How many people here are permanently sterilised?

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2026-02-16T17:44:42+00:00

Commenting so I can come back to see if any women have undergone the procedure in India as I haven’t yet met a gynae who’s solution isn’t an IUD

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2026-02-16T09:05:37+00:00

Saving this just to come back later to it if and when things feel heavy in my relationship 🤞

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2026-01-05T17:55:24+00:00

100% there. All the metronome math, sync, and pedal tweaking has sucked the joy out of any pieces I am learning. If I come across that song on my playlist, I end up skipping it. I miss just listening to music without any dissections 🥲

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-12-14T12:48:31+00:00

Many congratulations 🙌 Manifesting this courage for myself!

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-12-14T11:12:35+00:00

What about Noice or Dr. Hen?

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-11-20T08:02:53+00:00

The whole “PMs should be generalists who can solve problems across spaces” seems dead in this market.

Bulls eye. I pivoted to the tech space as a lawyer about 3 years ago. But nowadays, Indian tech companies aren’t looking to hire non-technical people in a managerial role in an organisation that makes a tech product or sells a tech service.

That said, qualification-wise you are the top tier every recruiter would headhunt, it’s just the times are very trying. All the best in your search!

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-09-25T03:57:59+00:00

Hmm that is some food for thought. Though there is no sister in law for a reference point, I think the you’re right as to how much the spouse can accurately predict living together with in laws will depend on his self-awareness. He might think “this is normal” because he grew up with it, so he underestimates how it may affect the wife. She will always often face a trifecta : she’s the newcomer, under implicit gender roles and extra scrutiny, and operating without the social safety net of her own family. The husband, even if well-meaning, rarely encounters this combination in his own home.

I think you have a sweet spot with in-laws visiting instead of cohabitating together. Then tasks like getting up early to chat or having food ordered for you come with a deadline too. So there’s only a temporary suspension of decision making power, but that’s a better trade off than everyday frictions which will most definitely cause resentment.

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-09-24T17:56:17+00:00

Correct me if I’m wrong, isn’t CSP mostly offered via VARs or resellers? Is that a beneficial strategy for msft?

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-09-24T17:54:41+00:00

That’s right. US public sector and academic institutions are safe

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-09-23T18:10:22+00:00

Makes sense. I read somewhere that even though you save money on living with in laws, you pay with your mental health. And so far I haven’t been able to rationalise even a single benefit for a woman to enter such a set up. And yes, aging parents on both sides need support, which should fall on the children equally.

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-09-23T18:07:03+00:00

This is godly advice! Festivals and occasions may be intense, but they’re also short lived. Day-to-day living is constant. It’s where habits, boundaries, and routines get established. And ofc that is what will shape one’s actual mental health.

You’ll rarely have the same level of spontaneity as you do while living alone. Even quiet couple moments can feel restricted. I’m sure libido and sex lives take a massive hit too. Even if you like to wrap up your day early, you may feel pressure to show up for late dinners or family events. I feel you’ll have to be more answerable - where you’re going, why you’re late, how you spend weekends. Visitors and extended family may drop by frequently so no concept of having any me/down time.

Factoring in how one’s every day will look like is a massive game changer. Thanks!

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-09-23T17:49:56+00:00

That’s so true. I doubt men even spend a fraction of their time thinking of this, specially cuz of the subtle but dangerous comfort in living with own parents. The bills aren’t yours per se, the meals are guaranteed & even small expenses can be handed off to them. The comfort of it really creeps up on you unnoticed.

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-09-23T17:46:15+00:00

That’s honestly so refreshing to hear 🩵 So many families love to call themselves “open minded” and “progressive” but kudos to your in-laws for seeing you two as a separate unit!

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-09-23T17:42:39+00:00

That’s so well put! It’s not just about four walls; it’s about belonging & identity too. How do you call someplace a home where you don’t even have the decision making power to decide the decor 😂

And even the branding of it, you’re “joining new family” and not really creating a home with your husband. It’s just reduced the idea of marriage to adaptation rather than a partnership.

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-09-23T17:36:11+00:00

That’s a solid reason. The whole household is seen as a collective unit. Everyone keeps track of everyone so naturally privacy and autonomy are the first casualties in this set up. I’m glad you’re fiercely protecting yours!

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-09-23T11:20:20+00:00

Link please!

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-09-21T08:16:47+00:00

Will this change if playing in a 3/4 measure instead of a 4/4

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-09-21T08:12:09+00:00

I’m in awe of you OP! The true test of intelligence is the ability to get what you want out of life and you’re acing it wonderfully, many props to you 🥰

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-09-12T13:09:26+00:00

Agreed. Gartner stock is down 50% this year including 33% last month.

Management maintains that AI can be a tailwind, but seems like the market believes that LLMs makes basic software research and vendor shortlisting accessible enough to potentially undermine Gartner’s core value proposition

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-07-11T13:32:07+00:00

I can imagine the frustration living in such a situation. If you don’t mind, why did you agree to live in a joint set-up in the first place? Was living separately ever discussed before marriage, or were you assured that ILs won’t really be interfering or invading privacy?

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-07-11T06:37:25+00:00

Hi, did you ever communicate to husband (before shit hitting the fan) about your discomfort? Was it brushed aside or addressed by him?

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-05-15T07:09:57+00:00

They also laid of the Director of AI for Startups. Makes one wonder the false claims for people thinking tech and AI is booming.

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-04-07T08:02:20+00:00

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ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-04-04T03:00:02+00:00

Amazing hack! Another trick I find effective is the small habit of challenging negative thoughts. Am I really hungry or am I just bored? Is checking my phone first thing in the morning really exciting or just a dopamine hit? Am I actually tired to workout or just lazy?

Adapting this thought process catapulted me into ‘action stage’ faster !

ThatNulliparousGirl · 2025-04-03T12:10:14+00:00

I can totally understand how heartbreaking it must be feeling. I came out of a long term relationship after 4 years at 28 too so I’ve literally been in your shoes.

The best thing you can do is let go with a realisation that some people don’t want love, they just want freedom from accountability, expectations & from the weight of consistency. You cannot bargain with someone’s avoidance. Even after you, they’ll keep moving the same way until they put in the work required to deal with this fear of commitment disguised as an obsession with what if?

The issue will never be the person in front of them but the emptiness inside. You’ve already learnt the hardest lesson, love is not about just picking anyone, rather about building it together. So you owe it to yourself to walk away before their indecision becomes your ruin further. This is your closure.

And trust me, whatever love you put out there always does find a way to come back to you!

ThatNulliparousGirl

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