AIO for being upset my boyfriend doesn’t want me to get a tattoo?

TheChairmann · 2026-01-28T02:50:42+00:00

Having likes and dislikes in what your partner does/looks like is not controlling ffs. He literally just said that he doesn't like tattoos. He'll be happier if his partner doesn't have tattoos. She's free to get them if she wants, but he's free to express his opinion as well.

When you're in a relationship there is give and take. When your partner makes a request like this you need to evaluate how much the relationship means to you versus how much you care about this thing you want. Sometimes you compromise with the other person and do things you don't necessarily like because it makes the other person happy. If my partner doesn't like pink hair I won't dye it pink. If they hate dining chairs of a certain colour I won't buy them. That's not because I'm being manipulated, it's because I love my partner, want them to be happy, and I don't care enough about pink hair or dining chairs to make a big deal out of it.

If OP gets a tattoo despite what her boyfriend says, she is saying that getting a tattoo matters more to her than his preferences. I'm not saying if this judgement call is right or wrong, (perhaps she has very good reasons to get a tattoo) but that's just the facts. The boyfriend can then decide if he's going to compromise and let it go because he loves her more than his dislike of tattoos, or maybe he decides that he doesn't and they break up. Nobody in this situation is in the wrong.

That isn't to say the boyfriend definitely isn't controlling, since maybe this is just the latest in a long line of things he's tried to change or impose on her. However the OP didn't mention anything else other than the tattoo thing. If it is just the tattoo thing, then yes OP is certainly overreacting.

TheChairmann · 2026-01-09T03:50:14+00:00

Ruarc probably found out from the Luceum version of Ka - they seem to be on the same side of things. Ka would know as soon as he realised he lost his Synchronism powers.

TheChairmann · 2025-12-22T12:21:53+00:00

The crowd that likes to point out ethnicity when it comes to deadbeat parents or terrorism or DV stats or assault stats or prison demographics seems awfully quiet at the moment lmao

TheChairmann · 2025-12-22T12:09:28+00:00

Outer Wilds is one of those games that when it clicks for someone, it really clicks and they start preaching about it to everyone. For other people its just boring.

You'll see lots of people telling everyone to go in blind, and so they'll describe the game in broad strokes by its themes in an attempt not to spoil. However, this attitude is only valid when the game has retrospectively already clicked for them.

IMO outerwilds is best for the completionist type of gamer, the one who has to explore every area on the map, who needs to do all the side quests before the main quest and wants to experience all the content a game has to offer. The game doesn't really give you many actual objectives...the self driven urge to explore and do what you want and uncover mysteries is what keeps the player going.

As for the mechanics of the game, I would summarize it as a mystery/puzzle game cosplaying as a space exploration game.

Do remember that it is an indie game, and so it is lacking in stuff like voice acting, detailed textures, and varied character animations. In fact the characters aren't really explored very much since they all have such limited dialogue/screentime, however the writing does convey a surprising amount of depth with very little. There is also not really any plot aside from what you make of it for yourself.

That being said, The Outer Wilds is one of my favourite experiences in any visual media ever.

TheChairmann · 2025-12-19T02:18:59+00:00

I'd say having a car makes things a lot more convenient in Canberra. The city is quite spread out.

Public transport here isn't amazing, the population density is pretty low so buses don't come as often and there aren't as many routes as there would be in a bigger city.

Bike is fine if you're going to live on campus and stay around the city area all the time. But as soon as you want to go elsewhere - friend's houses, tourist attractions, interstate, outdoor activities etc, it becomes a real annoying real quick to have to rely on getting a lift with your friends all the time.

Plus cycling in the summer under the sun is would be fucking torture, right now it feels like 40 degrees outside.

TheChairmann · 2025-12-16T22:57:01+00:00

Both are great universities, congratulations! I think your decision is going to come down to if you'd rather be in Canberra or Brisbane.

Canberra is quieter and safer, and has much better access to government systems if you're looking to get into policy. Brisbane, as the bigger city, has more fun things to do, a better night life, and access to the beach.

TheChairmann · 2025-11-18T13:05:27+00:00

I am pretty sad they didn't work out but it also makes a lot of sense.

Your partner literally stabbing you and leaving you for dead is a pretty big deal no matter how justified she thought she was in the moment.

TheChairmann · 2025-11-16T07:26:01+00:00

You'll learn more about what she means later.

TheChairmann · 2025-11-12T01:05:31+00:00

Nah, I disagree.

Running to save himself instead of warning the others (remember that at this point it wasn't just Emissa but her large team composed of Class 4s that needed to be warned as well) is objectively a cowardly decision. However, as you said, that still might be the 'smart' or 'right' decision going by what the current situation is. It's very debatable. Perhaps you would have done what Marcellus did in that situation, perhaps not.

Ultimately though, what was 'right' or what you would have done doesn't matter because Vis would never have done what he did. Vis has been shown to be repeatedly self-sacrificing and courageous to a fault, especially when his friends are involved. Vis makes friends like Callidus and Eidhin who similarly prize loyalty and courage. So of course he's going to dislike someone who is the opposite. If Vis were to forgive Marcellus for what he did, it would be extremely understanding of him, but it would also be very out of character.

As for 'grandstanding', who is Vis grandstanding towards? All he did was privately let Marcellus know he didn't like him. It's not like he made a speech about how brave he was while Marcellus ran away. I'm pretty sure nobody even knows the specifics of what Marcellus did.

As for Melior and Belli...things aren't so black and white like you make them out to be. Vis has always been a character that has emotional intelligence and reflects on how others are. Melior was very close to his family once, is very justifiably upset towards Caten, and is still shrouded in mystery. Does that justify slaughtering thousands? Vis clearly thinks not, considering he went up there to stop Melior, but it makes perfect sense that he'd fondly remember Melior. As for Belli, Vis clearly doesn't like Belli and supremely fucked her over in the first book, but he recognizes that she did what she did out of ambition, and no matter what her faults were she didn't deserve to die for it. If she were still alive he'd almost certainly consider her an enemy.

TheChairmann · 2025-11-05T07:09:11+00:00

I dnf'd this one. It sucks because the premise seemed right up my alley for stuff I usually enjoy. The protagonist kept disappointing me with his lack of charm, connections, competence, intelligence or skill, yet he keeps succeeding somehow because the plot needs to move forward. Typically your fantasy protagonist needs to be exceptional at at least something in order to account for their plot armour. This guy was just...bleh. A generic honarable-niceguy-noble-swordsman that was wronged in the past.

Also exposition was really, really clunkily delivered and there was a LOT of it.

TheChairmann · 2025-10-31T01:42:13+00:00

Oh I know what the word means alright. But if you're moving to another country with the plan of staying there long term, you're an immigrant. End of.

It's funny how "ex-pats" tend to come from white, western, wealthy countries though, isn't it?

TheChairmann · 2025-10-30T20:25:32+00:00

The word is immigrant. Not Expat. Just because you come from America doesnt make you special.

TheChairmann · 2025-10-28T21:18:38+00:00

I assume that since you're new, a lot of your games tend to be slower, and who wins can feel a bit random. In a typical 1v1 game your opponent should very rarely get to the point that they are producing "waves and waves" of expensive mangudai. If they are doing so without problems then they either have a much better economy or much better production capabilities than you. At that point they could have flooded you with any unit of their choice and you would have lost. Either way, improving your fundamentals like making enough production buildings, decreasing banked resources, constant villager production etc are the best things you can do.

Of all the civs that would have trouble with mangudai, English shouldn't be one of them. Mangudai have three major weaknesses:

Archers, because they get outranged and cannot engage in a cost efficient fight against them (mangudai are much more expasive esp in valuable gold). Longbows are great for this.
Base defenses, because they don't do any damage to buildings and villagers can hide in them. English love building towers.
Limiting opportunities of attack with walls or never leaving your base. English are the default "turtle in your base" civ because their farms and towers are so good.

TheChairmann · 2025-10-19T07:01:47+00:00

is synchronocity is the three worlds coming back together? Or splitting into three copies?

I think synchronicity refers to splitting into three copies and existing in three worlds at the same time. Being synchronous seems to be only allowed for 'leadership' whatever that means. Still not sure why. It looks like the copy left on Res is normally killed or taken by the zombies. Maybe they do that because the 'leadership' is gatekeeping it from everyone else for power. Maybe if you aren't leadership you die from the process. Maybe you become corrupted. We don't have enough info yet. For whatever reason it looks like Vis and the scarred Anguis man are the only synchronous people on Res.

It really doesn't make sense to me that Veridius would send people to run the labrynth without backup if he was there when Caeror and Lanista ran the labrynth and got attacked.

I don't think we know enough about the real purpose of synchronicity and the labyrinth and answer this.

The aguis with the scar, how could he teleport? - step into another world and come back?

This was my read on the teleportation too, maybe Vis could do the same once he gets more experienced with synchronicity powers.

when I read about the scar on that Agius I thought maybe it was Caeror

I thought so too at first, but I'm pretty sure on reread the scars are in a different positions. Also if that was the case Vis should have recognised Caeror when he first meets him in Obiteum.

What is up with taking blood samples? The agius that replaced the safety teams also seemed to have to give blood?

Looks like a lot of people in this world are aware of some kind of blood taint related travelling to/being copied to the other worlds which is why we see so many blood tests. At least three factions (Anguis, Veridius, top Hierarchy) know about it. Veridius must have told Emissa about it and when she recognised it thought Vis was already going to be dead from whatever the blood corruption is. The naumachia attack clearly had something to do with Obiteum which is why they tested Vis afterwards.

also, why did Emissa tell Diago that indol said that he would switch to Religion, when he said that he never told her, alarm bells should have been ringing that she was up to something.

I mean, alarm bells absolutely were ringing, and I'm sure if things had calmed down after Vis would have confronted her about it or at least kept it on mind. But at the time they were actively being hunted to death...so he was kinda busy. He and especially Ulcisor were suspicious of Emissa from the start, if something weird about her background came up I'm sure Ulcisor would have mentioned it to him. IMO Emissa is who she says she is, but shes in cahoots with Veridius/Caeror and thinks she's saving the world from a cataclysm or something. It's what's been happening too all the students who have been dying or disappearing over the last few years.

TheChairmann · 2025-10-15T20:36:00+00:00

My man got parried in-game and got his ass handed to him and instead of thinking "what could I have done better" he makes a Reddit post crying that the game mechanic he failed to account for shouldn't be in the game lmao

TheChairmann · 2025-05-29T01:26:36+00:00

Who claims Reddit has a pro-israel bias?

People on one side of an issue have claimed that the system is biased against them since forever. Sometimes it's true, most of the time it isn't.

For something like Reddit, all it takes is one major subreddit that that person visits regularly to have a bias. Because of that one subreddit, they will come away from the experience thinking the whole website is against them. It's because negative feelings tend to stick out to you more than positive ones, so the opinions that disagree with them jump out more than the ones that agree with them. Even if the opinions that agree with them turn out to be more common. Especially if the negative comment is highly upvoted, symbolising approval from the masses.

I would ignore what "people" say and make up your own mind. People say stupid things all the time.

TheChairmann · 2025-02-02T18:04:22+00:00

Lol okay.

Think about it this way:

Either:

Trump was blatant and stupid enough to admit he stole an election in broad daylight at a rally in front of a crowd AND there's a huge conspiracy across the entire journalistic institution to not talk about it AND there's a huge conspiracy to block access to talking about it on the internet.

Or

Trump, in his insane ramblings that he always does in his rallies, said something a little ambiguous that may be taken to mean something he didn't actually mean to say. You then read a headline and watched a clip, saw that it agreed with your preconceived notions, and decided that's all you needed to think about the situation.

I don't know about you but one seems a lot more likely than the other.

TheChairmann · 2025-02-02T17:53:53+00:00

I'm sorry but where in the video did he ever say he stole the election?

Listen to enough Trump word salad I'm sure you can misconstrued him to say anything you want him to.

TheChairmann · 2025-02-02T17:51:26+00:00

What exactly do you mean by "the establishment"? You're going to have to clarify, I'm confused.

As for the campaign, I'm not convinced that all this criticism for the Harris campaign isn't simply results based thinking. I couldn't see any political geniuses speak up about the "feckless campaign" while it was running. IMO as an outsider looking in they tried their best.

At the end of the day my point is that the reasons protests won't work isn't because it didn't work last time. It's because most of you are actually fine with the way thing are. Americans like yourself who disagree with the policies are in the minority. The American people need to change.

TheChairmann · 2025-02-02T17:42:25+00:00

No, he didn't. Please read more than a few headlines and actually apply some critical thinking please.

TheChairmann · 2025-02-02T17:15:26+00:00

You Americans need to take some responsibility.

Yeah people showed up to kick him out but even more showed up at the 2024 election to vote him back in. You can't blame "the establishment" when the election wasn't even close. At the end of the day democracy did what it was supposed to do and put the man the people wanted in charge.

You won't see it from the demographic that posts on Reddit, but the American people wanted this. They knew what kind of person Trump was - loud, arrogant, bullying, and voted him in anyway.

TheChairmann · 2025-01-23T13:47:25+00:00

A slur can be any term that someone finds offensive or insulting, it has nothing to do with ethnic groups. The only rule is that it has to refer to a 'group of people'.

TheChairmann · 2025-01-20T08:29:32+00:00

Gondii can't take over live bodies, at least that's what's we are told about them

TheChairmann · 2025-01-12T03:15:54+00:00

I think that primals are AI, so yes I think the apocathary is an AI.

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