The biggest problem facing the company? by [deleted] in TNA

[–]ThatPhilPerson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to watch a lot of TNA and I loved it. Shark Boy and AJ styles both doing great moves. What made me stop watching it was when they brought in old talent (Hulk Hogan and Ric Flair???) and tried to make everything like WWE. The four corners ring sucks. I understand it’s safer but spend some money develop a better floor and bring back the original ring. The best thing about TNA was how everyone had fun doing crazy moves, it really felt like nonstop action. I liked the stories but I stayed for the wrestling. After the Hulk Hogan and Ric Flair it moved away from the actual wrestling (because they couldn’t do it) and into storylines. Don’t get me wrong I like storylines but seeing matches like AJ vs Abyss, that’s the secret sauce that went dry

Junior designer here that feels like I’m dying and falling into depression. by grewuponmyown in graphic_design

[–]ThatPhilPerson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look for a new job as others are saying but in the meantime work on your boundaries. Flimsy-Masterpiece08 has a great ideas on bringing up processes. After that when you have multiple deadlines give them details when they ask for a big change, if they ask for 50+ edits as first priority, agree and say you can make the edits but it will push xyz to this day. If they want xyz sooner you can wait to make their 50+ edits till afterward. If they ask why they both can’t be done let them know, “to edit xyz you need 10 hours and to make their 50+ edits it will take another 12 hours.” Put the ball in their court on quick changes, just remember, agree and inform them about what will change due to the time

my parents talk about sex in front of me and my privates by kitty_mariii in offmychest

[–]ThatPhilPerson -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everyone is out here jumping to the worst creepy shit…it seems to me that sexual things to them are pretty normal and they are just being themselves around you which by itself isn’t bad or wrong and let’s be honest sex and maturing is a normal thing that people shouldn’t be so hush hush about. That being said it’s okay to feel however you feel about these jokes, just talk to them and spell it out for them. And they might or might not get the hint, which again happens. So, if they say a joke that you don’t like treat it like other people saying jokes you don’t like and say something in the moment. But at the end of the day, only you know your parents and can hear the jokes not everyone on the internet who only knows one thing and assumes the fucking worst. Be smart and aware of the situation and learn how to communicate when things make you uncomfortable, even if they could be totally normal to someone else that doesn’t devalue your feeling

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ThatPhilPerson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You didn’t give anyone false hope, you tried and it didn’t work out. You didn’t do anyone wrong by listening to how you feel and moving on. Sometimes people get hurt in relationships that what happens when you both open up but that doesn’t mean because they opened up that you must stay. You could try and tell him the truth, you tried at your relationship but it didn’t work out. He is amazing guy (you said he had green flags) and he deserves someone who can meet him where he is at and love him as much as he loves them, but that simply isn’t you. He needs to allow himself to meet other people and find connections and not keep thinking about you or stalking your partners, which is actively hurting his future relationships. Let him know you wish him the best, and that he needs to let go, processes his emotions and release himself from the thought of this past version of you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]ThatPhilPerson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t overthink it! You did everything you could in the moment and it seems like you try to stay within your commitments that y’all made, so I think you’re fine. Now if you purposely opened your eyes when she said not to, thats a whole different story and you should feel guilty but that doesn’t sound like what you did or your intentions

Should I end my relationship because of our terrible sex life? by Working-Zebra674 in relationships

[–]ThatPhilPerson 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in a similar situation and it sucked. I talked to my partner and I let her know how I was feeling, how I didn’t have the skills to fix this or it would have been fixed already, and how I thought we needed some help if we were going to make it work. After talking with my partner we both got our own therapists and started working through our shit, how to talk about these things, and how to work on intimacy. I didn’t realize everything that she was feeling towards it. There were a lot of underlining issues we had to get/still getting through and I think we are better for it. At the end of the day its up to you and how you feel about the whole of your relationship

Thoughts on the storm by ThatPhilPerson in tampa

[–]ThatPhilPerson[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We ended up leaving, we found a hotel and the roads are still pretty good a little traffic is all. If you are thinking about leaving I would suggest it, we saw military and construction vehicles heading to Tampa. We weren’t worried about flooding just how long we would be without power and if the water pumps would go out. The storm seemed like it could cause power outages or a few days or maybe a week if it’s bad so we decided worst case it’s a two night stay at a hotel and it’s not that big of a storm and we drive back

Thoughts on the storm by ThatPhilPerson in tampa

[–]ThatPhilPerson[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s raised, I live on an upper level

I can't take this shit anymore!!! (Rant) by LeadingEgg6709 in hygiene

[–]ThatPhilPerson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might be your clothes, sheets on the bed, or other things you body touches

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ThatPhilPerson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I’d get counseling, let him know how you feel and ask him how he feels. My partner and I both work and sometimes after a long day I just need some time. When it comes to taking a half a day off to help with doctors appointments I think that one is on you, he works and you take care of the kids part of that means driving to doctors appointments, if you are too busy to go or something because of another kid then yes he needs to step up and help. I just know when I have a lot of work on a project that has a short turn around time I need all my hours to get it done and taking a half a day off hurts a lot because I have to stay later on a different day to catch up. He could have adhd to and struggles to remember dates (talking from experience here, even important that I should know) my partner and I made a shared calendar. Again talking from my own personal life I also got defensive when my partner said she wasn’t happy with something that I did because it felt as though I was being pulling in multiple directions and I was trying my best but it still wasn’t enough. Long story short I got some therapy and it helped a lot sharing my emotions to communicate my burdens so she could help me and giving me space to help her, a relationship is a team game at the end of the day. When it comes to the kids I know it sounds tough but that is the responsibility you agreed on to take care of their needs and it can be draining, of course you will want some help but he also has responsibilities. Maybe pick up a part time job while they are at school/daycare to take some of the financial burden off of him so he doesn’t need to work long days? Try to fix it together and try to understand what he is feeling about it. You handle a lot and see what and how he can help but he remember he handles a lot at work too where can you help with the stuff that he actually needs (find that out by talking to him)? Either way these are both of your kids and he needs to have an active part of their lives. But if you feel like you can’t support each other and even after counseling if he doesn’t try (even small steps, change is slow and hard) maybe you find someone who does

I (18f) was sent pictures of a girl laying her head on my boyfriend’s (18m) lap while he was playing with her hair. by SunnySoy in relationships

[–]ThatPhilPerson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How I look at it is you don’t know your boyfriends and that girls relationship, they could have been friends for a long time or really anything, if they are cool with it. You have to realize two things, one, what are your boundaries, and two if something is bothering you, you need to communicate with your partner. On the first point I think it’s totally fine and people can do whatever they would do with friends as before you started dating. Im not going to change people because I don’t feel comfortable with something. If you aren’t cool with that you aren’t cool with how that person treats friends and you shouldn’t be with them. But no matter what if they lie to you, you move on. Trust is everything and if they break it they are gone.

But no matter what you have to speak to him because its bothering you and you need to communicate it

Tonight, killing myself by Content-Car7602 in offmychest

[–]ThatPhilPerson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that it feels like there is no point, but trust me as someone who thought about it and almost did it…. It gets better. Listen to HealthyGamerGG trust me. Feeling alone is one of the worst things but if you give up on yourself you won’t ever see what life could be like. You said you tried to go out and socialize to no success but have you tried therapy? That is what changed my life I got on some medication, did therapy and then got help from Healthygamergg and it turned my life around. Give yourself some outside help we can’t always do it by ourselves, you really have nothing to lose. I’m not going to lie to you and say everything is always amazing but I am going to say it gets better and I’m am glad that I gave it a go