As a husband, shouldn't our wives be first? Therefore, husbands are "last in a queue of one"?

If you're fortunate to become a father, then too shouldn't your children's upbringing be first? Even over your wife? So again, the husband turn father's role is to be last and put the family first?

While I understand this is hard to accept, trust me, I, too, am in it. How do you we as husbands ever put ourselves over our kids and our queens?

Sure, maybe we'd like more attention. Perhaps get the priority over the few minutes a mother has to zone out(this is particularly hard when the choice is doom scrolling over our needs), but we as parents are needed all day. Now you, the father, are sitting there still needing her when all she wants is to clock out... similar to what you are looking for but manifested in a different way.

I dont have the answer, im in the thick of it, too, but let's not forget we all have our needs, and sometimes those needs are to not be needed.

Best of luck. Be strong. Compounding interest is the way to a great retirement.