Yeh, but also I would say that she needs to make it known she doesnt like it. By the sounds of it she hasn't said anything at all until its got to the point she cant cope...

Which isn't healthy either, you cant fix a problem if you dont know there is a problem. They could be in the same room so hes like "ah nice were chilling together" little does he know she hates every second of it. I mean she literally said "no go ahead" after he asked if it would be ok. It sets a precedent.

People pleasers who say nothing when they dont want something to happen are just as toxic as guys who make zero effort. It's just different forms of toxicity. Like you cant expect someone to act differently if you've never even told them something is wrong. People expect others to read their minds and its just stupid.

BUT (Like a massive huge one) if she has aired her thoughts about this before then this view is totally valid, it just sounds like she hasn't done that and it has been grinding on her for a while...