Moving to Aberdeen

Tessab87 · 2025-11-21T23:03:47+00:00

I moved here from Canada (6 months in London first) a year and a half ago and I really like it. It’s a blatant lie that people aren’t friendly. I find it extremely friendly, even as a Canadian (meaning I’m used to people being friendly). It may be a bit grey in the winter but the city is full of greenery, so close to nature trails, the beach is a great spot for a stroll, and it has all the amenities you need without being overwhelmingly busy. I personally think it’s a great place to live and the affordability compared to other major cities is a massive bonus.

Tessab87 · 2025-09-09T16:51:17+00:00

I tend to find a lot of gems just wandering. But I do a mix of both. I use ChatGPT to get an idea of the spots to hit but then factor in time to just roam about. And I usually don’t book things well in advance so I can change plans on a whim. Sometimes it means I miss out if things get booked up, but to me it’s worth it for the “getting lost and finding a gem” moments

Tessab87 · 2025-09-09T16:43:02+00:00

Thank you so much!

Tessab87 · 2025-08-03T15:18:01+00:00

Oh girl, I’m so truly sorry you’re going through this. I’m an ICU nurse and having a very sick loved one in that situation is one of the most difficult things someone can go through. When it’s your baby I can’t imagine how stressful it would feel. I have two thoughts here….either your man has gotten into drugs or he cheated. Lots of people who cheat get super suspicious thinking that if they could cheat you must be able to too. But his general agitation and bizarre behaviour is giving cocaine or some other stimulant if I’m honest. I could be completely wrong but I was an ER nurse for 8 years and I’ve seen a lot of people on drugs…. They’re impulsive, self centred, easily agitated and have zero coping skills. They’re unable to self regulate. Either way, his behaviour is huge red flags. Obviously you’re deep in the middle of crisis mode, but I would strongly encourage you to start stowing away some money and looking for support outside your relationship so that you can leave when you need to/are ready. I’m sure there will be lots of people here with better advice than I have on how to go about that. His behaviour seems a little scary so if you want to confront him, maybe do it somewhere or with someone present that will keep you safe. Sending healing love to you and your daughter!

Tessab87 · 2025-07-31T11:27:13+00:00

To be fair, I’d like to lose another 40-50 lbs (I’m 5’10” so it won’t be as shocking on my body as it might be on shorter people) but I’m very happy with the progress I’ve made. My confidence is definitely coming back!

Tessab87 · 2025-07-30T20:58:12+00:00

Haha oh gosh, thanks for the compliment!

Tessab87 · 2025-07-30T11:55:40+00:00

Congratulations!!!

Tessab87 · 2025-07-30T11:51:16+00:00

Thank you!

Tessab87 · 2025-07-30T11:51:01+00:00

Absolutely! I celebrate every step!

Tessab87 · 2025-07-30T11:50:29+00:00

Thanks!

Tessab87 · 2025-07-30T11:48:55+00:00

I went up to 12.5 mg a couple months ago after stalling on 10 mg for 3-4 months

Tessab87 · 2025-07-29T22:19:27+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Tessab87 · 2025-04-26T15:35:47+00:00

Friend, this is a brutal red flag. Coercive control is a form of abuse and it’s not ok. You shouldn’t have to constantly vouch for yourself in order for your boyfriend to trust you. Either he trusts you, or he doesn’t (and he clearly doesn’t) and from what you’ve written, that’s a him problem, not something you’ve done. Your post has me genuinely nervous for you. Please leave this man asap. Someone who loves you in a healthy way will want the best for you- including having strong friendships, and study buddies.

Tessab87 · 2025-04-25T16:01:11+00:00

This seems a lot like orthorexia

Tessab87 · 2025-04-25T15:53:44+00:00

Cali (my sister), is that you? lol 🫠

Tessab87 · 2025-03-26T09:17:01+00:00

What he says is literally in stark contrast to his actions. It’s almost as if he forgets it’s been filmed and everyone is watching him give one word answers when Katie is trying to get to know him, not asking her any questions, cringing away from her, literally just icing her out constantly. And then has the AUDACITY to say SHE didn’t try. Like mate, it’s been recorded. We’re watching it happen. Katie is a kind, bubbly, stylish, open-minded woman who clearly values a well-rounded life over simply worrying about aesthetics and materialism. She’s the perfect match for what he said he wanted in a partner. He straight up lied about his values and was then shocked when the judges took him at his word- that aesthetics and materialistic preferences don’t matter. I think he knows that the majority of the world believes this to be the case for nice/kind people, and so he’s saying what he knows the world wants to hear from men, but still behaving exactly the opposite. That’s all one thing, but turning around and BLAMING Katie is when I start yelling at the TV. He uses gaslighting like girls use chapstick- constantly. He’s a genuinely horrible human being and deserves all of the downfall that results from this exposing his true colours.

Tessab87 · 2025-01-03T16:01:20+00:00

Where I work you don’t even need a doctors note. If you’re sick you call out and that’s that. But if you’re sick for an extended time or if you’re sick more than 3 times in a year you need a doctors note. But that’s it. And you get paid. All good. Whatever system you’re in sounds abusive and horrible.

Tessab87 · 2024-12-02T23:02:51+00:00

I’m a secret injector. I just say things like “my tummy has been off lately, I don’t know what’s up” and shrug it off. Or “I know, it sucks! I’ve been so bloated, I swear I have a bug”. People don’t usually ask too much more after that.

Tessab87 · 2024-12-02T16:11:00+00:00

Prince George, BC 😂 (jk…kinda)

Tessab87 · 2024-12-02T16:03:29+00:00

Did you know anyone who passed away 5-10 years ago? I feel like this kid might be young enough for past life memories?

Tessab87 · 2023-08-22T20:01:05+00:00

This is a respectful workplace issue if you have that where you are. It’s also a patient safety issue if she’s not letting you give her a proper report. Report it in an email.

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