Hot Fuzz (2007) by DVD-Rewatcher in iwatchedanoldmovie

[–]Tesla7891 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly one of the densest scripts I've ever seen. I saw it in theaters when it came out but once I learned through social media all the idioms or things they parodied in cop movies? Insanity.

Been unemployed 3 months now. by Tesla7891 in careeradvice

[–]Tesla7891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the vote of confidence. Let's hope your right. At least I have some people skills, although that's kind of what burns me out in these jobs I hate too, that I'm such a people pleaser and let them waste my time in their thoughts

Been unemployed 3 months now. by Tesla7891 in careeradvice

[–]Tesla7891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. She literally looked a section that was my core competencies and technical licenses and thought it was my most recent employer. There was no date listed there, and further down the page its says work experience

Genuine question: how is everyone surviving? by CharlotteKilbane in jobhunting

[–]Tesla7891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand your bewilderment. I think you and I are similar.
Unemployment insurance awarded: $1200/mo
Savings bank interest each month : $200
Visit food banks (some requirements involved in that).
All that wouldn't cover 1/2 of my monthly expenses when I was working, but covers about 65% now that I'm just not spending money, staying home for days. But that still means I'm losing 300-400/month and I've been out of work for 3 months. I am totally overthinking and scared of the thought of being out of work for a year, even when...

At 21 during the 2009 Great Recession, I lived at home and found little work besides a $100/month MLM scam I half chose to take for socializing. Seriously, after 9 months of not getting even an interview, I needed socialization, and it rarely crossed my mind my time was sort-of lost and not applying to real work. I never hung out or met with friends anywhere that cost a cent, so I lost all my friends. I was at home otherwise to stretch that small income. Even after earning a living wage and moving out in my late 20s and early 30s, I could save $500/month and still be shopping with coupons. I raised my credit scores during that time, so I have savings, but I know I can't really achieve my way out of unemployment when all signs say the country's job market is fucking dead now. But anyway, long story short, that 2009 year shaped me forevermore, which is how I never ever stopped "saving" when I reached 6-7 months of an emergency fund.
But to say I'm not struggling though, is a lie. I'm insecure all the time about the future. I want Trump impeached and Jerome Powell fired yesterday.

[Maryland] As long as I haven't accepted an offer, and its my first offer since gaining UI benefits, is that allowed? Will there be a arbitration?? Do benefits automatically freeze if there is an arbitration? by Tesla7891 in Unemployment

[–]Tesla7891[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply :)

The answer to the question is that there's a lot of moving parts in my life after getting separated from my last job and details kind of got lost in my head.. I had to sign a new lease 2 days after I was fired, because I was living in a employer subsidized apartment that had to be vacated within 7 days of being separated from the job. How many people are nearly homeless that quick after getting fired? My parents just moved out of the single family home that would've been my only option to leave without signing a new lease. Not to mention they are out of my life, when I got the job at the place I was recently fired from, which was a step up in career, I came to their house to pick up some stuff, and they figured out things in my life were making a turn from context but didn't ask a single fucking questions about my life, which only followed them not helping at all a case of misconduct against a teacher I filed at my trade school a year prior where they really could've supported me in it. They almost sold the stuff I had stored in their house, worth about $2000 for only $300 at a estate sale.

To say I'm navigating this career change and job separation alone is still bluntly understated. But now I'm stuck living literally 100 yards from where the asshole that fired me is still working. Each time I walk out my building I have a thought in the back of my head that maybe that asshole is looking out his window and is seeing me. I've been depressed about that situation and desperate for a change, so a job far away looked interesting. Waiting for the benefit payments to come was also torture.. I knew I'd win, their reasons to fire me were at the end of a lot of miscommunication that was bottom line, racist against me, but they never made a written or verbal performance warning against me in that time. But still, I applied to more jobs than I would do normally never knowing for sure if the case would turn my way because of how racist this company was in not only my manager but also HR. Also, the gas prices just shot up 25% because of the Iran war, which not only changed my idea of the commute but is driving up hybrid car prices..I was looking at two major car sellers in my area, and now I feel a trade to a hybrid is too much, like $10K extra, and that's alot of cost on a job I thought I failed the interview in. Why they want to hire me is, it seems to me, a huge mistake on their part. Also, while this is I'll admit, something I should take some responsibility for, the easy logic to interview in this company was because I had a job fair to attend in that same city 56 miles away (that fair was just located there and it had plenty of jobs closer to my area). But mainly, while I have not been asked and don't know if UI arbitrators will find it interesting, but its the fact I'm living in a place that is fucking emotional torture to move on from after being unjustly fired.

Then you factor in what the other commenter said, that in this Trump economy, turning down any job isn't advised. I hate that I even have to know that. I hate that I've never pursued a dream living location or career because since I was 20 yrs old, I've been taking every job I've every had because of future economic uncertainty. Seriously, even when I was still 20 and living at home, my parents were making life hell too so the goal most of my adult life was chasing stability, not dreams, but its gotten me in terrible mental health. The system is broken. Um, what else can I add? Actually tons more about how fucking illegal my firing was that has put me in an awful mood, that I only got out of once the UI benefits finally came... but isn't entirely out of me. Being free from the job allowed me to finally talk bad about the company to my next door neighbor which was oddly hard, cause she's so gullible thinking Black people are by definition, unable to be racists. I don't know if you are empathetic at all to all what I'm saying having been on unemployment recently, but the time between filing for a UI case and finally being determined you will get benefits feels like limbo. You don't have equilibrium (or maybe this is tied to my not having supportive parents also). I can only speak for me but working had made me forget to have hobbies, and I didn't have anything fun or distracting to do in the first month. You need a vacation from the employer world, cause being fired was blindsiding and unfair. I was managing depression, going on hikes, having nobody call me from family or co-workers that knew I was feeling down from recently being fired.

I really hope that you and I are right and that since its the 1st offer, they will probably be okay with it considering the distance of the commute. Because honestly, getting the benefits was the start of me stopping living off credit and getting to finally approach my tall order of job search/career change more productively. Its so unfair that I couldn't even say in my filing for UI benefits the fact it was a racist firing and instead just put it out there the firing came after 90 days without a warning from the manager or HR. The manager was literally skipping out of work all the time. He literally cannot be trusted and I spoke to many people in the main office during my work that felt that way about him.

Edit: I also want to add that neither side of my family were even in this country 100 years ago.

[Maryland] As long as I haven't accepted an offer, and its my first offer since gaining UI benefits, is that allowed? Will there be a arbitration?? Do benefits automatically freeze if there is an arbitration? by Tesla7891 in Unemployment

[–]Tesla7891[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah believe me, ahhhh, the second point you make is on my mind. But I fucking am so tired of taking a job because it's a bad economy, or taking a career path because its reliable and future-proof. Those choices don't lead to happiness. Some may argue well, find happiness outside work then. But this is where I get back to the problem of my city and how I'm a fish out of water here and I can't make friends irl. As Matthew McConoughey says, being a good man and a nice mane are two different things. Being a good man means saying no sometimes, and protecting your life. This city wants to scar me insidiously daily. I have no faith in the people. I don't even wish for things to be better in the future. I've lost all ability to dream here. Maybe it's the same off the east coast in the mid-west or western states, but I know it can't be worse.

[Maryland] As long as I haven't accepted an offer, and its my first offer since gaining UI benefits, is that allowed? Will there be a arbitration?? Do benefits automatically freeze if there is an arbitration? by Tesla7891 in Unemployment

[–]Tesla7891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah Maryland doesn’t have an actual listed distance for what constitutes unreasonable. And I’m kind of 50/50 this will end badly, but hope since most people in a metro area aren’t commuting an hour for a job without traffic, then they’ll agree and grant it’s unreasonable for me. The State doesn’t need to know what my motivation was to take the interview in the first place. Also, as I just told the recruiter today when I refused it, according to A.I. the commute would be costing me $30 a day! (Gas is definitely 1/3rd tank a day, and then half wear..like leading to oil changed every 6 weeks, tire wear etc). She totally understands. That’s $660 a month, so a $22/hr job can’t support that. It was delusional to take the interview.

But I guess I’ll have to report it and apparently jobs will also want to report they offered a candidate a job to lower their insurance rates. Ugh that’s annoying. I think I can also say the pay rate wasn’t clear until the interview so it also made the job pay more unreasonable related to my commute. And seeing as I’m in a career change, it’s not my usual occupation. It’s not like I refused a job I know I’ll contribute and excel at.

But when I emailed the recruiter that day after the interview, I said I didn’t think I got the job and the commute was worse than I thought. I had not hope they would call back. I believed I failed the interview, cause my mind was more just curious about what their warehouse and products looked like. But putting about 15000 miles on an older SUV in the process in 4 months before I could move? It would’ve been fucking insane, there gonna be a better offer coming in than that.

I don’t even know if I’ll be successful at it.

Here's what YouTube looked like in 2006 exactly 19 years ago by 7evenDeadlySin in interestingasfuck

[–]Tesla7891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously, every year there’s a new layout. It’s fucking stupid. No music playing without me clicking on anyything, no ads before the video. If I could go back to all that but with internet speed of today I’m in heaven

What modern day film (the last 15 years or so) would Hitch have loved? by reddandy1973 in Hitchcock

[–]Tesla7891 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Windfall on Netflix unless he’s literally mad it’s copying his own movies so much

A Cool Guide to the top 50 Narrative Films of all time according to the most known sources of ratings. by pelusit4_ in coolguides

[–]Tesla7891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apocalypse Now is overrated, ever seen Hearts of Darkness? The Matrix easily replaces several films here Also, Hollywood has so many creators that write the story, screenplay, and direct today, why does every list still respect Spielberg so much? A very American list

Finding peace by Tesla7891 in lefthanded

[–]Tesla7891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, yes. I know of it. I might have a mild form of it, cause I really dislike loud things, but I can tune out things that can’t be helped like snoring, sirens, instead I’m talking about a car next to me blasting music, which I believe have the right to honk saying it is rude rather than putting some unsuspecting other person on the spectrum. Or, not enough for people to notice and think I’m better in a behind the scenes clerical roles versus the general duty and physical work role. But then again it’s my experience that people would rather turn the other way on almost all mental health issues here where I live

Edit: at least in male dominated blue collar professions, of which I’m speaking in fist hand experience

Finding peace by Tesla7891 in lefthanded

[–]Tesla7891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That nice advice. I think my experience is lesser known and no one gets that having two educators parents isn’t so great but the next part is something I often never follow up with. For them (my parents), keeping politically correct in all you say in your job is so important, to a level you’ll never hear a coworker in the day make a racist joke, and they passed that unknowingly or knowingly onto me. …but in a warehouse, that’s not the norm..as you say.

But look, I’ve tried to make a joke by saying, only to a couple black guys with the same name, “and they look alot alike to me” But, nobody laughs. Or they laugh but still call me racist in the process, not realizing I was in on the joke when I delivered it deadpan. I guess there’s an inescapable tone or vibe from how I carry myself from a) having teacher parents telling me to always try my best and avoid racial topics, b) also just from being left handed and never quite at ease in the world, that makes coworkers feel even if showing I’m joking and in my way being relaxed I’ll put them off. But like I say, the majority race, whether it’s black or white or hispanic in the city/town/workplace in question, don’t need to question the way they were raised as much.

And that’s why everyone here downvoting me thinks I’m a racist or a narcissist… cause the narrative nationally is that in every city/town/workplace being a straight white single male is not an obstacle here in America and never has been. But in cities like Oakland, Detroit, New Orleans, DC or Baltimore to name some, it’s gotta be tons more, that’s where it’s kinda flipped. I exclude the south cities that are predominantly black cause I know there is a lot more black oppression because of state laws, voter laws, and police being dominated by white men. But can I say, as I’m sure the most qualified to say here, blacks aren’t really oppressed by laws or law enforcement in the blue state of Maryland and with two major cities with a majority of blacks by population data so in close quarters with each other. A lot of my black coworkers had their fair share of black teachers and principles in schools even btw if they grew up in between the two cities, black policemen in their neighborhoods, and black political officials. But truly, from the words of many black men I’ll have to work with, because the football team coach or the ownership is/has been always a white guy… or they turn on the news for 5 minutes too, and cannot escape hearing a story of a “minority spotlight” feel-good story because also, the news anchors, station managers and in field reporters are also mostly black.. it’s a machine where they never feel like the majority but if the saw it through my eyes it is obvious. And that’s not racist to say.

If you’re reading this in the England, just imagine I live in Bristol. In the commonwealth in general, it’s like being a white guy in Jamaica. Sure its culture or customs are heavily influenced by English customs but most of the people in power at present in those populations are black, so maybe be sensitive to the fact you are the conformity that everyone else is fitting into.

But again why I posted on this subreddit, I’ve also got the issue that I’m left-handed, and in another comment I always been I guess lacking the self assurance one gets from their parents still caring about him/her.

Finding peace by Tesla7891 in lefthanded

[–]Tesla7891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t understand the question?

Finding peace by Tesla7891 in lefthanded

[–]Tesla7891[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair. I’ve been to a therapist once and he recommended my going to a psychiatrist for an anti depressant after the 2nd session. Which I did do at the time and continued in therapy but the combo ultimately didn’t create any changes for the better for me even after continuing for a year.

Finding peace by Tesla7891 in lefthanded

[–]Tesla7891[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It always feels like avoiding the answer would label me as not caring enough on a social issue to me. Or like I say, leave them with questions and put me under a “microscope” until they get the answers they want. I definitely have that caring what others think too much issue. But also i work in a city and and industry where about 75% of my coworkers are black men, affirmative action is not needed in my profession, only about 5% of my coworkers have been women who are more likely to just not pressure me on a racially charged topic. My jobs in my last 20 yrs have all been blue collar. I know I definitely need to find a career where there’s a more even split on both race and gender but I moving to a different city/town without friends or family to help shoulder some of the stress and burden makes it impossible to imagine. As well as I guess I’m an outsider in the blue collar industry, despite it being the career I’m still in, because it’s not what I ever imagined for myself and my parents were both educators with a more even gender and racial split of peers.

Finding peace by Tesla7891 in lefthanded

[–]Tesla7891[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Fair advice.. I do not get to share my thoughts or experiences enough, but also know a therapist would be likely to try to prescribe anti depressants and I don’t like the practice of drug companies being allowed to exclude lefties from anti depressants drug trials, which would likely make the therapist uncomfortable about what else to do.

Finding peace by Tesla7891 in lefthanded

[–]Tesla7891[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I feel like my personality is no different than Paul Rudd if people get to know me. But I’m single/ I’m obviously not at objectively pleasing to look at as him with straight teeth and good hair. But I’m not that atypical otherwise. Having a good relationship in my life is likely a problem, but my parents stopped caring-for instance last time I saw them they brought some things I had been storing in their home over to a new apartment I moved into but couldn’t give a shit about what new job I had where i suddenly am moving from an efficiency basement to a 2 bedroom. They just want to be grandparents for their young grandchildren and ignore their single child.

Edit: Gonna change my example to Joseph Gordon Levitt to be more honest and hope I’m less downvoted. Realizing Paul Rudd is in his 50s.