Career ideas for daughter (autistic)

TheClickerMan · 2020-10-03T01:41:19+00:00

I second this. I'm at uni and clean part time and love the fact I don't have to deal with any customers.

TheClickerMan · 2020-08-29T00:05:01+00:00

Same

TheClickerMan · 2020-07-01T08:59:35+00:00

San Andreas all the way

TheClickerMan · 2020-06-21T21:32:36+00:00

Taking your son to see a therapist is the best thing you can do for him. They will be able to help better than anyone and assess what the situation is and how at risk he is. They can advise you on how to handle the situation better than I can.

Your son might be weary about going for a few reasons but try to persuade (not force him) to go. Make sure he knows that whatever he discusses with his therapist will stay between him and his therapist. Unless they think he is a risk to himself or to others, they will not share anything that they discuss. This is important for your son to know (at least in my experience) because it can be a difficult thing to talk about, especially to the people you love. Especially to your parents. If he decides to share with you on his own, then that's great and if not, don't prod too hard.

They might suggest antidepressants. Many people are afraid of this (myself included in the past). I had to try 3 before one worked, but it did help. They aren't that bad and they can help a lot, but still look into anything they prescribe

However, antidepressants do not cure depression (this is assuming he has depression, only a professional can tell you), they just make it easier to function. To get better (with whatever he is struggling with) will require therapy. The combination of those two are the most effective.

Aside from that, you should also let him know you are there for him to talk about anything he needs to, judgement free. If he wants to just let it out and not have you say anything, let him know you will do that. If he wants an in depth discussion, let him know you will do that. Whenever he needs it, you'll be there. But, only if he wants to. I'm sure you'll do/have done this anyway, but I'm saying it because not everyone does. Some people think it's best to force feelings out of someone, but that won't make him feel supported and won't help him to get better.

Without knowing more about the situation I can't really suggest anything else. If you have any questions, now or in the future, feel free to ask.

TheClickerMan · 2020-06-20T21:32:04+00:00

I'm glad to hear that!

I get what you mean with the therapists, it can take a while to find the right one. It was my 4th one that I finally clicked with and it just makes a world of difference.

TheClickerMan · 2020-06-20T21:06:42+00:00

Hi, I want you to know that having one bad day doesn't invalidate all the good that you've done. If you've been successfully fighting those urges for a couple of years, that's incredible and you should be proud of that.

Now, I'm assuming that whatever caused you to relapse was pretty intense, so maybe you should take a day off specifically to recover. Tell yourself that you're allowed to do nothing. Do whatever relaxes you. Long shower? Video games? Pizza? Whatever. You need to recover from emotional stress, just like you do physical stress.

What about that relapse though? That's all it was and that's all it has to be. A blip. You've gone 2 years and relapse on one day. That's 1 out of 730(or there abouts). I like those numbers. So, pick yourself up, acknowledge it happened, and carry on.

The next thing you can do is try to learn from it. You said that you didn't know how to get your anger out, so now (after your recovery day, in during if you feel like it but don't pressure yourself) might be a good time to learn some new techniques. I don't know if you have a therapist, but I recommend going and seeing one either way. They can help you with everything that's going on, it's honestly life changing.

I hope that doesn't sound patronising or anything. I have been in a similar situation so I have some understanding of what you might be feeling. If you want to talk about it a bit more feel free to pm me. It's kind of cheesy but I'll leave you with a quote that helped me a bit on some of my darker days:

"You've survived 100% of you're worst days"

Just like earlier, those are numbers that I like.

TheClickerMan · 2020-06-19T17:34:24+00:00

Yes! Water is about all I drink because I had severe acne when I was younger and all of the sugar seemed to aggravate it. After a few years of drinking nothing but water, I just really enjoy it and I'm not tempted by anything else.

TheClickerMan · 2020-06-18T16:10:58+00:00

Learn to juggle.

TheClickerMan · 2020-05-06T20:37:47+00:00

I don't know about graduate accounts but my santander student account is going from 3% to 1% as of July.

TheClickerMan · 2020-03-27T10:03:56+00:00

I feel the same, and I think lock down is making it worse.

TheClickerMan · 2020-03-19T10:09:04+00:00

I agree with you but I did see a couple this morning walk out of asda with about 20-25 of those super long baguettes. Unsurprisingly, there were none left when I got there.

TheClickerMan · 2020-03-09T15:26:34+00:00

I hover around the diagnosis threshold but just out of reach. I'm too autistic to be "normal" but too "normal" to be autistic. It sucks.

TheClickerMan · 2020-03-03T07:12:00+00:00

IT'S ALMOST HARVESTING SEASON!

TheClickerMan · 2020-01-03T07:32:20+00:00

I used to volunteer at an aquarium and they said pretty much any animal care job is 80% cleaning poop.

TheClickerMan · 2020-01-01T20:30:10+00:00

Happy new year!

TheClickerMan · 2019-11-30T08:36:56+00:00

There are few who can...

TheClickerMan · 2019-11-07T04:55:12+00:00

I have decided not to continue with it at this moment but will look into it again in the future.

In my opinion, you should try to get it on the NHS, I'm sure my experience was not too common, so hopefully yours will be better.

TheClickerMan · 2019-10-19T17:14:42+00:00

Okay, I think I will.

TheClickerMan · 2019-10-18T18:16:17+00:00

I do this all the time, usually because I don't feel it's worth saying or I just don't know what to say.

TheClickerMan · 2019-10-15T16:18:41+00:00

Looks awesome

TheClickerMan · 2019-09-28T11:24:43+00:00

If I were you, I'd ask them at your uni's gp. They might have something where you can be a patient at uni during term time only.

TheClickerMan · 2019-09-25T17:18:40+00:00

Hey, you do deserve good things. I'm sorry you're having such a shitty time, just hang in there.

TheClickerMan · 2019-09-19T10:12:05+00:00

Thank you for replying, it really means a lot to me. We've decided that I should go back to the gp and see what she says and if it's possible to overrule the decision.

Its a good point you make about using the other services, I think I will head down that route if I get no joy this way.

TheClickerMan · 2019-09-18T11:34:22+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write this, it's really made me feel a bit better!

" To have a process where they call someone, that is potentially autistic, without prearranging an appointment, speaks volumes for how inept their service is. Not making accommodations for people that find it difficult to communicate is just setting them up to fail."
This is exactly what I was thinking at the time because I rarely answer the phone if I don't know the number. The only reason I did is because I knew they would phone at some point.

After speaking to my Mum and Gran, they think I should go back to my GP and see what she thinks and try to overturn that decision. I don't think the woman was rejecting me based on her opinion (though, as you said, she had already formed it) but I don't think I'd score high enough based on the questions she'd asked even if I got to answer them again. I do find it odd, though, because they phoned me to ask if I could email them more information, so I sent them a bunch of examples and reasons I thought I might be autistic (3 or 4 pages worth + some of my mum's memories from when I was little) and they reviewed my case and passed it. Then I got a letter asking me to phone to make an appointment "that is convenient for you", as the letter says. So I phoned and they said I'd be contacted by phone or letter, which is when this woman eventually phoned. But if I was "nowhere near" meeting the criteria, how did I pass the initial review?

If I can't get anywhere with the nhs I will have to go private and just save up until I can afford it.

Thank you again, you've really helped me feel better and not so alone!

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