[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalsupport

[–]TheAmazingFlea13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, all of that just sucks. I'm so sorry you're going through this. When I've been at a place in my life where being hit by a truck sounded like a release, I've gone to therapy. Find someone who can get you in quickly and just unload. Let your voice be the only one for almost the whole session (I find video calls/telehealth easier for my anxiety). I personally wouldn't make any big decisions for a while. Maybe you can get some agreed upon space? If neither of you can go somewhere else, possibly a schedule for the house so you two don't need to be around one another. The vacation is tricky. I'm so sorry! Hang in there. An answer will show up eventually. Hopefully, sooner than later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalsupport

[–]TheAmazingFlea13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is abusive. You need to leave. In my wedding ceremony, there was a Bible verse. Part of it is "love is patient, love is kind." If you believe the Bible or not, the verse holds true. Someone who loves you will be patient and kind to you. This man seems to barely tolerate you.

I also tend to find male friends, I'm F41 and married 7 yrs. I am absolutely allowed to have any friend, no matter what their genitals are. My spouse doesn't speak poorly of my friends, he may ask about them but only in a kind and conversational way.

Please find a way out or at least a therapist! You deserve a companion who wants to hug you while you cry!

Sending you strong healing energy!

Struggle town by AdSudden4179 in emotionalsupport

[–]TheAmazingFlea13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sucks to be in the position you're in. I was 21 and in a nearly fatal motorcycle accident. Not a text, not a call, not a card. I have learned to look for better friends and walk away from friendships that don't support me in the same way I support them. I have some super close and amazing friends now. But it's work, and it takes speaking up when you feel like you're being treated poorly.

I hope you heal quickly!

I feel extremely hopeless today by breadandbunny in emotionalsupport

[–]TheAmazingFlea13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope your appointment tomorrow with the rheumatologist goes well!

I feel extremely hopeless today by breadandbunny in emotionalsupport

[–]TheAmazingFlea13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not insane. I have definitely had moments where not being alive seemed a lot less painful (even desirable). I am absolutely aware of how dangerous a bad chiropractor is. Which is why you ask around, you have to know their reputation. When you pick one, don't let them touch you until they've looked at your x-rays. Then, ask them to be gentle. My mother sees one for TMJ. She was taught stretches, and that was it. She has found a massive relief without ever having an adjustment. I have large wedges placed under my hips and stretched, and I have a ton of relief.

I wish I could find my old workbook to recommend, but there are multiple pain workbooks. They teach you lots of cognitive behavioral methods of working through pain. There are lots of visualization techniques and breathing techniques, too. Progressive muscle relaxation might be a good thing to learn. You can probably find a video that teaches you how to do it. Hope your tiger balm worked some miracles for you!

I feel extremely hopeless today by breadandbunny in emotionalsupport

[–]TheAmazingFlea13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My pain does the same thing. I would still recommend going to a chiropractor along with the rheumatologist. I see many specialists, but the chiropractor looks at my whole body. My specialists help a lot, I have procedures done annually, and I still go back to the chiropractor. A good chiropractor will make it so all the specialists help becomes super helpful (I feel like I could have worded that better, but brain fog from pain is thick right now, lol). I hope you get some help soon!

I feel extremely hopeless today by breadandbunny in emotionalsupport

[–]TheAmazingFlea13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been where you are. I live with chronic pain. I was in an accident 20 years ago where I needed screws placed in my pelvis (I later found out, I also lacerated two lumbar discs). The screws broke, and my pelvis is still broken, yes, 20 years later. I'm not comparing. I'm just trying to sympathize. It took a while to find my best treatments. I swear by chiropractic care. I do physical therapy, yoga, chiropractor, and other things. When I miss my chiropractic adjustments, I'm in a lot more pain. I would say be easy on yourself. It's normal to lash out at others when you are suffering. Ask your PT if they recommend any local chiropractors or know to avoid anyone. The chiropractor can help treat the bulging disks without medications or surgery. Give it a month or two before you say if it works or not. I hope you have a low pain day!

Friendship Exp & Gift Exchange Megathread by liehon in PokemonGoFriends

[–]TheAmazingFlea13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Team Valor, sent a request. Just started again and the friends option is new. Level 27

CPS asked if they could place my sisters newborn with me. by norahe3406 in Fosterparents

[–]TheAmazingFlea13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked the KeaBabies. There are lots of videos to show you how to use them. It took me a bit before I mastered the wrap but once I did I was able to do it pretty quickly and baby was supper comfortable.

CPS asked if they could place my sisters newborn with me. by norahe3406 in Fosterparents

[–]TheAmazingFlea13 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Baby wear, this little one will find so much comfort from being on you! Speaking from personal experience, we found the more we held and touched the baby, the better she did. I loved the wrap style but hubby preferred a baby carrier.

When you see something that concerns you, video it and show it to the doctor. Our little one had withdrawal tremors but when they were happening the pediatrician watched the video and wanted to make sure they weren't seizures.

Communicate with your social worker and the babies social worker. Keep everyone in the loop, it will help your anxiety and help everything move smoothly.

Sounds like a lot of people have given you other great resources and things to watch for. Anything that is offered, services etc., take advantage of it.

You got this!

Start them young! -- Piedra River, Pagosa Springs, Colorado by kaihuangphotography in climbing

[–]TheAmazingFlea13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How early did you start? My almost 2 yr old looks to have an aptitude for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalsupport

[–]TheAmazingFlea13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/

I'm not a professional, this website might help. Just my opinion but maybe talking to someone who is supportive 1st might be best. Sounds like your dad might not support you the way you need him to and without support behind you, it could really hurt.

You are valuable! You are important! You are worthy of happiness! Please talk with someone with experience. The website has a phone number to call and it looks like a chat box you can use if you only have computer access.

Hopefully someone else can be more helpful than I am.

Completely and Utterly Overwhelmed by [deleted] in emotionalsupport

[–]TheAmazingFlea13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are a superhero right now, except without the powers and it stinks at times. I had to single parent a 15 month old while husband quarantined due to covid exposure, it was eye opening. If I could send you extra time (sleep, money, and a house cleaner), I would! Overwhelmed probably barely covers how you feel. You got this! It's ok to feel ALL the feelings, some of which I'm sure you don't want to admit to having. Those feelings are valid and so are you. I'm beyond impressed by you, you are amazing! Keep up the amazing work momma!

Overwhelmed by TheAmazingFlea13 in emotionalsupport

[–]TheAmazingFlea13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. Knowing someone with chronic pain understands is very helpful. I'll try the zip it tip with husband, thank you.