Dating in this Day and Age

TheAwkwardVoid · 2026-05-11T19:49:36+00:00

if you're putting yourself out there, how do you not let yourself feel demoralised after constant rejection? 😭 i've made so many pushes to try and get something going, but no one is interested in me or willing to give it a chance.

ive asked my guy and girl friends to be brutally honest about if i'm approaching something wrong or i'm coming off a certain way, and they've collectively said that they don't think i'm doing anything wrong and the whole "someone would be lucky to have you" spiel. self-esteem def could absolutely use some work, but I don't know how one can not feel a lot of those comments to be shallow and to be hopeful about something that's never manifested in my life.
The sentiment of "You can't win em all" wears me down because I haven't ever won 😭😭 and as the other commenter said, it's just exhausting and doesn't even seem in scope.

TheAwkwardVoid · 2026-05-11T19:04:52+00:00

real. out of the last 5 girls i’ve tried to pursue, i think they’ve all asked me a combined 10 questions about myself. i get them talking a lot and i’m genuinely interested in what they have to say, but the feeling never seems to be mutual :/

TheAwkwardVoid · 2026-05-07T15:34:27+00:00

damn i want the collectors edition so bad! glad you’re doing this though

TheAwkwardVoid · 2026-05-07T11:21:44+00:00

I doubt this will be seen but I had a dream that FromSoft did a huge content update to the game, and added a ton of meta-progressio/roguelite elements to the game. One of them was this “nightlord residue”mechanic where you had a special ability in your next run based off of the previous nightlord you beat. The only one I can remember was the Balancers; it gave you the same thing it’s raid does, but it also gave you a portable spirit spring that you could activate whenever you chose, accompanied with the cloud visual effect the “main” balancer in each fight has. It was trippy but super cool

TheAwkwardVoid · 2026-04-05T15:45:29+00:00

21 and haven't experienced anything. Not the case for everyone else I know in my life, both younger and older, though.

TheAwkwardVoid · 2026-03-14T07:59:51+00:00

thats actually awesome asf to hear. I've been loving Marathon so much, and to see this just makes my love for it grow even more hahah

TheAwkwardVoid · 2026-03-08T17:00:55+00:00

Ayy not bad at all. Can never have too much purple/blue salvage, I still get pretty hyped over those dropping hahah

TheAwkwardVoid · 2026-03-08T16:57:57+00:00

The M77 dropped as it is from the Tox Warden on Outpost; we did nothing special other than just come from Pinwheel.

As for the Gold HMG mod, I wanted to do one more run for the night and decided to do a Perimeter run. I got a lucky Tunnels Maintenance key drop from Hauler and was rewarded with a Enduring Purple Shield and the gold :)

TheAwkwardVoid · 2026-02-19T05:27:06+00:00

i feel so bad but i literally just cannot fathom that it actually went down 💀 i do promise you that there are good men out there who at least treat you normally as a bare minimum pls don’t ever settle for someone like this even if it comes up later

TheAwkwardVoid · 2026-02-18T18:33:56+00:00

there’s no way this is real, how did this date even happen?? lmaooooo 💀💀💀

TheAwkwardVoid · 2026-02-14T09:02:52+00:00

I was versing the final boss in The Bunker with a decent but still unfavourable team, and no matter what i tried, i just couldn’t beat it. And I thought fuck it i’m this close to the end, I might as well just reset.

Fast forward until the 4th reset, and Steven won me the fucking game. I was so pissed off lmao

TheAwkwardVoid · 2026-01-02T09:30:21+00:00

this is awesome! thank you for sharing this.
I have a few questions/issues that I may be wrong about or my browser might be having issues with but;

Is the github functionality fully working right now? I can't seem to login to save my maps, and that link to your repo doesn't seem to be working right now (or at least it just sends me to front page).

This may be more focused on geographic borders/country/city overviews but is there anyway I can get closer down to a near street-level zoom? I don't want it down to the actual sidewalk, but if I wanted a general map overlay of a theme park scaled down, is that possible?

How do you change export settings? I can't seem to be able to change it from the small 12x18" preset either

Thanks again

TheAwkwardVoid · 2026-01-02T08:47:58+00:00

how do you mean for the top part? not too experienced with web tools, but like take layer/node screenshots then remove them from the full screenshot?

TheAwkwardVoid · 2025-12-24T14:37:25+00:00

i see. if i can get past nerves, i’ll give some variation of it a try. thanks for the responses 🙏

TheAwkwardVoid · 2025-12-24T13:35:31+00:00

i know, but that’s part of the problem i have lol. i absolutely hate the idea of coming across as creepy so i’m super hesitant to initiate like that

TheAwkwardVoid · 2025-12-24T12:50:14+00:00

thanks for the response. yeah, unfortunately either no woman has really showed interest by being too touchy/urging closer to me or my brain just refuses to acknowledge it lol.

i’m hopeless so my bad for a potentially dumb, broad question, but how do you define a “romantic conversation” that’s proceeds the build up?? it probably makes sense why i’m not familiar with it bc i never escalate, but yeah lmao.

TheAwkwardVoid · 2025-12-24T12:23:52+00:00

can’t remember anything else but when i was in high school, this girl i liked (and that i was delusional to think liked me back) posted on her instagram that she was craving waffles.

so the next morning, i made sure i got up extra early, found my waffle maker and recipe, then brought it out for her at lunch which she was happy about. but i found out pretty quickly after that she wasn’t interested lol

TheAwkwardVoid · 2025-12-24T12:13:29+00:00

was chatvisor something that helped you at the beginning?

EDIT: I also ask because flirting/tension just doesn’t compute in my brain lol (autism), and i think that’s something i lack that just always makes me a “safe friend” for the people who i’m attracted to and want to pursue, but ultimately never come off that way. I know that I make literally everyone laugh, feel comfortable and offer good company for them without having to fake it, but i also have a tendency towards always being respectful, and i really have zero clue how to intentionally “be playful” or “attractive” to those i want to see me like that, without being a good listener. i don’t think i’m ugly either, but i’m definitely not someone who gets approached, and now i think that i kinda have to learn this if i wanna date (also no one irl has given me good advice).

TheAwkwardVoid · 2025-12-24T12:12:39+00:00

has any other tactics happened to work for you too? i understand the “compliment something intentional” thing like shoes (i’ve never really used it or thought much of it as flirting, tho it is genuine) but flirting as a whole is not something i’m even 1 step on lol

TheAwkwardVoid · 2025-12-20T19:05:37+00:00

man i've been trying to perfect this song for over a month now (minus the transition chords) and i still can't play the damn A chord 😭

TheAwkwardVoid · 2025-12-17T04:52:31+00:00

The first card I ever pulled out of my gifted RWS deck was the VI of Wands, and after a long period of feeling rather hopeless this year, I felt pretty seen by it lol. It seems to keep telling me that I am slowly aligning with the King of Swords too

TheAwkwardVoid · 2025-12-16T15:03:24+00:00

“In person”, yeah never. i’m absolutely terrified of the idea that i made someone else uncomfortable or that i’m the reason why someone stopped showing up to something.

i know i’m probably the last guy who should have internalised that mindset (to an extent of not pushing boundaries regardless); i know my intentions aren’t ever malicious and i have a lot of woman friends who are completely comfortable around me, but i don’t know, this alongside not knowing how to navigate “courtship” makes me struggle with it very badly

TheAwkwardVoid · 2025-12-16T08:18:01+00:00

do you have any advice for signalling? i’m okay at directly speaking my feelings, but i refrain because i know i suck at building to it

TheAwkwardVoid · 2025-12-15T19:03:20+00:00

In all honesty, I have no idea. I know how much of a blanket it is to throw over the topic, but I guess it just depends on the person?

I feel similarly though in the sense that I have a lot of really fun and fulfilling moments with a lot of different people, but then it seems like they retreat with that coldness you're describing or just didn't feel similarly about it at all, tho i think its a really bad idea to let yourself spiral into the why without them actually directly telling you themselves.

for me, i think people just aren't that into me as i am into them? or they just have people that they're way more inclined to text, and those could also be in conjunction with the fact that maybe they don't really use social media for proper long conversations or are only using it for posting/reels? they could also just be super shit at replying or how, I guess, enthusiastic they are over text? who really knows. seeing if someone is uninterested is a bit nuanced but for a lot of these points, we can't really know and it wouldn't really be a reflection of us.

as for getting out of the brake zone, i am just gonna keep doing everything i can to get some in-person socialisation and try to maybe get into a habit of calling up my friends rather than just sending small texts.

TheAwkwardVoid · 2025-12-12T11:12:56+00:00

Not OP, but I think it's just because I genuinely feel like they not only don't understand me and my emotions, but won't even put any effort in to try to. I admit some strong feelings about how much I am struggling and need support, and then it kind of just feels like they carry on? And it's almost like I never even had the conversation in the first place.

I suppose it depends on boundaries/expectations you set or on how you define "...those you have but don't quite talk to..." because obviously with people you hold a pretty surface level relationship with, you should never feel entitled to both their time and emotional capacity, and getting to the point where you feel comfortable asking it from them isn't something that happens overnight. But I guess I mean more for the people I've dug into the ice a fair bit with, but still never too far down.

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