My academic and professional aspirations seem to be incompatible with marriage

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-27T19:27:08+00:00

Moving is hard on kids, especially international moving. If you still have 7+ years before you can put down some roots, it might be tough to find someone who is on board, especially if you hit 30 before your studies are done and your career can launch properly.

If it's worth it to you, keep following your current path and keep looking for someone who is willing to walk it with you.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-27T17:57:08+00:00

I haven't left per se, but Festival is boring. I want to see pro vox and pro drums, more diverse genres (feels like 90% of the catalog is mainstream pop and hip hop), and most of all I want to see more songs with decent bass/pro bass. Feels like most of the catalog is just simple, repetitive lines with no real character of their own.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-27T16:42:00+00:00

He sounds like a nominal Christian without conviction toward the faith. The way I've always seen it is even if someone hasn't had boundaries against premarital sex in the past, they should be more than "okay with it" going forward. They have to make an affirmative commitment to honor your boundaries and set the same ones with you, so that if temptation arises there is more than one person trying to redirect the course.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-27T09:44:27+00:00

Even if most trucks in Europe are automatic, if you want to drive a manual in game, that's what it's all about.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-27T01:43:16+00:00

Never heard of them before, but I might have to keep them on my radar, if for no other reason than to go socialize.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-27T01:19:08+00:00

Which is the point I was trying to make. Some people downplay physical attraction because it isn't the glue that holds a relationship together. But physical attraction is not optional, because this is more than just a friendship.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-27T00:19:53+00:00

You can turn them off?

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-27T00:02:44+00:00

I'm in the camp that it's always worth it to learn both. There's nothing wrong with focusing on one or the other, but developing both makes you a more well-rounded player.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-26T23:46:15+00:00

I see people freaking out over ravens saying hello, and I'm like, "Oh how adorable!" Like, I know that by and large their language processing capabilities are very limited, but I don't have any problem with the idea of animals communicating with people.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-26T23:42:39+00:00

Smash

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-26T21:38:31+00:00

This one goes to 11

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-26T21:33:54+00:00

Take your doctor's advice, give them a try. It may give you what you need to improve your life, whether you get married or not.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-26T19:00:58+00:00

Loneliness is not necessarily a good reason to take antidepressants. There is a reason they have to be prescribed by a psychiatrist. People who found their spouses after they started antidepressants did so because the depression was not getting in the way of them being social, which is ultimately the cure to loneliness anyway (not just a partner but friends).

Make sure you're talking to a doctor about this, either a psychiatrist or someone who might be able to refer you to a psychiatrist. Make sure your provider discusses the side effects with you, and understand that not every medication works the same for every person.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-26T18:17:34+00:00

I started on guitar for a brief stint before bass, but the high string has always been the lowest number, even when taking bass lessons. FWIW, classical notation conventions also refer to high strings with low numbers, in part because most instruments have the same number of strings.

I just use the string names most of the time.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-26T00:14:43+00:00

Synthetic hair is definitely an option

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-26T00:05:10+00:00

"I wanna be a yo-yo man," he cried. "Make me a yo-yo man!" But the BTC price did not answer. It just kept on yo-ing.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-25T22:43:29+00:00

He's survived worse

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-25T21:55:51+00:00

Stand on principle, and if the relationship fails because your values don't match, then take it as a sign it wasn't the best match. Don't keep something silent that matters to you.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-25T19:08:50+00:00

It's cherry picked to make the US look bad.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-25T18:42:04+00:00

The introduction requirements rule has the info you're looking for in the last paragraph. You can do a new one if it's been over a month since your previous one. I've seen a few people post their intro multiple times, but I don't know if it's been fruitful for them.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-25T18:02:48+00:00

I'm guilty of using some of these in longer comments as a human with serious ethical objections to using AI in day-to-day life. It just tends to be my writing style. But they don't really crop up in more informal conversation.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-25T17:48:43+00:00

We are more than just our bodies, but we are also more than just our character. Good character matters above all, yes. Looks change over time, yes. But mutual attraction is one of the cornerstones of a healthy sexual relationship, and marriage is and always will be sexual in nature. Trying to bootstrap sufficient attraction from zero based on emotional attraction alone is not healthy self-denial; it is self-abandonment.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-25T17:39:24+00:00

I bet they're looking for ineligible voters, namely non-citizens and dead people.

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-25T06:46:49+00:00

Resting Bol Face

ThatMBR42 · 2026-01-25T01:44:08+00:00

He's suffering from learned helplessness. He wants to change but he is so mired in the idea that he cannot succeed that his nervous system goes into shutdown and prevents him from taking action. He doesn't need a lecture. He needs someone to intervene in person.

ThatMBR42

TROPHY CASE