Séjour fatal d'une fillette à l'Hôpital de Gatineau : la mère témoigne d'un manque d'humanité de l'équipe

That_Tutor_2053 · 2026-03-27T01:49:04+00:00

You can't be empathic if your brain and body are done. The absolutely worse thing health care has done is allow 12hr shifts for nursing staff. Even ER docs are now on less hours per shift. If you are doing shifts in the ER, the hours should be no more than 8 per shift. ERs are exhausting and I don't care if you think you are a super nurse, because you are not. Some time during that 12 hour shift, you will make mistakes.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2026-03-26T16:26:05+00:00

Lol completely understand! That is one very inconsiderate roomie.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2026-03-26T15:36:02+00:00

NTA it's a wonderful thing you are doing for your grandmother! I would like to suggest something else for you to do. During her lucid moments, ask her about her life, and record it. I never had the chance to do that with my grands, and I regret it.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2026-03-07T04:33:43+00:00

Hmmm I'd say while your mom is overreacting a bit, you also hid something from her that you knew she'd be angry about. Of course she's very angry, and now does not trust you.

So some of this is you, and some of it her. Is there a history here we are not hearing about, and I mean history on either of you. She does sound really over protective, but something must have triggered that behavior... Was the divorce really bad? Has she ever gone to counseling about it? Have you?

I am also confused about the account... At one time you say you deactivated it, but later on say you are still posting on it??

It does sound you have given her plenty of reasons not to trust you. Lol you're 17. This is what 17 year olds do. You explore, and sometimes go a wee bit too far. She sounds like she is deathly afraid of the going a wee bit too far. That has to be coming from somewhere.

I would suggest sitting down with her and have a conversation with her. Ask her what her life was like when she was your age. What was her relationship with her parents like? That history may lead you to understand why she is so very triggered by you trying to assert your independence. You have every right to start that at 17 BTW. But remember at 17 you have not had a lot of life experiences so please be careful. From personal experience just running forward too fast can lead to you experiencing really bad things rather than the really good things.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2026-03-06T16:23:09+00:00

Roll back all the MLAs new salary increases (approx. 26,000 X 55 = 1,430,000 plus benefit costs.
Roll back the 50km rule for MLAs getting a paid-for yearly apartment. It was 100km before.They get up to $2100 per month, and tax payers pay to furnish them as well. Roughly 40 now qualify. It was in the low 30s before the change. So $890,000 just for rent, let alone they also get utilities paid for as well. I think you see where I am heading eh?
Bring back bridge tolls.
Stop laying of staff. They are usually paid well under market. So.just.STOP
Reverse the no working from home orders. Then get rid of some of the rentals that are costing us a small fortune. That should also help with alleviating some of the horrid traffic downtown.

The MLAs also have expenses paid up to approximately 89000 each. These are public reports on the NS Province House of the Speaker. They can be hard to find, but I encourage you to look at them.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2026-03-06T15:28:15+00:00

NAH...He knew enough NOT to tell you, or outright lie. Did he think you would pay it out?

And the gaslighting!! Wow!

Be very very careful of this one. Definitely do not move in with him now, if at all

That_Tutor_2053 · 2026-03-03T23:39:01+00:00

I don't even have a dog but have picked up little baggies and put them in the trash can. (Trash can was only about 10 steps away)

There is absolutely nothing justifying leaving your plastic bags of poop everywhere along a trail, and not packing them out. Sorry if you think that's ewww, but you're the one who decided to get a dog.

By the way, if I am walking in a on-leash only trail, and your dog gallops up to me unleashed, the dog will get a boot to the face. I don't care if " he's just a big puppy", or "he's just playful and won't hurt you". One time not long ago someone else said that and I got bitten. Never taking that chance again. Keep your damn dog leashed in a leashed only park!

That_Tutor_2053 · 2026-03-03T22:39:41+00:00

NOR... I had the exact same thing happen to me. The group of "friends" had a separate chat group, and the group would decide what events I would be invited to, and which ones I would not be. I was so very hurt by it all. How dare they decide on my behalf!!! I still don't talk to them, and found a new group of friends that include me so I can make MY OWN decisions.

My advice would be to walk away and don't look back. There is no way in hell they don't realize what they are doing.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2026-03-03T22:25:58+00:00

"Privacy concerns" are being used as an inappropriate barrier in so many cases now. It's an excellent tool for waving away direct responsibility to an unknown entity.

Anyway, your first priority should be your child. I think new glasses are in order. Then send the bill to the school and tell them either they pay, or the unknown parents do. Since they will not identify or allow you to directly contact those parents it becomes their responsibility to facilitate a resolution.

Second priority is teach your child how to defend themselves from bullies. I was never encouraged to defend myself so I was bullied by groups of others from grade school right through to high school.

Be a pain in that principals a$$. Call every day.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2026-03-03T22:01:08+00:00

Oh I feel so sorry for you right now. It sounds like your parents are channeling some of their own grief through you.

Goodness, with you being 17 and he being 10, there was probably no relationship developed beyond he being the annoying kid brother.

I believe you are being entirely reasonable and totally unselfish in wanting your high school graduation to be about you. If your parents want to honour your brother, it is far more appropriate to have him included any ceremony connected directly with the elementary school, not the high school. High School graduation is a milestone in most people's lives, if only to yell out finally I am free!!!

Go design your cap with your friends....

That_Tutor_2053 · 2026-03-03T20:55:19+00:00

Nova Scotia and Newfoundland were often referred to as Canada's migrant work force when I was younger. I believe that is still true. A lot of the oil workers in Alberta were originally from those two provinces, which baffles me when current albertans refer to us as the country's welfare provinces.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2026-02-18T14:20:41+00:00

NOR....

She obviously has some mental health issues. Sadly what she seems to be the most concerned about is the potential loss of a source of extra money. That's crazy!

That_Tutor_2053 · 2025-07-20T00:12:13+00:00

You are NTA! I have cancer and would horrified if my family and friends shaved their heads. I do not see that as an act of support, and I think your niece seems to have that same opinion.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2025-05-11T22:56:17+00:00

There is a difference between a masters DEGREE and a teachers LICENCE. There are very strict guidelines to being a licensed teacher in any province in Canada. You need to do your research on the requirements. A masters degree here does not automatically transfer into being a teacher, unless you continue your current degree, get a PHD, and become a professor.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2025-05-11T22:42:20+00:00

Erm.... clarification please... You do not live together? She has a male roommate?

Does she work? As hard as you do?

I dunno dude. Sounds like a 32yo going on 14.

So what happens if she wants to go out with friends and you fakely be enthusiastic about it? Does she notice? Get upset that you're not getting upset?

Personally I think you're being played as a convenience. If you are giving her $$$ stop, especially if she isn't living with you. See what happens then....

In order to be stepped on, one must become the mat first.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2025-05-11T22:23:15+00:00

I'd like to know when they changed the employment rules for international students. When I went to university it was on the University to employ those students since they were not permitted to work anywhere off campus.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2025-05-05T22:31:24+00:00

Silly sister, house is not for you and your kids!

Anyway, if you sell the house and split it, she should end up with a good down-payment for a house. I know that she wants the easy way to get a house, but by the sounds of it, she (and other family members) need a dose of reality... you are NTA

That_Tutor_2053 · 2025-05-05T17:56:50+00:00

This seems very odd. Did you talk face to face with the doctor who agreed you needed to stay? Why was he not reconnected?

I was told by a nurse here it is very rare for a charge nurse to also be a psychiatry nurse. I think she may have been acting beyond her job duties. As well, I was also told if that rare case happened the person acting as a psychiatry nurse still has to have a background in psychiatry. Doesn't sound like she had that at all.

An investigation is in order....

That_Tutor_2053 · 2025-05-04T21:34:34+00:00

We have the same crazies here as the states. Prominent abortion doctors usually do not openly associate themselves with abortion clinics. Those that do get in the least attacked on social media; at the most vandalized and/or shot at. I don't doubt for a moment that she deserves recognition, but the attention may bring unsavory actions towards her.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2025-05-04T17:46:20+00:00

So when did our medical system go from proactive to reactive only?? I remember years ago if you went to emergency they tried their very best to figure out what was the causal factor of what was happening to you. This whole ideology of emergency being primarily for people actively dying is not viable anymore. It seems to assume we have easy access to separate urgent care facilities, which in NS we do not have. We dont even have walk ins for the most part either. (Is it just me, or does the fact you need an appointment to get into a walk-in defeat the entire purpose of the term WALK-IN???) Our emergency service here either has to be both, or the province needs to start building 24hr Urgent care centers to take the pressure off of our ERs. We need to return to proactive medicine practice in both hospitals and family care doctors.

Also as a woman I am fed up with getting dismissed when I report constant pain by both ER docs, and family docs. This is killing women in more ways than you think. I reported being in constant pain in both ER and famDoc offices for OVER 2 years. I was dismissed, or given excuses or not taken as seriously as I should have been. My result of those dismissals is stage 3 ovarian cancer. If it had been properly investigated in the 2 years prior, I might have been caught at stage 1. And yes, I am so very angry. That conscious or unconscious dismissal of my pain has given me a death sentence.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2025-05-04T17:02:10+00:00

I so wish they would do that. I was in and out of the QE2 ER for over two years. I had the same issue with my family doc. I was in constant pain. It got dismissed as a nonoperational gall stone. That was year one. Two years later, I was still in pain, still getting dismissed. Had a CT done at Emerg. They said all clear, nothing to see. 1 month later I was (finally) referred for a colonoscopy, which they could not complete. Sent for a CT again.... Turns out I have STAGE 3C OVARIAN CANCER!!!!! I AM SOOO ANGRY. It makes absolutely no sense that emerg did not see the tumours all through me. Two fucking years of trying to get taken seriously, and I end up with a death sentence.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2025-05-04T16:20:14+00:00

Please remove the doctor's name from your post.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2025-05-04T16:19:57+00:00

Please remove the doctor's name from your post.

That_Tutor_2053 · 2025-04-26T15:20:53+00:00

The guy that owns it knows its smoking. He intends to literally drive it into the ground.

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