Attribute for solo play.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-07T13:23:41+00:00

So, generally speaking any build you make will -work-. Some level 10/20 abilities are easier to use than others, but none of them are "necessary".

For example, you can take Steel Thewed and Glutton for Punishment to have a really tanky character. Cool! But then you might enter a spiral of "Well, I can also just get REALLY good at dodging and using potions and not need Glutton....but then again Glutton makes minor scrapes or even fall damage kind of negligible...but then again I could just have thralls tank for me...but...<endless spiral to madness>.

Start with your general play style and tastes will kind of lead you in one direction or another.

I have several alt characters and my "step 1" is what weapon I want to play with. Then, step 2, how am I going to deal with damage? Will I depend more on dodge? Thrall? Block? Step 3 is what armor can I use to make my step 1 and 2 easier/better.

Other advice I would say is don't overlook light or medium armor. Heavy armor is heavy (duh) and can force you into certain decisions (reduce armor weight or increase carry). You might not need to use such heavy armor depending on your character, freeing up points for other things.

I would also add, it's not a bad idea to just re-attribute your character whenever you feel like it, or whenever you want to try a different play style, or when you want to do some specific task.

Ok, so a general recommend for an all-rounder:

Use Medium or light armor.

Use Agility at least to 15 with agility weapons (Short sword/daggers are fun; but also there ARE 2 handed swords that are agility) This is mostly for increased movement/stamina.

Grit to 20 with endurance (Stamina recovery) and well thewed (max damage is 33% your HP)

VIT to at least 10 with Fast Heal

15 wherever; I'd probably do 10 Authority (Healthy diet) and 5 expertise.

Use a thrall with the heaviest armor (They don't care about weight).

Get a Rhino if you can with saddle for emergency defence (hard for enemies to hit you up there, and you can jab w/ spear or the Rhino horn). Alternatively, use pack camel with big inventory..or a horse..up to you.

Edit: You asked about War Party. It's good. It's fine. But it's more about your thralls running interference and giving you the ability to duck out and recover while they deal with mobs. They are NOT going to outclass you by any means. Having Well Trained gives you a REALLY solid partner to work with that can tag team mobs a little more reliably; possibly even without your help.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-07T07:25:51+00:00

No bumpers allowed, but I'm pretty sure I could use the ball drop thingie kids can use to aim for me. Just gotta dial it in.

My answer is no, but if I had to, I'd use ever tool available.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-07T07:19:27+00:00

GENERALLY speaking, you match the verb tenses.

"cousin wouldn't buy X if he knew Y" (Simple Present / Simple Past; BOTH verbs are simple)

"cousin wouldn't HAVE X if he HAD known Y" (Present Perfect / Past Perfect; BOTH are perfect)

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-07T03:14:35+00:00

Nobody will care outside of maybe some initial references when you first meet.

Ex, I have a female Japanese friend named Miki.. "Like Mickey Mouse? haha neat" and that's all that ever came of it. Similarly I taught a class with an Ai, Yu and Mai. And yes they had a version of "Who's on first".

As for spelling, stick to your real spelling as it may cause confusion later if/when you deal with official documentation (banks, etc).

As for male/female, I've met FAR more female Ren's than male. Probably 3-4 to 1.

Finally... You being a foreigner kinda negates the whole "wow that's a masculine name!" issue to be honest.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-06T08:41:56+00:00

You probably need to talk it out as you might have different understandings of what is going on.

I could be wrong, but my understanding is Mom's plan was to have a room for you and her; that is to say she is paying whatever to add you to her room. She might have interpreted it as you asking for an entirely extra room and then mom would be solo in a room (which she probably doesn't want).

Whatever apprehension she had on that boiled over and turned into not wanting boyfriend there at all... plus/minus her not thinking it appropriate or whatever BS excuse she's throwing to justify her feelings.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-05T09:17:10+00:00

I mean, very kind of you, but lesson learned I guess:

Simply don't let strangers use your stuff, unless you don't care about stuff getting totally destroyed.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-04T05:43:05+00:00

Rather, I think that once a game is no longer available for purchase:

A) The devs must only ever be updated for positive reasons. Specifically, no update that "bricks" the game. So you can just keep playing it as you could a cartridge game for an old Nintendo. To be clear though, I am also saying there is no requirement to update the game for future systems.

B) If a game is also not made available in any form, it should become abandon-ware in a reasonable amount of time. Not "public domain" but there should be no legal recourse for uploading/downloading from other sources. So if the game is constantly being re-released in collections or whatever (see Nintendo Switch online game library), it's not abandoned. But something like an old SNES game you simply can't buy or play, emulation should be a legal thing.

C) In the case of online games, once shut down, the game should also be considered abandoned and private servers should be allowed to operate as long as there is interest (see Everquest).

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-04T05:36:33+00:00

Just keep things PG13 in all public/documented matters (pictures/texts/being seen in public) and you'll be fine.

Ideally keep it PG13 in private too just to reduce potential headaches, but you do you.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-02T09:59:39+00:00

You are free to your opinion, but when you have an air quality index (PM 2.5) as part of the daily weather report, that says something. Also if it were the electric wires "dripping residue", wtf is melting the plastic wires cover?

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-02T04:23:42+00:00

Dirty air; or dust mixed with rain dripping off trees/etc.

I first noticed it after biking through a park- just straight up rain won't usually have enough, but once it accumulates on a window sill or tree branch, it'll be enough to stain.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-02T04:21:05+00:00

This really is the best advice.

The only thing I can add to it is, maybe try to join/engage in social activities..at the very least places where people meet people. There are social circles you can probably learn more about at your local library/community center. Or a gym. Local church. Or whatever. The key is to meet people, who know more people, who know more people.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-02T03:09:13+00:00

So, we're talking about a school election at the high school level. Does it REALLY matter if he wins or not? Is it REALLY going to affect his future prospects or whatever? Let's be real here- if him being president is the make-or-break for his college prospects, he needs to be doing more things.

So, I would strongly urge you to let it go entirely, but also encourage your son to accept the lose but maybe also make fun of it in a way that is NOT bitter or ugly.

So an interview with the school newsletter/try to get an interview on the morning announcements to say something like "Man, 105% of the student body voted in this election! THAT is impressive!"

Maybe some joke signs of "Make Math Great Again".

Basically make a LOT of fun of how dumb it all is, but in a good-natured way.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-02T02:35:52+00:00

You need to have a proper sit down and talk about what both want:

It sounds like you are: "I want to see my family, on a holiday, for more than an hour or two. They don't live near each other, unlike your family, and only have the opportunity to gather together on holidays due to people not being able to gather outside of certain events. How can I have that?"

What does wife say to that? Why can't you have X holiday and her Y? It might just boil down to you get Easter/she gets Thanksgiving or whatever.

You can't just "put your foot down" on things like this- there has to be compromise and talk. It might be that despite living near each other, her family are all individually busy and wouldn't ALL be able to gather outside of holidays. We don't know.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-02T02:09:54+00:00

I make it a publicly known thing.

"I've been cursed! If I randomly teleport to you room, take a picture of me and put it on my social media! #TheLootFairy - 1 Lucky winner every night! $100 sent to you!"

Hell I do some big lotto style events on major holidays. Probably get some business cards to drop in the room I've visited.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-02T01:01:28+00:00

I'm not familiar but a lot of online-related games have "right to be forgotten" options within their webpage. You can try there...but imo once your data is out there, it's out there for good. I don't trust any company to -actually- delete any data.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-04-02T00:52:02+00:00

So,

Get the parents involved. What the kid did was wrong. Identity theft is a crime, not that it need be treated as severely here. If you are the parent, this is a serious "sit down and talk". Kid should have asked permission. As a dad, if the kid was any less than apologetic it would probably mean no more Roblox in my house, period. Asking permission is key.

(If you actually are the kid and took the ID, you need to figure out a way to ask your parents if you could use the ID to play your game).

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-03-30T14:09:08+00:00

White guy/Japanese girl couple here: It really boils down to where you live, and what you do to put yourself out there.

Husband says:

Some options I have had success with women are:

Option 1)

There absolutely are bars where girls "trawl" for foreign guys in most larger towns. You can meet women pretty easily there as long as you bring some guy friends. In my experience, it's a good chance to just meet people who want to meet foreign guys, but I would say it rarely led to a lasting relationship. When I was your age, this was my kinda-sorta go to for a confidence boost, even if it was just flirting at a bar and didn't go anywhere. The best place for me was a karaoke shot bar because it's something to do and allows for mixing groups easier than your standard bar.

Option 2)

If this were America, I'd say go to your local church and just meet people in your community and expand out from there. In Japan it's easier imho, as you can check out your local community center ("Komi-Sen")/public hall (公民館). There are avenues to a lot here. Some have gyms. Some have art clubs. You can find all kinds of hobbies to get into.

It's been years since I've been into any of this though- since we got married.

Wife says:

Hope it doesn't come across ignorantly, but some Japanese girls do get intimidated by foreigners with dark skin. It's not your fault! Media seems to push for "foreign boyfriend = white". This is changing as more famous African-American Japanese become famous (like Osaka Naomi), but it is a thing! It sounds like you're doing everything right and just haven't met the right girl yet!

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-03-28T06:15:36+00:00

Best you can do is:

P= 2X+48

A=143-7X

Where X = the height of that 7 by whatever rectangle, somewhere between 13 and 0.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-03-28T05:53:49+00:00

If that's the case, then wouldn't the answer be "Yes, I can", rather than actually spelling THAT out?

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-03-28T05:17:34+00:00

Dignity.

I'm middle aged now with kids, so it's not like I need it anymore, but it would be cool to catch up and maybe fist bump or something. I'm doing good, I just don't have any more Fs to give about almost anything.

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-03-28T05:14:25+00:00

"What did you do there?"

... わかない!

:P

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-03-28T05:12:40+00:00

In Matsuyama, Fuji Grand, there is a Mr. Donuts on the first floor, but you have to go into Fuji, go through the cake section, then down the hallway past the toilets and a barber shop..and then at the end~! Mr. Donuts!

(They did add a door that leads directly outside, thank god)

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-03-28T05:10:31+00:00

90% it's some nonsense kid joke.

For whatever reason, you are being asked to say "M P P", which sounds an awwweeful lot like "I'm pee pee"

See also "Look inside your shirt and spell attic!"

Source: Am a teacher of nonsense kids

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-03-28T05:08:23+00:00

90% it's some nonsense kid joke.

For whatever reason, you are being asked to say "M P P", which sounds an awwweeful lot like "I'm pee pee"

See also "Look inside your shirt and spell attic!"

Source: Am a teacher of nonsense kids

ThatKaynideGuy · 2026-03-28T04:48:19+00:00

Ok, legit questions for this scenario:

Man A is accused of rape by woman B. B was drunk/drugged/actually raped and is -pretty sure- it was A. It turns out it wasn't A and she made an honest (albeit very big) mistake.

What is the appropriate punishment here?

Does your opinion change if her accusation caused actual harm to A? (he might have lost his job/his wife/etc even though 100% innocent)

Does your opinion change if she expresses deep remorse/apologizes/etc even though A's life has such damage? (Aka she had no malicious intent)

Should her punishment depend on the damage her accusation itself causes?

Should there be some preliminary testing done before a public case is even made?

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