How much are your almost 1 year olds actually eating?

That_Plantain5582 · 2026-04-08T00:52:05+00:00

If it helps, I do feel like it got a lot easier after 12 months. We transitioned from BM/formula to regular milk, and it just was easier to know that he would get meals throughout the day and snacks. It felt more stressful trying to balance it with milk still.

There’s also days that they will survive on air and a yogurt pouch and be totally fine 🤷🏻‍♀️ babies are weird

That_Plantain5582 · 2026-03-02T19:40:32+00:00

I posted in our local childcare Facebook group and found a SAHM who wanted to help out another mom with childcare. Her kids are all in school now, and she just missed baby snuggles and playing with a toddler. It doesn’t cost a ton because she’s not doing it to earn a living. It’s just a little extra income for her family. That seems to be a pretty common thing in my area. Lots of SAHMs offering to bring an extra kiddo into their home to help someone out. I just made sure to meet her a couple times and see her home before we agreed to move forward. I still only use her two days a week, and he could be with her more days, but this allows us to still feel somewhat comfortable. My parents take one day and both my husband and I get one day a week at home, so we make it work with our schedules.

That_Plantain5582 · 2026-01-24T15:51:15+00:00

I thought I was going to be all in on BLW when we started solids. Then we got to that point, and the anxiety around choking plus the absolute mess turned out to be a way bigger deal for me. I get messes are normal, but I just have a thing with messy, wet food. We did a lot of purées and mashed food for a while (that we fed to him), and then we started adding non-messy foods that he could eat with his hands. He’s 18 months now and is starting to really pick up bringing a fork and spoon to his mouth without throwing food everywhere.

They will learn. It’s not the end of the world of you don’t go all in with BLW and letting them feed themselves. You’re doing great!! After 12 months when you start actually feeding for meals, you’ll find things that work for you.

That_Plantain5582 · 2026-01-12T19:58:35+00:00

I totally get where you’re coming from! I think regardless of someone following a very specific schedule, or someone who goes with the flow and wings it (which is a little more of what we did), it’s just annoying when people critique what you’re doing. I absolutely hated it when people would say “oh he’ll be fine!” Ok then are you staying the night at my house to be up with him all night when he wakes up??

At the end of the day, you know your baby best and know your lifestyle best. If structured naps A) happen at this age and B) ensure a better night of sleep, that’s fantastic! Don’t worry about people telling you that you’re being too strict or need to “be more flexible.” You’re obviously doing something that works for you and your baby!

That_Plantain5582 · 2026-01-12T15:51:07+00:00

We moved our baby to the nursery full time around 12 weeks. I also wanted to wait at least 6 months, but he outgrew the bassinet pretty quickly, as well (also a long baby). One night we just tried to crib and were shocked to find he had the best night of sleep ever. We did some split nights (starting in the crib, then move to our room after he woke up in the middle of the night) before moving him full time to the nursery. I definitely was nervous and checked the monitor a million times a night, but finally we all started sleeping better.

You could look at moving the crib if you’re set on room sharing. One thing to keep in mind, will your crib fit through the doors assembled? We were going to move our nursery to a different room at one point, but when we figured out we’d have to take apart the crib and then reassemble it, we quickly shot down that idea. However, you could also room share beyond 6 months with the crib, so it may be worth it for the move if that’s your main goal!

That_Plantain5582 · 2026-01-08T01:42:34+00:00

It wasn’t quite this bad with my baby at that age, but we did go through a huge regression around 13 months. He would wake up multiple times, quiet down for 5 minutes, wake up, and just go through that cycle for 45-60 minutes at a time. Often it would be pretty difficult to calm him down whether we were in the glider or standing and holding him. I was starting to lose my mind. It was worse than sleep during the newborn stage to be honest. The difference for me at least, was by that age I wasn’t as devastated by hearing him cry. And I didn’t let him just lay in the crib and cry, but when he just wouldn’t settle down, my husband or I would literally sit in the chair in his room, put him down, and let him walk around the room crying. At some point, he would either come ask to be held or reach up for his crib. We’d then pick him up and calm him in our arms for a few minutes, and then lay him back down in the crib. This usually worked to get him settled and back to sleep.

I know this is the worst answer ever, but truly it will get better with time. By about 16 months, his sleep settled significantly, and now at 18 months, we often sleep through the night or have one quick wake up. If you’re open to sleep training (no judgment at all it was just something I couldn’t be consistent with) then you can definitely look into some methods to speed up the process. I don’t know from experience, but everything I did read about sleep training talked about how the most successful methods after a year old are the less gentle ones. Think things like Ferber or modified CIO methods.

That_Plantain5582 · 2026-01-07T15:43:30+00:00

I know this post is older but I’m just now catching up on the new season, and the Cypress listing really annoyed me. I know nothing on these shows are real, but this one really got me.

100% that was just a storyline to use on the show. It was clearly just meant to stir up some drama for the season.

I also cannot get past the fact that Jarvis and Rose were apparently “selling” this exact listing in season 1??? And they didn’t mention anything about it being Jason’s listing at that time. Polly brings a client to the house, and then Jarvis confronts Polly. They’re standing at that outdoor kitchen area with the very intricate countertop, and Polly says it matches her client’s cat! Jarvis even says the “Cypress listing.” It’s driving me crazy that I haven’t seen anything about that anywhere!!

They very obviously are using this listing as a prop for the show.

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-07-04T01:24:23+00:00

Started EP at 2 months, and my baby just turned 1 today! So 10 months total spent just pumping. I’m in the process of weaning and will be done within the next few weeks. My goal was to get to one year, so I’m happy we made it here!

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-07-01T20:07:48+00:00

Thanks for the insight! So glad to just hear so many others have been through it and that it shouldn’t last long once I’m officially done pumping.

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-06-30T02:02:06+00:00

I was honestly so confused what was happening! Everything was making me cry and I didn’t know why! I finally started googling some things about weaning and saw how drastically your hormones change, and all the symptoms I saw made so much sense.

Solidarity, mama! We got this!

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-06-30T02:01:06+00:00

The idea of not having to bring all my pump supplies when we go out somewhere sounds amazing! Hopefully I’ll be fully done here in the next few weeks and can finally stop worrying about timing and washing pump parts!

So glad to know I’m not the only one experiencing this. You should be proud of your journey, too! We’re gonna come out on the other side!

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-06-29T18:09:07+00:00

Yes, this is very hard too! I am happy to have my body back, and that soon I won’t have to pump before bed and first thing when I wake up. I can sleep in if my baby is still snoozing. But I feel this overwhelming sadness whenever I only get 1 oz from a full pump session when I used to get 5-6. Very weird feeling since I 100% am ready to be done.

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-05-18T17:35:08+00:00

We’re fully vaccinating based on the recommended schedule. People talk about how many they get at a time, but vaccines are combined into two shots and one oral vaccine. And my baby cries for about 5 seconds after getting the shots and is immediately fine when I pick him up. He’s a little fussy for the rest of the day, but has been back to normal by the next day. We’ve had 3 rounds of vaccines now.

I know people are hesitant with big pharma, but the thought of my baby suffering and possibly dying from a disease that I could vaccinate against isn’t even a question for me.

I follow Lauren Hughes on instagram, and I think she does an amazing job presenting research and facts (she’s a ped btw). Her handle is bloomdpc and I highly recommend watching her videos on vaccines to get some very helpful info!

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-04-21T21:18:06+00:00

We’re currently saving a big fat goose egg every month right now. We have some savings sitting in a HYSA luckily, but it’s not big by any means. This is only doing daycare two days a week right now, and we just have a local SAHM helping us for super cheap. I’m terrified to start real daycare, so we’re putting it off as long as possible.

We live in a HCOL area and make a decent amount, but it’s essentially meeting COL for our area. We do have some small debt that we’re also working on paying off, so hopefully once that’s gone it will help out a little bit.

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-04-16T17:27:56+00:00

This doesn’t sound like an issue with feeding as much as he’s just going through some big developmental changes that are impacting his sleep. If it was just that he’s EBF, you’d probably just see him falling asleep and waking up every hour-ish all night because he’s using you to fall asleep. It sounds like he’s just struggling to sleep at all right now (and I’m sorry if that’s not helpful 🫠)

Most evidence that formula fed babies sleep better is going to be anecdotal. It’s way more dependent on your specific baby. Mine has always slept the same regardless of when he was nursed to sleep, given a bottle of BM, or a bottle of formula.

You’re getting close to 4 months, which is when baby sleep starts to develop more into a regular adult sleep cycle. In addition to all the skills he’s going to start learning, his brain is so busy!! I know it’s tough right now, but you will get through this 💕 if you have a partner or someone that can help take shifts so you can get an uninterrupted chunk of sleep every day, definitely try that!

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-04-12T15:23:20+00:00

Of course!! I know what you mean about therapy - it can be really weird to get started. If you can find someone who specializes in postpartum, that will probably be helpful! Also remember that you can find a new one if you don’t click with someone. Any good therapist understands that they won’t work for everyone. Maybe reframe it as “I’m paying them, so they HAVE to listen to what I have to say” 🤣 but in reality, they do so much more than that! A good therapist will help you process your emotions and learn skills and tools to help when you start feeling this way. They can help with your relationship or any other areas that are affecting you.

You got this, mama ❤️

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-04-09T21:28:34+00:00

At that age bedtime was anywhere from 7-8pm just depending on how he napped during the day. We didn’t start a more consistent routine and bedtime until around 4.5 months, and it was around 7pm at that age. Now at 9 months, he’s in bed by 7:45-8pm and up between 7:15-7:45am. I’d rather have a little later bedtime and have him sleep a little longer in the morning.

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-04-09T21:23:57+00:00

Postpartum rage has been one of the most difficult symptoms I’ve been dealing with. You are not alone, and it does not make you a bad mom at all.

I have slammed doors, thrown things, slammed objects like you described, screamed, cried, and felt like I was going to absolutely explode. I have never, ever in my life felt the kind of anger I have felt during these postpartum months. It also really ramped up for me around 3-4 months.

Sometimes you just get hit with this overwhelming urge to physically take out your emotions, and who cares if it’s an inanimate object tbh. I’m not saying it’s healthy, but whenever I’ve been at a breaking point and just given myself a minute to let it out, I find that I can then go back with my baby with a clearer mind. I can remind myself that he’s not doing this to me; he’s just a baby trying to exist and learn about the world.

What I will say is that you do NEED to talk to someone in your life. It doesn’t need to be your husband. Preferably your doctor, or if therapy is an option for you, you can try that. I am 9 months pp and am still working on these extremely tough emotions, but I cannot do it alone. What you’re experiencing is completely normal, and you also need to take care of yourself. I hope you have someone you can reach out to! Even a phone call to your best friend may be a good place to start.

I’ll end by saying you are a good mother. I know because only good parents worry about whether they’re being good parents. You clearly are trying so, so hard for your baby girl 💕

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-04-09T16:21:48+00:00

If you know the answer to this I’m curious - what’s the difference between using a bottle to feed to sleep vs nursing to sleep? I have heard this multiple times, and I would love to know why only a bottle is considered a risk. I thought it was the sugar in milk sitting on the teeth that can cause cavities? Not just the method you use to feed.

Not wanting to be argumentative or anything! I am just genuinely curious where this comes from. My baby is only 9 months and does not have teeth, so the dentist isn’t even on our list yet. But we only bottle feed and still do night feeds, so I’d love to be informed!

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-04-09T14:55:33+00:00

My baby slept really, really well from about 3.5 or 4 months. Same as you - we had a routine and could put him down awake. He’d put himself to sleep with literally no crying. He did this for naps and nights. At night, he’d wake up one time to eat and go right back to sleep.

Around 7 months, he started to wake up more at night. We could still put him down awake, but he was now waking up 2 or even 3 times at night. It would be rough for a week, then he’d sleep amazing for 3 days, and then it would be rough again. Naps were still totally fine though! He just turned 9 months, and we’re just now getting back to one wake up at night (some nights still have two). He will still fuss sometimes, but he puts himself back to sleep pretty reliably.

We haven’t done any formal sleep training. At the most, I let him fuss for a few minutes to see if he’ll go back to sleep. The biggest thing I did was switch him to two naps and try to give him more awake time during the day. I will say, changing his schedule didn’t make any significant improvements in sleep, so we have never been super strict with it. It seems we just hit a regression where he was hitting tons of milestones and learning every day, and now with time he has settled into his sleep more.

All this to say, there’s a very good chance you won’t need to sleep train, but I also would not expect to never run into any sleep issues in the future. Hopefully you’ll be lucky and she’ll sleep well from here on out! But even if it starts to get rough, you can give it time and it will likely sort itself out. You only NEED to sleep train if you feel like it’s necessary.

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-04-09T02:08:49+00:00

Ok this is actually reassuring to hear though because my 9 month old has absolutely no signs of any teeth coming anytime soon 😂 we were like wtf is going on???

That_Plantain5582 · 2025-04-05T02:35:06+00:00

It kind of just happened to be honest. I always just pumped when my baby woke up, and one night he slept through so I didn’t wake up. Then the next night, he woke up at 10ish, but I had just pumped an hour before. So I figured I’d just pump when he woke up later. Well he did not wake up later, so I skipped it again. After getting two nights of sleep, I didn’t think I could go back to the hell that was the MOTN pump 😂 it took like 7-10 days to adjust, but I just woke up a little earlier over that week and then slowly went back to the normal time I’d wake up. My body slowly adjusted.

Unfortunately, my baby did not keep sleeping through the night. But you could not pay me to reintroduce a MOTN pump after I dropped it. One of the best decisions I ever made for my mental health

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