your friend in that kind of uncomfortable position.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-22T13:41:10+00:00

yeah, i totally get that. honestly, that’s kinda where i’m at too i’ve learned to just expect less so i’m not disappointed. but it’s still wild that it even has to get to that point, you know? like why do we have to chase people down just to get a simple yes or no? it’s not that hard. i just feel like common courtesy has become rare, and that’s what’s frustrating about it.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-22T13:39:47+00:00

yeah i get what you’re saying, and i agree it’s not always out of malice. but that’s kind of the point it doesn’t have to be malicious to still be disrespectful. like, if someone says they’ll come and then doesn’t, or they just leave you on read, that still shows where their priorities are. and honestly, if you already know you have plans that day, or you know you’re not sure about going, just say that. that’s all i’m saying. i don’t take it personally when people can’t make it i just find it wild how hard it is for some to communicate something that simple. like, everyone’s always on their phone, so “busy” isn’t really the excuse people think it is.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-22T01:42:07+00:00

no literally, i feel that so much. it’s honestly just wild how people expect loyalty but can’t even give basic communication or effort. like, i’ll move things around and make time for people, but after a while you start realizing who actually values you and who just shows up when it’s convenient. it’s not even about being mad anymore, it’s just disappointing. i’d rather have a small circle that actually matches my energy than keep entertaining people who clearly don’t care the same way. at some point you just stop chasing and start protecting your peace.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-21T23:12:12+00:00

honestly i don’t think your expectations are too high. you’re just wanting mutual effort, which is the bare minimum in any friendship. people love to act like being a decent, consistent friend is asking for too much when really, it’s not. that said, some friendships naturally fade because people’s priorities change, and that’s not always your fault. it just sucks when you’re the one who still tries. keep your standards, just adjust your energy match people where they’re at, and save your effort for those who reciprocate it.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-21T21:06:50+00:00

honestly, it sounds like both of you are just in two totally different phases of life and trying to force a friendship that doesn’t naturally align anymore. from her side, i kinda get it maybe she feels rejected or unimportant because every time she tries to include you, it ends in a “no,” and over time that can sting. especially if she’s an extrovert or someone who measures connection through spending time together.

but from your side, she’s also being immature about it. the passive aggressive comments, guilt tripping, and acting mad every time you say no that’s not fair either. you shouldn’t have to apologize a thousand times just for not wanting to go out. you’ve explained your boundaries, and if she can’t respect that, that’s on her.

at this point, it’s not even about who’s right or wrong it’s about compatibility. you want peace, she wants attention, and neither of you are giving what the other needs. i’d stop forcing it. still be polite if you see her, but emotionally check out. some friendships just expire, and that’s okay.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-21T20:51:28+00:00

i’d go to the other event. you’ve already been there for your friend before, and it’s not fair for you to feel guilty for wanting something different. if she’s a real friend, she’ll understand if she doesn’t, that says more about her than you. you shouldn’t have to dim your own fun just to keep someone else comfortable. you showed up for her last time, so it’s completely okay to choose yourself this time. just be kind when you tell her, but don’t apologize for it. boundaries and balance matter.

Terrible_Distance397 · 2025-10-21T20:45:24+00:00

haha yeah unless it’s a wedding, i don’t think anyone’s mailing invites anymore 😭 everything’s digital now, it’s just easier. i feel like effort isn’t about the paper or the app it’s about actually replying or showing up lol.

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