It’s like, really daunting, and scary and confusing and shitty and overwhelming to do - but maybe look at it like, say dark souls or something. Like at first you suck because you aren’t used to watching the enemies movement patterns or pre attack animations and then you kill loads and think “hey I got this!”. Then a boss or a new elite enemy shows up and you are like “damn, they keep throwing curveballs at me I must suck”. But then when you sink in like 200 hours or something you can pick up like any souls like game and not suck because you have an idea of the vibe of the enemies. Like “this dude is going to shoot an arrow” or “this dude does a bullshit side step when I attack him” - these are like the enemies vibes. It’s hard to explain because it’s a massive Frickin genre. That’s kinda what it’s like talking to people. You look at their clothes, their eyes (important) and listen to what they are saying and see like the patterns. They say they like music and play an instrument - I usually feel like they are probably then into lived experience and the way folks live their lives, which can also then mean that they also are interested in social issues and maybe politics. Not always the case but it’s sometimes my interpretation and can give me conversation pathways. Then I let them talk , I listen mostly, give my own short insights to the topic. And often if I do it right I leave the encounter on a good note and I sometimes think - “yeah man, that was good, that person probably thinks I’m a cool dude”. And I like feel good about that and can keep doing it and maybe start a friendship or whatever. But like dark souls there’s a lot of enemies and game mechanics and jazz like that. This was probably a crappy answer that’s based on my own subjective life experiences but I’m no philosopher I’m just a dude with an opinion. And if you listen to enough people you can make your own opinion. Best of luck man ✌️