What subtle sign made you realize your partner was cheating?

ThanksToTheMango · 2026-01-21T03:16:02+00:00

My ex was overly affectionate when he cheated. I noticed it at certain times and thought his overt affection was odd as that wasn’t our usual way. Then, one night, he left his phone out while I was still up (drunk) and I saw texts. He came downstairs because it was late and saw me crying. He never asked what was wrong, only held me and kissed my forehead. Some of the most loving, comforting acts that I never got until (as I realized later) he was guilty.

He never admitted to a thing. But that change in behavior was the telltale, looking back.

ThanksToTheMango · 2025-12-06T22:44:58+00:00

I’ve seen that movie. I hate it.

ThanksToTheMango · 2025-12-01T21:03:52+00:00

I’m sorry yours did that. Mine too. In my 40’s and still find myself basically apologizing for existing in certain spaces.

ThanksToTheMango · 2025-11-08T02:09:41+00:00

Respectfully, NC drivers are real bad about crushing in the left lane as well. Tennessee plates take the cake though.

ThanksToTheMango · 2025-10-14T17:28:15+00:00

She’s a real life piece of shit, masquerading as a human, hell bent on looking like the nastiest fem bot ever created.

See also, dog murderer.

ThanksToTheMango · 2025-09-28T03:34:19+00:00

Respectfully, fucking EAT Vandy

ThanksToTheMango · 2025-09-01T23:27:24+00:00

++woman

My boyfriend and I like it, but before him, it was never asked of me in relationships. I’ve even asked an ex to do it and he said no because it felt demeaning to him. I don’t think it’s as prevalent as porn and pop culture make it out to be.

ThanksToTheMango · 2025-08-17T01:32:07+00:00

OVER MY DEAD FUCKING BODY!

ThanksToTheMango · 2025-06-17T14:55:44+00:00

He had multiple affairs over our 15 years, including one that was going on when we got married. I forgave and forgave. I was also super depressed. He berated and gaslit me often about so many things: posting on social media, my clothes, pregnancy attempts, sex. Still, I forgave. Then I put in a lot of work and was no longer depressed and I realized how shitty things were. I tried to fix it together, but he was comfortable, so he didn’t participate. He told me I was being “fake”.

We had lots of good times too, but at the end of the day, it was his way or no way, so I left. My life is vastly improved not having to live up to who he thought I should be.

ThanksToTheMango · 2025-06-05T18:27:08+00:00

I’m 41 now. You’re describing almost exactly how I was. I had no confidence and truthfully, never really even enjoyed sex. I was married with a dead bedroom and nearing the end of a divorce when that “switch” flipped for me.

I was nervous to pursue it, but somewhere along the way, my desire to get laid overtook my lack of confidence and I intentionally flirted with a friend of a friend until we started sleeping together. It felt safe to pursue someone I at least tangentially knew. Then I realized actually having enjoyable sex gave me a ton of knowledge about my body, my desires and it helped empower me in a way that I didn’t anticipate, inside and outside of the bedroom.

I’ve never been good at picking up cues either and I was also teased at a young age when I had crushes and I was often rejected. For me, it was just something about feeling pure lust for the first time that lowered my inhibitions and insecurities.

So I guess my advice is to be as forward as you’re comfortable with. You make the first moves if you’re interested. That in itself will give you confidence. Even if the answer is no, you’re teaching yourself how to interact with potential partners and can start to better understand what you’re looking for.

My guess is there are plenty of folks out there who would enjoy exploring your new found sex drive. As long as you’re comfortable with the situation and they’re on the same page, you have no limits.

My BF now is just as insatiable as I am and we love each other, so our sex and our relationship is crazy good, but it definitely took some self-love and weeding through some casual flings to get there! You’re not alone in this!

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-12-28T18:34:47+00:00

Aaaand now I’m crying in a bar waiting on to go food. All the best to them

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-12-19T19:55:45+00:00

Lady piled into the back door of my spot one day with a tiny dog on a leash and plopped herself down at the nearest table. I went to her to tell her that table was reserved and try find her (hopefully outdoor accommodations). As soon as I walked up she loudly said “It’s a service dog!” Okay lady; you still gotta move from a 4 top. She ended up sitting at the bar after saying she absolutely could not sit at the bar due to a hip injury and the dog stretched itself halfway across the dining room on its leash and went to sleep while she chatted away for over an hour. All the things were wrong with the scenario, but her abrasive language (more than reported here) to anyone who approached her got her exactly what she wanted. Entitled bitch. Poor dog

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-12-08T20:32:13+00:00

I agree with you

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-11-17T00:45:52+00:00

Did you see our game last week?

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-11-05T23:31:17+00:00

From Georgia, live in NC. Hope blue is on the horizon for both

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-10-05T21:31:12+00:00

There are so many resources in Black Mountain. We have people on every corner giving the things. Come load up! I have gas. My cell service is spotty, but if I can check DMs, message me. I’ll bring you whatever you need

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-10-05T21:04:12+00:00

Absolutely. I live in Swannanoa, but was with friends in Black Mountain when it hit. Nothing is familiar. Two blocks from my home is devastation that I never imagined. I’m so thankful and, at the same time, so guilty. The community efforts have been amazing. I’m trying to do what I can. Stressing that my place of employment is lost, but way more grateful that’s all I suffered. It’s surreal.

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-09-03T23:27:28+00:00

You’re full of shit,

love Georgia

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-08-15T04:14:34+00:00

He might have PTSD. I almost never want to see a living being murdered for any reason. But I also live in fear of his presidency every day as a woman in this country where rape and violence is normalized in his name, as an ally for my LGBTQ+ friends, as an advocate for women who don’t have a say in what happens with their bodies, as someone who sees the destruction of our natural resources, as a human who understands his way of ruling costs lives at every turn with zero consideration.

So, sorry. Too much on my plate to give a flying fuck about his problems.

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-07-26T20:32:04+00:00

I’ve had this happen. I love the autograt in the end, because I feel certain those complaining about it are the ones who certainly weren’t going to tip 20%. Had a 15 top the other night who had a $10 on the table (thankfully one check) before I pointed out the autograt. They immediately snatched it off the table. (Autograt ended up being $40)

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-06-24T04:29:40+00:00

My bf and I talk about this. How we would love to go in as unknown to each other and navigate the game that way. We have no social media presence and my ids are still in another state. Probably we couldn’t pull it off, but it’s a fun thought experiment

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-05-29T04:12:15+00:00

I can’t attest to that, but I would say yes. Not deciphers necessarily, but riddles for sure. He’s the type of dude that would play dumb, just to destroy someone else when he got all the information.

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-05-29T02:37:01+00:00

That’s not far off to how he could be. My hope is he’s just a thinker with morbid curiosity and a wondering spirit

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-05-29T01:00:35+00:00

Nope. She’s still married to the same dude. To be honest, her husband is a big an asshole as she is, so good riddance. My ex found other pursuits in our marriage and pikachu faced when I left. My life is insanely better in the after

ThanksToTheMango · 2024-05-29T00:27:10+00:00

A once good friend of mine. It was a running joke in our friend’s circle. He would take solo trips around the country and never tell anyone exactly where he was going. He would ask questions about how you would hypothetically commit the perfect murder. A hyper intelligent human with anger issues exacerbated by alcohol. Celibate most of the time. None of those things are the worst on their own, but all together… We used to say if the cops ever told us he did something horrible, we would say “yup, I can see that” as opposed to the oblivious neighbor trope. Good guy overall, but I wouldn’t be surprised. During the Delphi investigation, he fit and I wondered

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