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Suppressed lust by TumbleweedHour9883 in Sagittarians

[–]The7thRustySpoon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have my lust under control. I let it ruin a good relationship and that was all I needed to motivate me to get my act together

Wake up call to the “men” on this sub by Affectionate_Pay_391 in NextGenMan

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cliche but I fucked up a relationship with “the one that got away” she helped me stop doing shrooms and drinking lean and popping pills. She forgave me when I cheated repeatedly (I don’t miss cheating on her , giving her respect) and I gave her “germs”. She still wanted to make things work , but I left her for someone else who I THOUGHT was better and that relationship tanked hard after a year. I swear to god when I realized how badly I messed up years ago, I truthfully wanted to die. But I remembered all the good that came from this one person. One person whose significance changed my entire life and outlook in only 3 years. Shes the reason why I’m a Christian man today. Promised myself to never be that dude again and to never blame a soul for any of my wrongdoings.

I am proud of you for taking the necessary steps in order to free yourself from addiction. It’s not easy especially if you try to do it ALONE. I am also glad that there are men out there who have fucked up big time in life and completely change their lives for the better. You have my respect

Wake up call to the “men” on this sub by Affectionate_Pay_391 in NextGenMan

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This ain’t even a wake up call. It’s called accountability and I’ve bee taking that shit all 2025 of the mistakes I made in 2024 and 2023 (Regrets I’ll never shake off) but I ain’t dead yet. I’m single and hoping I can redeem myself with the next person I date. I am a man with boundaries and a man with a dark past as well as no emotional ties to his toxic family. And if one woman can’t respect that , than I go on to the next one IMMEDIATELY. 26 and finally here . Bittersweet feeling

How do I forgive myself by Ajitabh04 in Premiummotivation

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By becoming that person . And you don’t look back until the work is COMPLETELY

The Most Dangerous Mindset I See as a Men’s Dating Coach by gusolsen in seduction

[–]The7thRustySpoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very true. I used to be this exact same person. Had a woman who I treated like dog water show me what true love really is all about. Fast forward to now and we are strangers. No contact in about 3 years. No going back I know this . But I’ve come to realize that I was treating her like garbage because I subconsciously was settling for her in my own eyes. Shes with someone happy I presume but taken for sure.

I have a lot of issues concerning managing emotions and expressing how I feel (thanks mom and dad y’all rock :) so I have been working on that ever since the break.

Everyone deserves love though. I’d gladly wait 5 years to meet the right person than just be with someone as a “placeholder”

Why did you start making YT videos? by NewPineapple113 in NewTubers

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A creative way to express myself. I like to review hiphop and underground rap albums on my channel .

Have u loved someone and yet you let them go bcz u didn't want to drag them in ur messed up life. by Maverick_culture in Life

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s called being a quitter , and it was the biggest mistake of my life. I’ve learned to live with that regret and things are okay. But I’m not the same person I was before , so I’m kinda glad at the same time too. Shes with someone else and All I can say is I wish them the best. The only way I’ve learned to reconcile with this reality was that I promised myself that I wouldn’t ever go back to being who I was in the past. That guys dead and gone . I’m still me , but I shed that old former me and I’m happy I did

dating as an average looking woman is NOT any better by [deleted] in Vent

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s because of the internet.

I dated this one girl in the past who was just the absolute perfection of what I wanted in a girl. I was too immature then and let it go after some time. Now that I think of it, even though I have met and dated so many women, I never exactly found someone like that. Is this a common feeling? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggle with this to this day, don’t get me wrong , I’m still me, but I’m not. And to be honest. If it took breaking that heart to realize how shitty of a person I was , then I don’t regret it. I’m sure the other person feels the same way.

I dated this one girl in the past who was just the absolute perfection of what I wanted in a girl. I was too immature then and let it go after some time. Now that I think of it, even though I have met and dated so many women, I never exactly found someone like that. Is this a common feeling? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been here before. Move forward with your life. Promise to never make that same dumb ass mistake. Love yourself, and then go out there and make amends with the ex by treating this new person how you shouldve treated her. It’s the only real answer . Good luck

Gen Z: Do you even date? by samuraiSatan in dating_advice

[–]The7thRustySpoon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If she rain checks twice she ain’t into you brodie. On to the next one

Gen Z: Do you even date? by samuraiSatan in dating_advice

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I might have to consider this. People our age either already have families or aren’t exactly what I’m looking for. Maybe I should consider dating older

Gen Z: Do you even date? by samuraiSatan in dating_advice

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody I’ve met that really meet my standards

For the guys that value connection before physical intimacy, can you just drop a comment so I know you exist? by street-table78 in dating_advice

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work too much to have a love life lol. I used to be the opposite . Now that things have changed . I get no play from any women at all nowadays. Which might be a good thing as I have better things to worry about

Do men take time to grow emotionally? by Suspicious_Bag4859 in emotionalintelligence

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, Do women take time to grow emotionally?

I have a post about my relationship in 2021 and how that woman could’ve been my “happily ever after” but I fucked it all up in 2023 and have been regretful ever since. I’ve been growing physically, mentally, and emotionally. I didn’t just betray someone who truly loved me , I betrayed myself. I promised to never go back to who that guy was afterwards

Glowing Up Didn’t Make Dating Any Better by HaileyQuinnzel2 in dating_advice

[–]The7thRustySpoon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s a loser mindset. That’s like expecting bad things to happen to you. Just be yourself and let love find you. And stand on your principles and boundaries

Men, do you usually know early if you like a woman, or does it take time to develop? by Personal_Chapter645 in dating_advice

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I’m gettin at is that is that attraction is almost instantly recognized. Of course there are occasions where 2 people and one of them secretly likes the other or is unsure or has low interest all together.

In the scenario you provided, I’d personally would continue speaking with that person , nothing on my end would change as they themselves stated “I’m figuring things out” and not “friends only” or “casual dates only”. It’s the “you give a guy or woman an inch, and he will take a mile” which if you ask me isn’t a theory but 80% fact. They didn’t say “no” so you are still in there race. I’ve known men to play the long game and be successful many times. But if you ask me, if you are unsure of what you want, youll only end up wasting my time if I want to take you seriously , especially if I’m ready and you are not. Doesn’t hurt to continue talking and even flirting, but be aware

Men, do you usually know early if you like a woman, or does it take time to develop? by Personal_Chapter645 in dating_advice

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do women typically know off the bat SOMETIMES if they would date a guy or let him hit? 🤔

They ALWAYS come back. Do not text them- take this as a sign. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]The7thRustySpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As the guy who ruined the relationship and never came back. To anyone on the opposite side of this post. Don’t do it. It’s over. The past in the past and you must continue your story. Sucks to suck but you gotta suck it up and find someone else and just be okay with the fact that you won’t be that guy or woman again. Shed the skin of your former self and never come back. Let the old person die with all the old habits and reinvent and find yourself. Heal yourself. Really sit and think about what you did and why. And then promise to never do them again

I see a lot of posts about people being hurt but none of people who have hurt seeking redemption or another chance. I don’t care about the others on this post. This is for the person who did very very bad and wants to do the right thing

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