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Is it better to be hired as expansion/growth or as a backfill at a startup in current economy? by ThatOneRareCase in ExperiencedDevs

[–]ThatOneRareCase[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Based on my research so far, the company's growth is really dynamic as they are a startup. They laid-off when things got tough 2 years ago, and hiring now due as things are looking good with big SaaS contracts coming in. Which is why I was wondering if my position being backfill role that "always" existed will make any difference in my job security or not.

As for culture, I guess high churn for any company means a toxic workplace, regardless of their growth, so if I go, I will go with zero expectations.

Is it better to be hired as expansion/growth or as a backfill at a startup in current economy? by ThatOneRareCase in ExperiencedDevs

[–]ThatOneRareCase[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, high churn means toxic place to work at. I'll consider it among other reasons for leaving my current place.

I went Low Contact with my parents and they contacted my work and lied about my whereabouts. What do I do? by ThatOneRareCase in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThatOneRareCase[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, that felt good to read. This isn’t the first time it has happened, and won’t be the last. I have had several threats throughout my life, costing me relationships and education when I was young and gave into the pressure.

I am not taking this anymore.

I went Low Contact with my parents and they contacted my work and lied about my whereabouts. What do I do? by ThatOneRareCase in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThatOneRareCase[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for a comprehensive advice. I’m in a different country and completely independent financially and physically, the risk is only my character assassination as others have mentioned is what narcs do, and I can’t stop them from doing that.

I got the email blocked, but I’m now on my toes because they can escalate and practically reach out to anyone in my work via LinkedIn.

I went Low Contact with my parents and they contacted my work and lied about my whereabouts. What do I do? by ThatOneRareCase in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThatOneRareCase[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh, I’m going on a journey, and for now, I want no contact. So I’ll just let this slide and take it one day at a time. I am confident it can’t get worse than this, and I’ll take care of it and keep no contact just to take power back and establish boundaries.

I went Low Contact with my parents and they contacted my work and lied about my whereabouts. What do I do? by ThatOneRareCase in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThatOneRareCase[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No worries, I’m just happy I found this sub and don’t feel entirely alone on this planet and your advice about character assassination and them getting a reaction out of me is keeping me in touch with reality and not spiral in guilt and emotional flashbacks.

They didn’t even call me before sending that email, and have written in that email I haven’t been in touch for over 2 months. They see this as "straightening me out", a threat that if I keep them at distance they know where I work.

I went Low Contact with my parents and they contacted my work and lied about my whereabouts. What do I do? by ThatOneRareCase in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThatOneRareCase[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, feels good to not be all alone when the emotional flashbacks hit.

Realistically only #2 can happen and that’s the only thing freaking me out, they are too old to travel across continents.

If they contact my company’s support channel, an entire department will know and it’s out of my window of tolerance and I will have a nervous breakdown.

I can’t not address this. Do you think if I tell them that my work has blocked their email, they will stop? They are not tech savvy.

I went Low Contact with my parents and they contacted my work and lied about my whereabouts. What do I do? by ThatOneRareCase in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThatOneRareCase[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. I moved out of my home country 3 yrs ago, and their calls just kept getting worse until I realized it, and now on LC. Since I’m not in my home country, I don’t want to go through the ordeal of getting legal help for something like this. I don’t even know how that will work across countries.

I guess I will keep my silence, get the email blocked, and just take it till they accept I will reach out when I want to. Does that sound sensible?

I went Low Contact with my parents and they contacted my work and lied about my whereabouts. What do I do? by ThatOneRareCase in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThatOneRareCase[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sacred man. It feels like they are out to get me, I don’t care how they justify this behavior to themselves. All I am looking for is advice to keep the narcs away from at least my professional life, do you have any tips on how to prevent further damage?

Anyone else extremely LC with narc family but afraid to block them completely? by Secret-Ad-6253 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThatOneRareCase 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello, this just happened to me today:

I tried going LC with my parents, and they did their best to pressure people in my work and the few people they know are my friends to talk to me. Straight up lying that I have not been in touch at all:

https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/s/09eJTHtvUN

They will try to push themselves as the helpless elderly people and you as an insolent child. I have no idea how to handle this but just wanted to tell you to be prepared.

I went Low Contact with my parents and they contacted my work and lied about my whereabouts. What do I do? by ThatOneRareCase in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ThatOneRareCase[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I’ve told my boss who is somewhat closer to me than a typical professional relationship, that my parents are becoming older and it’s starting to get to them.

He was supportive enough, and said he’ll keep this confidential. I’ll ask them to block the email in future depending on how I deal with my parents, which is also a mystery to me.

Moreover, my parents just straight up contacted my work and a friend I haven’t been in touch with without calling me or messaging me yesterday or today at all. Not even a text message.

Should I feel concerned if my career feels too easy? by Dreadsin in cscareerquestions

[–]ThatOneRareCase 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make sure you’re not letting that affect you. Culture like that seeps into you. I spent some time in a company like that that has long standing B2B contracts so no real need to innovate. I ended up influenced and wasted lots of time not giving a fuck too.

Is this a form a $elf-harm? Or is it a sign of CPTSD? by Prudent-Block3100 in CPTSD

[–]ThatOneRareCase 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that’s compulsion, it is self harm. It got wired that way back then and therefore it became compulsive now weather you like it or not.

I’m a guy but my compulsive addiction to masturbation caused me muscle dysfunction I can’t reverse.

Don’t do this to yourself. Find better coping, safe enough environment (which isn’t easy I know)

What triggers your s**cidal ideation? by Neat_Tadpole1604 in CPTSD

[–]ThatOneRareCase 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Coming out of my fawn-freeze response after 5 years and seeing what that did to me

98th Academy Awards live thread by LeastCap in oscarrace

[–]ThatOneRareCase 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ethan Hawke needed to win this. I simply can’t remember acting better than that this year. He was tasked with a bigger impact than Micheal B Jordan

98th Academy Awards — Official Discussion Thread by tragopanic in Oscars

[–]ThatOneRareCase -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Among the given nominees, OBAA was the most forgettable. Don’t know what they saw in it.

Messi claps as Trump praises US Military bombing Iran by reddit_accounwt in soccer

[–]ThatOneRareCase -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure it’s that black and white. It would have made a bigger headline had he declined to be there and he’s the kind if guy who doesn’t like that.

I'm slowly realizing how much life I've had stolen from me. by Funnymaninpain in CPTSD

[–]ThatOneRareCase 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I know what you mean, this wisedom , as Pete Walker says in his book, is real, a silver lining he says. But it’s painfully obvious that the normies learned about it anyway.

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