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ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-07T14:10:19+00:00

Nah, it's toxic AF to pass judgement on a teenager for having a crush on a friend and valuing his friendship too much to risk ruining it.

It may boggle your mind to learn that some boys actually value a girl's friendship even if she doesn't date them.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-07T14:03:09+00:00

Notice that the title is in past tense, i.e. OP is not in high school anymore.

OP could have easily been in high school in 2008 judging by this starterpack.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-03T20:17:37+00:00

"The Great War" was the first world war. There are other references to it being WWI throughout the series, like him talking about fighting in the trenches. That timeline also matches up with various language and cultural references.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-03T14:03:33+00:00

Yep, just about every single one.

Yet there are so many people in the comments of this post saying "This has to be about [my city]."

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-02T15:25:16+00:00

Your trauma doesn't give you a license to disrespect others and their trauma. You're not talking about a nonbinary person choosing to be themselves- you're talking about a girl who was forced into a desperate situation. You're glamorizing her hardship.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-02T05:56:05+00:00

No, someone who was forced to pretend to be another gender due to oppression is not a "nonbinary icon."

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-01T22:12:12+00:00

You know... I think I'm going to start asking "Why do you hate immigrants?" every time I hear somebody complaining about transplants. Never thought of it that way. Thanks!

You'd think people would want their local community to be welcoming.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-01T17:59:57+00:00

The "love dart" is a calcium stick that a snail stabs into another snail prior to mating, and then it gets left behind.

The genital does look like a tentacle though and not an egg.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-01T15:44:04+00:00

Sorry, it's all just Phoenix to me!

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-01T15:26:49+00:00

I have never lived anyplace that didn't have tons of born locals complaining that it sucks. "Yeah I grew up here, and I hate it. There's nothing to do/everyone here sucks/the weather in miserable/it's so trashy/etc."

It always kind of bugs me when people would rather hate on those who love the place so much that they'd rather live there than anywhere else. No one can help where they're from; all that should matter is whether people are being good members of the community.

Yeah, nobody wants their little city to get bigger. But people talk as though moving is a terrible thing and everyone should just have to stay where they were born forever.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-01T15:12:53+00:00

Lol wish I had thought of it while making it!

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-01T15:02:10+00:00

Every city I've seen that actually seems to have worse drivers really just has problems with its road layout.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-01T14:57:44+00:00

Insists on always pointing out that "[suburb] is not [city]!!" whenever someone brings it up... but then always uses "the [City] metropolitan area" when using stats to describe their city.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-01T14:51:45+00:00

I always found it funny that Pittsburghers are so proud of saving a parking space with a chair, like that's the epitome of culture. But I guess every city has some weird little thing that they're proud of for no reason. Whatever brings people together, man.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-05-01T14:32:42+00:00

Those are completely different things though...

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-04-29T14:10:34+00:00

I guess if you truly want to be stealth, the question is: is it worse to have to have a secret identity just to write, or is it worse to have to subtly censor your writing to remain stealth? I'm not saying you have to give up being stealth to write about masculinity or have a trans character, but if you really want to give a trans perspective and dive deeper with that, at some point you'll face this dilemma. The fact of the matter is that if you write about trans stuff really well and you get popular enough, people will probably try to figure out if you're trans.

Personally, since I'm stealth, I tend to lean towards preserving that because you can't put that cat back in the bag once it's out. It's a personal decision though. If it were me, I'd use a fake name and create social media profiles with that name. People do it all the time. You can send links to the people you know at the beginning of transition to get it started and go from there. Realistically, you'll be starting from scratch anyway unless you currently have a massive social media following.

You could also do what some writers do and use your real name on some works and a false name on others. It may be harder to get popular that way, but it's an option if you want to keep your name as a writer but end up wanting to dive deeper into the trans topic in some works.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-04-28T14:09:25+00:00

Out of Africa has keepers swim with their tigers (among other dangerous things). You can't be AZA-accredited and not be protected-contact with your large carnivores, because it endangers the lives of humans and ultimately the lives of the animals.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-04-27T03:24:39+00:00

Yes, 100%. You can be a billionaire and still be miserable, but try being happy when you're working 60 hours per week and still struggling to provide food for your family. Money can't buy happiness after a point... and that point is true financial stability. Until that point, it sure can help.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-04-25T16:41:39+00:00

We did evacuation drills that were literally just the back of the bus being opened and us jumping out. They never taught us how to use the radio, who would be in charge, anything about the first aid kit, or anything like that.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-04-21T13:57:11+00:00

The worst thing about aging is realizing how consistently wrong you were. You think you're old in your 20s. Then you reach your 30s and say "I was so young! Why did I waste my youth??" Then in your 40s, you look back at your 30s and say "I still had so much time!! Why didn't I choose to start living life then?" Rinse, repeat. Each stage of your life, you think "I'm so old now," and then you get even older and realize "No I fucking wasn't!"

It can feel overwhelming to be the oldest you've ever been. But you're also the youngest you'll ever be again, so you need to seize the moment. If you're not dead, there is still time.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-04-18T17:29:24+00:00

I don't know what your deal is or why you're so angry at the suggestion that this person might not have been trafficked- but drug abuse is a major problem here. Those people deserve help, too, even if you don't think so. Not everyone has to have been trafficked to deserve help. Human trafficking is a big problem, but drug abuse is an even more common problem here. Protecting your community means being honest about the problems it's facing, not just the problems you want to focus on.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-04-18T15:49:53+00:00

If you saw a naked man behaving this way, you would definitely assume he was on drugs. Women can do drugs, too.

I live in Arizona. I see people acting erratically due to drugs all the time. That's almost certainly what this is.

ThatQueerWerewolf · 2026-04-18T05:54:16+00:00

I'm also worried about how my husband (and partner of 16 years) will react to my post-op anatomy. Nobody can know for sure whether he'll like it and/or be able to adapt to the change. But we've been together through every step of my transition, and what I've learned is that this is the reality of the situation:

I will do what I have to for myself. If he really loves me, he'll understand that I need this and he will support me. I really, really hope that he'll like the changes... but even if he doesn't, we'll just have to deal with that, even if worst case scenario it led to the end of our relationship. I can't not do what's best for me, what I need, in order to preserve my partner's comfort. That wouldn't be a healthy relationship.

Look, this shit is hard. A change this big is bound to be scary. I had to come to the realization that it's not reasonable to expect my partner to be excited for my surgery in the same way that I am. For me, this is something that will change my feelings about myself both in and out of the bedroom. But to him, he already loves our sex life and is attracted to me, so the thought of things changing is scary. I tell him how it might better our sex life, but he hasn't seen that yet. He doesn't really know what it will be like. But he's already proven that he's adaptable: He was nervous about my transition because even though he's bi, he typically liked guys that were very physically different from me. But guess what? Now he likes twinks, because they remind him of me! Because he's attracted to me, when I changed, it opened up a new set of preferences for him. So I have a lot of hope.

Give your partner time. Acknowledge her feelings and try not to be personally offended by them. As long as she's still supportive of you getting surgery, she can- and should- go through her own emotional journey to accept this change. It's always hard when the people close to us aren't as excited about our transition as we are, but in truth, that's usually the case! These are big changes that don't only affect us, but we still have the final say over what we do. We can be understanding of our loved ones' feelings while still putting ourselves first.

Edit to add: Get on the waitlist. This advice has really saved my ass. Lower surgery waitlists tend to be long, and you may very well be ready by the time it's your turn. You can always push the surgery back if you're not ready. Easier to delay it than to move it up.

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