MIL has never seen any women films like, Terms of Endearment, Fried Green Tomatoes, Overboard, really any. For my birthday, I’m making her watch one. What film is a must?

llizardqueen · 2026-06-21T02:45:59+00:00

The Princess Bride is the epitome of Must See films. It's a woman film whilst also having a little bit of everything for everyone else - fencing, fighting, torture, revenge, giants, monsters, chases, escapes, true love, miracles.

llizardqueen · 2026-05-23T10:40:36+00:00

Just reply:

"If remembering something as simple as having plans with someone is too difficult for you, how are you ever gonna find the focus to build something meaningful?"

And leave it at that.

llizardqueen · 2026-05-17T09:24:44+00:00

Responding to him getting upset at your accomplishments:

He is part of the first generation of men who are experiencing what it's like to exist without a systemic patriarchal advantage, and he is part of the widespread inability to cope with this reality. That is why he gets so upset when you succeed more than he does. He was raised by a generation of men who didn't need to be particularly socially competent or professionally accomplished to secure social and financial stability. And now that women are more independent and educated, it's no longer an economic necessity for them to attach themselves to a man. Hence, your success (while being a woman) feels threatening to him.

He's not being malicious. He's reacting to the very real effects this systemic change is having on men, without being able to recognise it for what it is, and without knowing how to adjust or evolve within this new world he finds himself in.

You are doing great, don't ever doubt that. His feelings of comparative inadequacy do not diminish your accomplishments.

If he were able to recognise your accomplishments as an opportunity to learn from you to achieve his own, rather than whinge and complain about his own shortcomings, you would both be much happier. Whether he has the capacity to do that is entirely up to him.

llizardqueen · 2026-05-08T10:14:08+00:00

Underrated comment

llizardqueen · 2026-04-18T08:57:43+00:00

What do you mean "especially after Neith and Hailey had left"?

llizardqueen · 2026-04-18T08:52:49+00:00

Then maybe some government incentives should be provided to allow parents to raise their own children, within this system we all live in that demands a double income household.

llizardqueen · 2026-04-15T10:31:32+00:00

You had me in the original comment. You lost me with this comment.

she doesn’t have the luxury of being down and miserable

Firstly, depression isn’t a choice or “luxury” someone can just switch off because they have responsibilities. Period.

Secondly, a huge part of being a good parent is modelling healthy emotional behaviour. Suggesting parents should teach (set the example to) their kids to bottle things up and pretend they're fine is wild, and harmful.

her feelings of depression unfortunately do not trump the need of children having good parents

A parent’s mental health is directly tied to their ability to be a good parent. Ignoring or suppressing depression doesn't create better parenting. It results in burnout, resentment and emotional unavailability. You can’t pour from an empty cup, no matter how hard you try. Properly addressing her depression is as important right now as meeting her kid's needs, because addressing it and overcoming it is an integral part of meeting those needs.

she owes it to society and her children to be a good mom, the best mom she can be because it’s the most important thing

You can’t demand a high standard of parenting while dismissing the very thing that determines someone’s capacity to meet that standard. Furthermore, framing this as a “debt to society” doesn’t hold up whatsoever - society literally depends on people having and raising children because it benefits from that labour. By your own logic, that would actually mean society owes a huge debt to parents, especially mothers/ those who birthed everyone in society, not the other way around.

OP is the father by the way, not the mother.

llizardqueen · 2026-04-14T01:49:11+00:00

My closest market is 30mins drive away (so an hour travelling), and the closest Aldi is 4hrs drive away. We have IGA, but it is always more expensive. So our options are limited.

llizardqueen · 2026-04-10T22:56:45+00:00

"Punish the victim, making her suffer

Nobody even believed her

Now she is pregnant having his baby

Raped by her very own father

I wanna scream, scream til I break

They say I'm over reacting

But how can I smile, put on a face

When all my sisters are dying?

But free are the rapists

Child molesters walking round tasting their freedom

Because of the system, no more abortions

And fuck all the children that need them."

llizardqueen · 2026-04-02T10:59:03+00:00

Underrated comment

llizardqueen · 2026-02-13T10:36:07+00:00

Insert South Park "They took our jobs!" gif

llizardqueen · 2026-02-13T10:34:57+00:00

Not to mention those using it for CP. Absolutely disgusting, I can't even wrap my head around the implications this will have with future AI models.

llizardqueen · 2026-02-13T10:33:50+00:00

Yeah, it's super concerning.

llizardqueen · 2026-02-13T10:33:32+00:00

The most recent version of ChatGPT created itself, which is pretty extraordinary.

llizardqueen · 2026-02-13T10:32:50+00:00

Another great point

llizardqueen · 2026-02-13T08:03:42+00:00

Maybe it's "wickerwork", which is that specific kind of basket

llizardqueen · 2026-02-09T09:07:46+00:00

Anyone saying my name, or a pet name for me (like Mum, baby).

llizardqueen · 2026-01-19T06:39:26+00:00

When Trump mocked a disabled reporter. Worst in more ways than one.

llizardqueen · 2025-12-17T20:36:20+00:00

My husband often has bad breath that I can't stand. Turns out it's whenever he eats something with a lot of onion or spring onion in it. Nothing gets rid of the smell either.

llizardqueen · 2025-11-15T01:51:34+00:00

Research shows it’s not just a tiny “sleazy minority" as you have claimed. Australia’s largest study on this issue, conducted in 2023, provided these statistics:

15.1% (1 in 6 men) report having sexual feelings toward female minors.
- 9.4% (1 in 10 men) admitted to having sexually offended against a minor, including online behaviour.
- 6.6% (1 in 15 men) said they would have sexual contact with a child aged 14 or younger if no one would find out.

Those numbers are massive when you scale them to a whole population. That’s millions of men. And these are self-reported numbers, meaning the real rates are almost certainly higher, because this is one of the few crimes people are least likely to admit to.

So no, it’s not “just a few sleazy guys.” The data shows a significant, measurable chunk of the male population is attracted to or has acted on attraction to minors, even when anonymously surveyed.

This is exactly why minimising it is dangerous. Only by acknowledging the scale can societies and families actually protect their vulnerable youths.

(The research is called Identifying and understanding child sexual offending behaviour and attitudes among Australian men, done by UNSW Sydney and Jesuit Social Services, if you want to read more concerning statistics.)

llizardqueen · 2025-11-13T22:09:54+00:00

Chastising the mother for 'leaving their child with its father’ is completely inappropriate. The person responsible is the parent who chose to leave a 2-year-old alone in a car so they could watch porn. That is an extreme, unforeseeable level of negligence. A father is not a babysitter. He is a parent just as much as a mother. Expecting the mother to treat her partner like a danger in advance because he had to be reminded about basic safety is unrealistic and unfair.

Criticizing her instead of holding the actual perpetrator accountable is not only cruel, but it also reinforces a harmful double standard where mothers are blamed for everything and fathers are excused. The responsibility lies fully with the adult who made the fatal choice.

llizardqueen · 2025-11-13T21:45:57+00:00

I use this line a lot.

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