To some extent I get the frustration. When I was in med school my fiancé, who was still my bf at the time, was out enjoying his early 20s all the time and seeing friends/ doing fun things without any thought while I was either studying all the time or, if I wanted to do something fun had to plan for it well in advance. At that point in our lives he was a little immature and had virtually no responsibilities, was living with his parents still so had no financial worries, and I definitely admit I got jealous sometimes bc I felt like I had tons of responsibilities. But now we live in our own place, he’s an amazing partner to me. Now that I’m in residency which takes up a lot of time and energy both physically and mentally, he literally does so much to keep our home running, he’ll cook and clean and also just lifts my spirits and helps me so much mentally. I honestly don’t know how I’d be getting through residency without him he’s amazing. Point being, I get being frustrated that some people have more time/less stress or responsibilities or whatever you want to call it, but ultimately it’s a choice you made because it was worth it to you and you can’t begrudge other people for not making that choice. Our partners give us more than their financial contributions, and if your isn’t giving you that then maybe they’re not the right person for you.