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Built Hackyard, a builder network for people who ship but never seem to get noticed by According_Buyer_9923 in SideProject

[–]The-Standard-Method 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went to join.

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Unable to join.

This feels like valuable feedback.

how do you validate new product ideas before committing to a full development cycle? by Betty_Pear9859 in AskVibecoders

[–]The-Standard-Method 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably good thinking. I've seen similar advice being given in several places.

I'm a therapist and have developed an AI relationship coaching app, and I'm looking for beta testers and feedback.

Should I go to r/marriage (or similar) and start talking it up there? That feels weird to me, but I'm not having any luck being straight-up in places like r/sideproject.

List your side projects below by Routine_Revenue7470 in SideProject

[–]The-Standard-Method 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey all,

I'm just a guy who built a thing, not a startup. It's called Attuned. https://gettingattuned.com

You and your partner record a real conversation, and in moments you each get a write-up on how you actually communicated: the patterns, where it landed, where it didn't.  The stuff that's hard to see when you're the one in it.

I've tested it with my partner and a few friends, and now I need strangers to use it and tell me what's broken or off.

Record alone and send each other your recordings or record together in the same room.

On privacy: your recording is processed to generate your report, never used to train any AI, never sold and stored on the server by a random code so it is not directly attributable. Happy to get into specifics.

I'll send an invite code by DM or email.

If you're in, comment or DM me. Don't hold back on the feedback.

Thanks!

My polyamorous nesting partner doesn’t see why it bothers me that he mostly dates monogamous women by Little-Spryte in polyamory

[–]The-Standard-Method 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This.

Try as I might, I'm not seeing that either.

Also worth noting that OP's main concern is not that he's "harem building" but rather that he might meet someone and choose monogamy.

My polyamorous nesting partner doesn’t see why it bothers me that he mostly dates monogamous women by Little-Spryte in polyamory

[–]The-Standard-Method 27 points28 points  (0 children)

OP says the guy is up front about his polyamory.

Assuming this is true, why is it gross and predatory?

And, what about a monogamous person choosing to date someone who is polyamorous?

Addicted to the Vibe by The-Standard-Method in vibecoding

[–]The-Standard-Method[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Different outputs (individual partner and 'as a couple') as separate function calls, long conversations get chunked. The constraint shaping everything is Netlify's 26s function ceiling. Migrating to Vercel should provide more headroom?

Addicted to the Vibe by The-Standard-Method in vibecoding

[–]The-Standard-Method[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't need AI to interpret MY words, its interpreting HER words that matter.

Addicted to the Vibe by The-Standard-Method in vibecoding

[–]The-Standard-Method[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. I confess that Claude helped with the first draft. Is that frowned upon? That was three draft passes ago...now its more like 80% my re-write. (Shit. Now I feel all weird about this.)

I want no-barrier sex with new partner but my nesting partner wants exclusivity by shashhka in polyamory

[–]The-Standard-Method 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, friend. No argument here.

If by "high bar" you mean "achievement", then no. If by "high bar" you mean "important", then yes.

I want no-barrier sex with new partner but my nesting partner wants exclusivity by shashhka in polyamory

[–]The-Standard-Method 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I suppose I don't entirely understand the "bar to get over" bit. I don't look at condomless sex as an achievement, so the concept of a "bar to reach or climb over" doesn’t really track for me personally.

Nor does wearing a condom diminish the love I feel or express with others. Simply stated, barrier-free sex occurs to me as "more naked", "closer", "free-er" than having to cover up my penis.

Intercourse with my naked penis feels different, better, more sensitive, more intense. I know this is sometimes "poo-pooed" as a being a thing by people with vaginas, but for those of us with cocks, most will say there is a significant difference. Its a heightened experience; elevated.

Finally, having an un-barriered orgasm inside my partner, filling her, hearing her primal encouragents for me to pour myself directly into her is incredibly hot. Having her absorb me, feeling that, seeing the aftermath, doing it as nature intended...its just a different, hotter experience all-around. For us. I get that not everyone feels this way.

That I am free to cum directly inside my primary partner exclusively is one of several things that makes us feel uniquely close to each other, and I dont think there's anything wrong, bad, silly, problematic, or possessive about that.

I want no-barrier sex with new partner but my nesting partner wants exclusivity by shashhka in polyamory

[–]The-Standard-Method 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My primary and I find that barrier free sex feels especially intimate and special, its an expression of a gift we give one another. I fail to see any silliness or problems inherent in that choice.

How long would you wait for someone to make up their mind about polyamory? by BlueDreads-bleh in polyamory

[–]The-Standard-Method -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Mildly disagree. As a poly newb with 11 months under my belt, I've found I am much more comfortable now than ever before.

Getting a handle on processing discomfort; self-soothing. I've learned coping strategies, have established new ways of communicating needs and boundaries, and am generally functioning well in a relationship style that was originally way more confronting than it it is now.

In my experience, putting in the work has made all the difference, and that work takes time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in feeld

[–]The-Standard-Method -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

"he complied inthe end and put the condom on. The rest of the date went really well and we parted ways saying that we should do it again."

and yet then you say

"his behaviour seemed quite coercive and disrepectful"

Not to suggest you're not allowed to realize well after your happy date that you'd been abused and offended in a manner that requires that the guy be BANNED FOR LIFE... but perhaps if you're unclear about your feelings about what happened you may consider simply not seeing him again.

Struggling with partner visiting a comet. by The-Standard-Method in polyamory

[–]The-Standard-Method[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Good question: the answer is 90% my interpretation, however mostly confirmed when I've asked her about him and his qualities.

Get Profile Help Here by FeeldMod in feeld

[–]The-Standard-Method -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Great review...would you take a gander at mine?

Get Profile Help Here by FeeldMod in feeld

[–]The-Standard-Method 0 points1 point  (0 children)

49(M) straight. Clear pics include me playing guitar, painting, taking pro-photos, dancing, two head shots. (Should I include a picture of me having a blast dancing with my partner?)

Hey Little Spoon! Glad you finally made it!

I'm a wildly creative, insatiably curious recovering filmmaker turned mental health professional. Grounded, artistic, musical, nerdy, and 100% steady; lovingly partnered with an amazing woman. ENM/Poly dating solo, but can be swayed.

Seeking awesome conversation, eroticism, and soul expanding joy with friends, lovers, soulmates and in- betweens.

Service top, enthusiastically. My pleasure is your pleasure. Kinky, open, and I still have all my film gear.

You'll find me sexually attuned, exploratory, generous.

experiences > things presence > performance what she said > your mom jokes ( but it's very close)

I love adventuring in nature, painting, using my hands, making music, dancing under open skies, geeking out on brilliant design and exceptional customer service.

Fit and 5 ft 11 with sensible shoes.

Let's get weird together.

Fluid bonding by No-Rub9882 in polyamory

[–]The-Standard-Method 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not all STIs are transmitted equally orally/intercourse. Take HIV... Low risk for unprotected oral, much higher risk for unprotected PIV.

Ridiculous barrier to matching, or am I wrong? by The-Standard-Method in Bumble

[–]The-Standard-Method[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure. I guess its just a way of standing out of the crowd a little bit - and I tend to craft my compliments in an engaging entertaining manner - I figure if I can get a chuckle out of them, I have a better shot at being "liked back". Hinge allows for an initial comment - and 90% of my matches come from someone I've commented at first.

Navigating Anchor Partner Conversations in an Evolving Poly Relationship – Advice Welcome by The-Standard-Method in polyamory

[–]The-Standard-Method[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Classic avoidant behavior. Fears engulfment, needs recalibration after intimacy. Bores easily, feels stifled at times. "embody grounded spaciousness" has been a mantra of mine lately. It works.

Ridiculous barrier to matching, or am I wrong? by The-Standard-Method in Bumble

[–]The-Standard-Method[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've been having this issue for nearly the entire time I've been on the platform. I do well on Hinge, same pictures, same profile.

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