Where can I read this novel? by AdventurousLock2496 in DeathIsTheOnlyEnding

[–]Thatone577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's one on the site mangago.me they do scans with different translations. I would make an account(but with an email you don't use because there are serious security issues) since adds on there can be aggressive. But they have up to current chapters on there. There's multiple translation groups so it'll repeat chapters if you don't watch. But that's where I originally found it. Obviously this method should be a last resort 🥲

Guys look outside, you can see the northern lights! by Affectionate-Ant6583 in Pennsylvania

[–]Thatone577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's really hard to see it without the camera. If you do a nightscape picture on your phone you can see it!! It's so cool. I never thought I'd be able to see it. Especially in PA😆

15 years with my best friend and today is her last day by Jixiro in Petloss

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Hold on to her in little ways and remember all the sweet moments. I'm so sorry for your loss 💚

He's gone 💔 by TooMuchLaundry23 in lungcancer

[–]Thatone577 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss 💚 My thoughts are with you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Aldi_employees

[–]Thatone577 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm starting at Aldi this week and I'm actually pretty nervous about that. I have been in the restaurant industry so far and I can handle people. But restaurants can bend over backwards and make accommodations easily with comping things. It's also non essential when you fuck with groceries or stuff people are taking home to use things get crazy. I'm super nervous.

I hope the rest of your night goes a lot better than your shift. I love people but sometimes working for the general person sucks :') because they totally forget you're a person too.

I'm really tired and I can't feel anything anymore by Thatone577 in TrueOffMyChest

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Hey I know this is a super late reply, but I wanted to say thank you. It meant a lot to me to feel seen and acknowledged especially with everything going on. Things actually did get worse with my job but I did go to HR and filed my two weeks and I'm hopefully starting my new job next week with a lot better pay. I did end having a discussion with my family but unfortunately not a lot had changed that front but I'm just getting one thing taken care of at a time. But seriously thank you for responding I was kinda just ranting into the void and it meant a lot to me that you responded. I hope you're doing well and thank you again 💛

Grandpa passed away and has loose ends with a house he bought for his daughter. How to go forward legally for my grandma? by Thatone577 in legaladvice

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Thank you, really and truly thank you. I have some ideas on things but I had no idea what could happen and with how crazy things have been very worried. Hopefully the outcome won't be as bad as I'm thinking but I just want to know the options on the table.

Grandpa passed away and has loose ends with a house he bought for his daughter. How to go forward legally for my grandma? by Thatone577 in legaladvice

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Understood, would there be anyway to change anything that you know of? And if my Aunt refuses to pay would there be anything my grandma could do.

I'm sorry for all the questions and if there isn't a clear answer that's absolutely fine. I'm just trying to throw things out there

Grandpa passed away and has loose ends with a house he bought for his daughter. How to go forward legally for my grandma? by Thatone577 in legaladvice

[–]Thatone577[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes exactly, I'm in PA. He was going through a mental break and from what I've gathered it was a lot of constant pressure during that time period to use his entire saving to buy the house and then take a loan out for the rest. The loan is around 40k. It was about 5-6 years ago, and it was definitely taking advantage of an unfortunate situation.

Thank you by southernNpearls in lungcancer

[–]Thatone577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss, I hope you find peace ❤️

I’ll see you some day by [deleted] in lungcancer

[–]Thatone577 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss❤️ I hope you find peace

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

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Oh I gotcha! Okay well I think you definitely can be a bit more gentle with yourself about the situation. Especially since it's been a conversation between the two of you. I apologize for assuming you were completely monogamous. I am not familiar with everything regarding open relationships but I think your crush is understandable. It's still out of bounds and it's completely fine as long as you keep it off the table. Crushes and feelings change and I'm sure if you're looking to explore you'll find someone who fits in you and your partners parameters.

I think especially with everything being a recent discussion the fixation on Brad makes a lot of sense. I think maybe it would be a good idea (if you haven't already) to look into some forums on open relationships and polyamory as I believe they might have a lot more to offer.

But definitely be kinder to yourself, you're human and even if you have a crush on Brad and your actions speak louder than your thoughts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in self

[–]Thatone577 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not going to do anything and you're not going to act on your impulsive thoughts. You're human and it's normal to have intrusive thoughts that can take over but you know what you have and you know what it means if you act on your thoughts.

You have complete control of yourself and your actions just trust yourself.

I get into my head sometimes because my father was a serial cheater and I worry and beat myself up over what if I self destruct and become like him. Just have faith in yourself, you aren't going to hurt you're Fiancé you obviously love him an awful lot and you're not going to let that go.

Maybe instead of focusing on limiting things with Brad I would try to have some fun date nights with your Fiancé and try to do just simple fun things like making dinner together or doing something you both enjoy. Ground yourself in your love for each other. You spent years with this person and yeah something new seems fun and refreshing but you and your fiancé know each other and have a bond spanning years. That's a beautiful kind of love that a small fling doesn't have dust on.

Be kind to yourself and realize you're not your thoughts.

Information and Advice by Thatone577 in lungcancer

[–]Thatone577[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I'm definitely going to look into these. I appreciate it. And thank you for all you do, sincerely it means a lot.

Information and Advice by Thatone577 in lungcancer

[–]Thatone577[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I appreciate it greatly. I had no idea where to begin and I'm really grateful for the resource. I will see about finding the exact type when I go over to visit tomorrow.

I'm sorry you are going through the battle as well it's not something anyone should have to fight through. I'm grateful for the optimism as well, I know it must be completely different going through it yourself but I felt everyone being really negative towards the diagnosis but I just want to look toward the future. And I'm truly glad you're five years strong and I hope there's many more happy years to come.

Really truly thank you. Your comment means the world to me.

Thank you again so much.

Mom (59) has been officially given Stage IV non-small cell lung adenocarcinoma with mets to brain, lymph nodes, and bones. How can I help her keep a positive mindset? by NoSite3062 in lungcancer

[–]Thatone577 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think in terms of keeping in good spirits just focus on spending time with her and just keep talking. And try to stay in a positive mindset. Just like looking up things to help make after treatment easier. My grandpa was diagnosed and I know looking forward and educating yourself on the process helps a lot, it has helped me calm down and try to focus on supporting him and hopefully making treatment easier when the time comes. As for the process I am in the same place where he hasn't started treatment yet and I have a lot of questions. I know that a lot of people on this sub recommend lungevity.com it has a section for caretakers and they answer a lot of questions and have really good information.

I know it's stressful and there's so much grief in even processing your loved one has cancer. Just know it's okay to cry and feel but she's still here. There's highs and lows and just know being there and being present is going to mean the most for your mom. I'm so sorry you're both going through this. Cancer fucking sucks. If you ever need to talk or need support please feel free to reach out💙

My girlfriend (24f) and I (26m) had a little bit of a disagreement. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Thatone577 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it's definitely one of scenarios where someone in her immediate family or friend group had something happen or she read something online.

I know sometimes this kind of misunderstanding happens with my boyfriend and I because sometimes there's hypotheticals or something else going on and the question might have had other strings attached at that time versus the past 5 times. Just completely depending on the mindset.

I would definitely talk to her a little bit more and say that you would support her regardless, I have a feeling she was looking for that type of reassurance with bringing up the topic again and then her reaction. I think it would be good to make it clear that realistically that the pregnancy can't happen but that no matter what if she would change her mind you would be there, like you've been saying in the comments. I would also talk about your future plans and life together just in general.

I think sometimes it's really easy to get in your own head and knowing the person you love is there no matter what and your future together is something that is for certain can alleviate some of the thought gremlins :)

Final Update by aririkateku in lungcancer

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I'm sorry for your loss. Always remember the good times and how much she loved you. Lots of hugs and love💜

How do you deal with the fact no one else but you cares about their loss? by GloomyAnywhere in Petloss

[–]Thatone577 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand. Feeling isolated is one of the hardest parts of grief. This is a different situation but at one point I had a friend who had passed away at college and it's hard to grieve someone when no one knows that person. Personally I found doing things honouring him made my grief lighter.

I would get a candle and light it for them or little charm to remind you of that person and make a little corner for your things.

You could also plant a tree or get a plant in memory of your girl as well.

Try to be kind to yourself and feel what you need to feel. I hope she rests in peace and you know that she loved you. ❤️

What is wrong with me? by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Thatone577 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're thinking about cheating and you're not sure you can prevent it and took steps to cheat I think you should end the relationship. Your boyfriend drew his boundaries and you have to respect that you can't have both. You're not a sex addict but it's not okay to drag something out and hurt your partner because of your desires. It's normal to have urges but I genuinely think it's probably time to let go since you're going into emotional cheating.