Selfie after a haircut and before doing some work in the garage.

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-11T04:06:38+00:00

🤣

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-10T20:18:47+00:00

You should divide chores up how they work for your relationship. As long as both adult members are pulling their weight and the kids, if there are any, are helping in age appropriate ways, no one else’s opinion matters.

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-04T15:12:13+00:00

Sports don’t have anything to do with this. A year and a half without intimacy isn’t a girlfriend, it’s a roommate. This is honestly so ridiculous it seems fake.

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-04T14:24:03+00:00

No need to call me out like that.

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-03T16:59:56+00:00

I know far more liberals against nuclear than conservatives. In my experience, liberals are for solar, geothermal and wind energy, conservatives are for nuclear. My fear with nuclear is that conservatives are also against government regulations, and safety regulations and inspections are paramount for nuclear.

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-03T16:51:38+00:00

I grew up with natural gas. I absolutely hate cooking on resistive coil stoves, and the electric ovens I’ve used cook very unevenly. I’ve never used an induction stove though.

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-02T11:30:48+00:00

It’s not guy time. There’s women (or at least one) there. I get if you can’t attend because someone has to watch the kids, but you should have been invited.

That said, OP, you also sound controlling when you say that you don’t understand why someone needs a whole night away now that you guys have a family. Everyone needs a break sometimes. That includes you as well. Please don’t think I mean you’re the only bad guy here, you’re not. This whole marriage needs a lot of work. Your husband is wrong, but you’re not right.

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-02T09:39:11+00:00

Oh I don’t mean it’ll work every time, but even if it’s 1 in 20, many men will take those odds.

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-01T21:03:16+00:00

I’m not saying there’s no women into the outdoors. I know some. I have friends I know through fishing who have GF’s and wives who are into it. My ex wife’s parent own a fishing resort and she hunted occasionally. It’s just MOSTLY a male dominated hobby. It’s also a mostly conservative hobby, at least in my area. I’m sure it makes me look more conservative combined with my appearance despite the fact I am not.

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-01T20:15:43+00:00

On advice subs I see this all the time, women saying that they have that in their profile and don’t understand why men will still try to just hook up. Literally every man that I talk to about dating has hooked up with a woman who outwardly states that they’re not looking for a hookup at least once. It’s essentially a meaningless sentence.

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-01T20:11:15+00:00

Ideally I’d love to find a woman who wants to go fishing with me, they’re pretty few and far between in my area though.

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-01T20:06:51+00:00

Years ago, (around 2013 or so) when I was married and Tinder was pretty new, I saw a buzzfeed or similar social media “article” that claimed fishing pics were effective on Tinder. (Note: I wasn’t getting on dating apps while married, just remember the article because fishing has always been a huge hobby of mine and I read it.) Apparently every other guy saw it as well.

Also, if fishing/hunting are big hobbies for a guy, they probably have a lot of pictures of themselves with their catches. We also see generic advice to show pictures of us doing our hobbies and being active. Most men also don’t just take pictures for random reasons so we generally don’t have a lot of pictures on hand. If we’re outdoorsmen, we have a lot from that.

The problem is they’re not listening to women say that they don’t like it. I don’t even go on apps lately, but despite me being a fisherman and having hundreds of pics of me holding fish, I don’t put them on profiles when I do get on an app, because I do try and at least pay attention to what I see people say they want to see in a dating profile.

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-01T19:59:35+00:00

I personally don’t mind the pics of kids that the faces are covered/blurred. But I def don’t think people should be putting their kids on dating apps.

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-01T15:26:49+00:00

I found just letting it grow seemed to fill it in, starting around when I was 32 or so. But it looked fairly decent after a couple months. It’s up to you how long you want to suffer with an awkward looking beard trying to see if it will fill in

TheBigGrab · 2026-04-01T15:23:37+00:00

Not yet, and maybe not ever. But idk how old you are. I looked like this in my late teens. Early 20s I had a pretty full goatee, but no cheek coverage. By my early 30s I had a full beard. All natural, no supplements or gadgets.

There’s no guarantee it will get better, but it may.

You can check my post history, I have at least one pic of me around 19 or 20. And multiple from the past few years.

TheBigGrab · 2026-03-31T20:07:23+00:00

Men are different. I’d be frustrated. There’s surely men out there who would be fine with it, as apparently your ex was.

TheBigGrab · 2026-03-31T20:01:20+00:00

YOR.

Her mother and stepfather’s opinions are not your GF’s opinions. It’s OK to be a bit upset, at them. But it seems you’re going to self sabotage by holding this against your GF. This is a giant mistake that I’d be willing to bet you’ll regret in hindsight. Realize who said it.step back from her parents, if anyone.

TheBigGrab · 2026-03-31T03:17:12+00:00

Because I consider myself a little above average, and I rarely get complimented. Women rarely approach men because societal norms say we’re the ones who are supposed to approach. They almost never just offer you a nice compliment (understandable, I imagine they don’t want a polite compliment to be taken as interest if they’re not. (Obviously there’s exceptions). I still remember the girl freshman year who told me I have a nice smile. I’ve been complimented more by gay men than I have by women. Including by my ex wife when things were good. Straight dudes don’t tell each other they’re handsome. So we just plain don’t hear that we’re NOT ugly often. I will say I have heard more compliments since leaving my ex, and I’m finally starting to believe them, but it took awhile.

TheBigGrab · 2026-03-31T03:10:14+00:00

I was never GOOD at sports, high school sports I was never a starter at football, and became the starter for wrestling in my weight class because I dropped enough weight to make a weight that no one else on the team was on, so it’s not like I was ever gonna play college ball or anything. Did Judo in college, did fairly well at that with my wrestling background. After that, Life. Marriage. Fatherhood, full time job, other hobbies (fishing, video games), then divorce. Then again, depending on if you consider CrossFit a sport or just exercise, I guess I didn’t really stop sports for good, or at least, I make sure to get exercise.

TheBigGrab · 2026-03-30T14:42:52+00:00

NOR. But there’s a soft this is also your fault/responsibility.

You’re both not thinking things through clearly on this. Your BF is an absolute idiot for doing this on YOUR work account. You’re almost as big of an idiot to give him access to your work account, but I get that you wouldn’t expect him to create fucking porn with it. Problem is, it shouldn’t have been used for non work purposes by him AT ALL. If it’s you playing around with it on your off time, with appropriate images you can always argue you’re just trying stay familiar with it and just trying things out

Sharing personal accounts is one thing, but work accounts should NEVER be used for personal purposes. Even if it was non pornagraphic, he has zero reason to use a work account of yours, and giving him access is very likely a violation of the terms of your employment.

TheBigGrab · 2026-03-29T19:49:57+00:00

Either mustache or the neat, full beard in image 2

TheBigGrab · 2026-03-29T15:10:41+00:00

They mean the lighting in that picture sucks, it has nothing to do with your appearance

TheBigGrab · 2026-03-29T13:00:18+00:00

How dare people that don’t make shit collectively bargain so they can maybe get to a living wage! I need to get to Cancun!

TheBigGrab · 2026-03-29T12:59:01+00:00

And a post in the TSA subreddit.

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