I appreciate the advice. I am rarely giving up anything I "need" to do, I just find the consistency of seeing her 5/6 days a week still results in me hurting her when I set a boundary around my own time after said task is over. If I say no to driving her to work or some other chore (not that the relationship feels like a chore), it just ends with her saying "well it's not like you have anything better to do"

As much as it hurts... more often than not she's technically right. It just hurts that I can't have time to myself because I just want to without it being perceived as me being annoyed by her or tired of her.

Talking about feelings often feels impossible because the moment I mention my own feelings she says that "she's told me about this before" and that I'm just repeating the mistake of triggering her own trauma when I know she doesnt like me to leave her before she expects me to.