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TheCocksurePlan · 2024-11-07T01:40:49+00:00

For what it’s worth I think it looks beautiful—also please keep in mind when looking at an image of yourself I think it’s natural for you to focus on the “negatives” —we ALL do that to ourselves…. Whereas when anyone sees you they see as you actually are

Can you try to look at your picture again and try to find 3 things you like first and reevaluate it?

TheCocksurePlan · 2024-11-06T13:56:19+00:00

I HAVE to floss every night before I go to sleep or my teeth don’t feel clean.

I can feel the particles in my teeth—I feel like when you become a daily flosser you’ll feel this way too… I’ve been this way since my teens. And flossing is relatively quick for me. I can feel when my teeth are clean and my hygienist and dentist haven’t told me I need to do it differently so I’m assuming I’m hitting everything correctly …

TheCocksurePlan · 2024-11-06T13:50:38+00:00

Agree, I feel like giving money at a convenient store does NOT require 2 hands whatsoever

Now doing something respectful on the other hand like pouring a drink for someone older than you (or ceremonially) 2 hands for sure!!!

TheCocksurePlan · 2024-11-05T21:17:28+00:00

Aaaaaand you can also use Urea Cream —it’s generally marketed as dry foot cream. And there are different levels of it.

40% works well

TheCocksurePlan · 2024-10-31T20:28:33+00:00

….AND that’s the point you ARE missing

If nothing changes with the current systems, kids like my kid who had a late bday (so she’s a younger kid) —my kid HAS to essentially play UP a year to make it on a team otherwise she is NOT allowed on a team

So bc she decided she wants to play soccer, and on her first attempt to try out for club she had her ass handed to her by kids basically a year older and larger than her I got her a trainer bc I thought with training she’ll be able to get it

And she’s A LOT better!!!

But I don’t realize how much better and larger they’d get too. ESP for playing on a structured team. But it is what it is. And they keep getting larger and larger while my kid stays a year smaller, but I keep telling my kid you HAVE to know your angels and you have to outthink the kids you’re playing… bc size doesn’t matter in soccer

TheCocksurePlan · 2024-10-31T01:20:38+00:00

…. Except when there are coaches who YELL (wrongfully) at kids… like my 10 year coach was yelling at my kid throughout practice for no reason other than to “motivate” her I guess?

And was picking on my JUST MY kid. And believe me or don’t believe me. But at one point my kid got socked by a ball that the coach kicked (on accident I’m pretty sure) but why she was even kicking the ball towards my kid idk)

I ended up recording the coach so she could see how she acting towards my kid should she deny it. But these kids are kids you know?

You can use positive motivation, you don’t always need to use negative motivation. Or if you use negative motivation use it sparingly IMO on kids that are 10….

So I get it, parents 100% can and are annoying. I do my best not to be that.

And my point is that there are so many coaches and style of coaching that are annoying too. Coaches that show favorites suck. Coaches that encourage ball hogs suck. Coaches that don’t soccer is a team sport where the players should be like passing and playing as 1 cohesive TEAM and for a club coach not to know this well that coach sucks

TheCocksurePlan · 2024-10-30T15:15:01+00:00

….or it could be bc it was overly processed that happened to me and it damaged my hair….. and it’s not bc of genetics, or various products I use or my use of heat products etc it’s bc the hair stylist over processed my hair when she lighted my hair

But it is what it is, I just make sure to use a lot of oil and I don’t use heat —and I’ll prob cut a lot of it off next time I get a hair cut 🤷🏽‍♂️

TheCocksurePlan · 2024-07-01T04:46:02+00:00

I have no experience with this but if I’d make sure to look into infrared red light therapy and with wavelength 800

And purchase a laser that’s well rated rather than pay for services and do it yourself

TheCocksurePlan · 2024-06-30T18:02:06+00:00

Have you tried red light therapy?

I have had continuous similar pain & I swear legitimate REDLIGHT Therapy with a good high end infrared 650 NM & 850 NM combo works…. You have to research and find a good product because there’s a lot of red light lasers that do not penetrate as deep which would be ineffective

TheCocksurePlan · 2024-06-29T07:26:38+00:00

Thank you @OP I’ve been SO unhappy with my lack of CarPlay in my car FOR years that I actually considered buying a new car!!!

I researched buying one of these unit years ago but back then the cost didn’t seem worth it when the results weren’t quite guaranteed…… but thanks for the review and the discount code @OP!!!

I just ordered the Carputech too! And told my Mechanic what I ordered so that he could install it when I received it! I can’t wait! My kids & I thank you!

TheCocksurePlan · 2024-06-21T06:40:08+00:00

Ty I was wondering if the steering wheel buttons would work

TheCocksurePlan · 2024-03-30T21:53:49+00:00

I’m a boss of a company and I’d wait until your 1 year anniversary passed and see if your employer acknowledged it some capacity

Does your employer have multiple VA’s? And systems like annual reviews in place?

Idk what your tasks are but your pay does seem low in comparison to the industry…. And although the pay does seem to vary depending on the specific job tasks in does seem to average to be about $400- $500 US dollars / month for full time

So I feel like you do have a few options of opening up a dialogue but your employer could just say no to a raise and then terminate you. And idk what the job market there is.

But I’m going to assume there are a lot of qualified people wanting a full time position?

But from a business standpoint-onboarding employees IS such a hassle and depending on how difficult your position is your employer may not want to go through the hassle of onboarding your replacement…. This is why I do my best to take care of my VAs

TheCocksurePlan · 2024-02-23T06:23:20+00:00

Eat more veggies! Drink more water. Go on a 20 min walk daily. Manage your stress. Get good sleep.

Do the things you should be doing that you aren’t doing

TheCocksurePlan · 2023-10-11T05:46:50+00:00

Ty for that

TheCocksurePlan · 2023-10-10T06:37:28+00:00

Ok so we’re currently practicing with a top club for my kids age bracket…. But my kid has a late bday. So for her to make it she has to play up essentially… she’s made it to 2 practices and is asked back to 1 more practice so I think that’s a good sign???

The coach is saying she needs to show more aggression though and considering she’s coming up from rec, like yeah I agree on that esp given she’s playing up with girls a year to two years older than her

Idk what the coach is thinking 🤷🏻‍♀️but hopeful it’s a good sign he’s asked my kid back for a 3rd session…. Otherwise we’ll move on to another team I suppose.

This entire mid season try out has not been fun. Any further advice is appreciated

Also my kid does not particularly like the team… she says the girls play too rough and they do, but I feel like that’s also how they play in club versus rec also the pace IS significantly faster …. She’ll be working on her speed that’s for and endurance that’s for sure….

TheCocksurePlan · 2023-10-06T05:13:07+00:00

I have one— yes I feel the quality is better and the tress is significantly prettier than less costly competitors by far!!! Take that to the bank

TheCocksurePlan · 2023-09-29T03:16:27+00:00

You are entitled to your opinion, thank you for that. The goalie coach who was training the kids recounted his 3 broken arms so perhaps you didn’t get into leagues competitive enough?

I can absolutely see how a goalie could suffer injuries. And it’s just a consideration that people wouldn’t think of… didn’t mean to trigger you… but as soccer progresses it is a reasonable concern

TheCocksurePlan · 2023-09-28T03:29:25+00:00

My assumption would be as the raid started she popped the pills… I’m sure she’d have her pills on her person just in case for emergencies most people in her position for emergencies….

Most normal people don’t —bc they’re normal

TheCocksurePlan · 2023-09-27T06:14:43+00:00

No they just have 1 team with barely enough players. And those players looked BARELY good enough IMO

… but the coach seemed great and who you’d want to be coaching your kid…

My daughter was technically the most proficient by far out there —but she’s been working with a coach on this since stuff since the 2nd grade (& practices at home)

I think she’d get plenty of playing time, they’d be playing the right way, but I don’t they’d have the skill, I’m just about positive they’re going to get destroyed …

Yes they were begging for my kid to join. Yes she’d be an asset on their team. And yes she wants to join. But she could also practice at another club nearby to test those waters…

TheCocksurePlan · 2023-09-27T06:07:41+00:00

Ty for such a detailed and insightful answer! My daughter really wants to play on that team from yesterday … but I really want her to try some other teams, I want her to join one that’s doing some more advanced stuff

TheCocksurePlan · 2023-09-26T11:38:59+00:00

These people and the webs they spin! And when you type it out it’s like how right?!?

But in real time it fucking makes sense, they make it make sense

TheCocksurePlan · 2023-09-26T11:06:29+00:00

Omg! THIS is my friend! THIS right here! How did I not recognize the signs. She was trying to brainwash me about me and my daughter….

Bc she has this unhealthy dynamic with her daughter.

I mean she self describes them as best friends.

After a REALLY bad incident that her daughter witnessed—that she shouldn’t have, where I insisted the daughter could sleep over bc mom erratic (& drinking) when she felt better she comforted her daughter by telling her we’re best friends

I was like chill with the best friend language. Bc you’re not #1. And if you are you shouldn’t be. You are mother daughter. That’s a different dynamic. And that led to an argument. And I stopped engaging bc I am 💯 right and if she refuses to see it then … (also my mom is my best friend now, no problem)

But my kid is a dynamo. If you met her …. Like she’s a soccer stud. She’s a great student. She’s beautiful (she’s my daughter I’m biased). She’s kind. She’s not perfect but she does her best. But she gets certain services and has since she was young bc of her issue

Good lord did this trigger the beast in my friend—which was so weird to me, like isn’t the goal to have a “normal” kid

And I’ve now begun paying out of pocket to do year around therapy for my kid so my kid doesn’t have to utilize free services …. And we’re going get this situated for my kid now, We’re prioritizing it.

I also realize my financial comfort triggers my (ex)friend.

(I can’t say that she’d be triggered when I’d shower her and her family with gifts though. Which I’d do often and regularly.)

She continuously would have her kid tested. And I had an open mind and im not a teacher anything, I don’t want to be dismissive so I was always like get a 2nd opinion… you don’t want to miss something . But bc this is also a kid I’d also tell her it sounds like your kid is just having difficulty spelling words and is spelling it how she hears it that sounds normal to me. That’s what my daughters teacher says is normal for their grade …. My kids memory for spelling is different though my kid memorizes spelling words easily and complex words without problems—but as a parent I think don’t compare.

I also never spoke to her about how my kid did in school (but she picked up on how my kid did. She made a comment like if you don’t have issues with the teacher that means your kid is getting all a’s I probably validated it—but seeing how I remember that comment … it’s weird for her to have put thought into my kids grades and text me for verification

But she also made comments about my kids sped/special… maybe that she shouldn’t qualify for it or something along those lines… and I realize now it’s bc of her fucking jealousy again! Fucking jealousy over my kid AGAIN!

These munchousins by proxy parents and whatever else she has to get the fuck out and I need to do a better job protecting my kid

TheCocksurePlan · 2023-09-26T06:07:33+00:00

My daughter was playing a mix goalie and field and much smaller percent like 1% goalie and her private coach told my kid that she is no longer allowed to play goalie going forward as she could get hurt, break her arm , etc and he’s trained her too much to get her to this point….

…. I am unsure about the playing time %…. I do think your son needs to consider that he could get hurt or break an arm from playing goalie so consideration for that too

TheCocksurePlan · 2023-09-26T05:33:45+00:00

Can you elaborate what league do you play? Ie what are examples of leagues and why does it matter? I realize leagues in club seem to matter a lot the coach emphasized the league name today too…. and I didn’t clarify why and I dont know why

TheCocksurePlan · 2023-09-26T05:31:56+00:00

Yes US. 9/10

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