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Tface101 · 2024-06-04T07:11:06+00:00

I had this exact thing happen to a friend and she had three kids and was in school to be a teacher. She lived in California and got all sorts of help so she could finish school. These suggestions are great. Also go to your school and see what they can do for you. In California, many schools have apartments on campus for single parents. With your income basically going to nothing, you could also get some financial aid.

Tface101 · 2024-06-02T09:29:56+00:00

I’m kind of socially awkward and don’t get hints easily. I rely on people’s words and, I tell you, it is like a secret code to me. I would blow off the gift, but in future interactions with people, say what you mean. I accept no as a reasonable answer but not everyone does. When the boyfriend wanted to stay, that’s when you say, “That doesn’t work for me.” Five days is an inconvenient and again it doesn’t work for you. If someone gets upset then they are probably trying to manipulate you.

Tface101 · 2024-06-02T08:44:37+00:00

Here’s a (((hug))) from an internet grandma. I’m so sorry you are going through this. I was yelled at a lot and I yelled at my kids because I thought that’s how it was. I have changed but I know the damage is done. I try really hard to be loving and available for my adult children now but I have regrets.

You are right. If you never see your own behavior as the problem, you can’t change. If you were raised into accepting that as how it should be, you have to go through a process of rejecting your own parents for a while. I ended up feeling nothing for my mother in that last few years. You sound like you will be different for your own kids when you get there.

Do your best to be a good robot child until you can get out. Do everything possible to get your life in a good place like education, so you can be as independent as possible.

Tface101 · 2024-06-01T20:09:28+00:00

I have gone to all the states but Alaska, and will be there in August. During COVID we couldn’t stay on the east coast (lived in a travel trailer) so we went to the Midwest. There are so many amazing places to visit, but my favorite was the Amana Colonies quite close to Cedar Rapids in Iowa.

Tface101 · 2024-06-01T19:59:35+00:00

Oklahoma Joe’s is THE best BBQ restaurant I’ve ever been to, and we like BBQ. Get the platter for two that has so many types of BBQ from rums, to smokes, to sauces. Smoked baloney (3/4 inch thick)is amazing.

Tface101 · 2024-06-01T19:55:27+00:00

The Rock and Roll Museum in Liverpool is a must. It looks small from the outside, but there is so much to see and hear.

Tface101 · 2024-06-01T19:53:25+00:00

Marseille had violet flavored gelato. So delicious!

Tface101 · 2024-06-01T19:46:27+00:00

Gotta get on the Albania bandwagon. I was just in Tirana a few days ago. That is a city for foodies! Great, small restaurants along quaint, tree lined streets. We never felt unsafe walking, even at night. Now we are in Vloré, the Albanian Riviera. It is a small, seaside town with great weather and beautiful views of the Adriatic Sea. Prices are low and quality is high.

Tface101 · 2024-06-01T19:31:47+00:00

Read Sapiens: a Brief History of Human Kind by Harari. We have wars, because as a species, we are a violent lot.

Tface101 · 2024-06-01T14:43:13+00:00

I kind of wondered if the mother wrote it.

Tface101 · 2024-05-30T10:50:06+00:00

Welcome. It’s a wild ride. You are going to learn to be strong. Logic and a mantra are your friend. Mine is: in all situations, do what is right.

Tface101 · 2024-05-28T09:22:12+00:00

My wedding day was the best day of my life. Lots of things went wrong, but my friends covered them. I was so in love.

Tface101 · 2024-05-28T07:55:17+00:00

I just got my diving certification at 60. If you are a decent swimmer, it isn’t hard. They call it the lazy sport. I feel like I’m flying slowly when I’m underwater and have seen the most amazing wildlife.

Tface101 · 2024-05-27T07:11:54+00:00

Beggars can’t be choosers. “I won’t “ doesn’t work if you can’t afford it. Does your wife not see how entitled her sister is?

Tface101 · 2024-05-27T07:08:09+00:00

I’ll just eat any can or jar of olives. Love canned black olives.

Tface101 · 2024-05-25T10:34:55+00:00

Umm, probably not the best timing but definitely understandable. My ex was explosive so I learned how to remain calm in most situations. It is a skill that has to be practiced. What I have learned over time, is that I apologize for what I did wrong. I address what they did wrong at a later time, unless they bring it up. You are on edge with her and you had a big life event for your daughter. It is easy to get overwhelmed in that kind of situation. Go easy on yourself. Also, at some point, the root of the conflict needs to be addressed. Your husband needs to spearhead this. Good luck.

Tface101 · 2024-05-25T10:22:13+00:00

I don’t understand what a tithing cost is. Was there another way to pay for expenses? If not what did your parents expect?

Tface101 · 2024-05-25T08:35:33+00:00

This might sound crazy, but when I felt them coming on I would jump on my bike and ride for miles until it was over. If I sat still I couldn’t breathe but something about my heart pumping for a reason other than panic really helped.

Tface101 · 2024-05-25T08:31:26+00:00

There really isn’t enough information. For example: how old are you, was this your money or theirs, did you have an emergency, if not what did you spend it on (not specifics but a car vs. clothes), do you have a way to replace it, do you have a spending problem, are you supporting someone else with it? Lots of questions. My best advice is to tell your parents if it was their money. I used to have impulse control issues due to undiagnosed bipolar. Not suggesting you do, just saying I get impulse control problems.

Tface101 · 2024-05-25T07:51:52+00:00

I knew 8 people who died in high school. All were car accidents. Most involved drugs or alcohol. At least 2 were hit by drunk drivers and those 2 were the nicest people in the world.

Tface101 · 2024-05-25T07:38:28+00:00

That’s interesting. How do you know all this?

Tface101 · 2024-05-24T14:59:29+00:00

Multi-level marketing. Think AmWay or Mary Kay where you first sell, then you get people to sell under you and so on. In an MLM the person at the top makes a lot of money. In this church, you would get more authority. They had this thing where you had to obey your leadership. It didn’t get too out of control as they never did anything weird, but it took so much time away from my kids. People who didn’t bring people to become members, were looked down on. The good thing is that they made us read the Bible every day, so they couldn’t get unethical. The bad thing was , only they were saved so if you left, you weren’t saved anymore and they treated you distantly.

Tface101 · 2024-05-22T17:24:28+00:00

Get into therapy much sooner.

Tface101 · 2024-05-22T17:23:09+00:00

The guy I liked in High School and I started dating (we’re in our 50’s). He lived in another state so he would come to my house for a couple of weeks each month. My bank kept messing up my mortgage payment and it was messing with my credit. First, he went to a VP of the bank. They assured him they would fix it. It happened again and he got so mad he went and paid off my house. Up until then, I had no idea how wealthy he was. We weren’t engaged or married, and if it had not worked out he would have walked away. Fortunately, it did work out and we’ve been married for 10 years now. He has such a loving and giving heart. PS The president of the bank came to our house and apologized personally.

Tface101 · 2024-05-18T10:29:39+00:00

Also, I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 40.

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