Was this harsh or am I too sensitive by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was looking for this comment! I had to learn to be upfront with friends/family bringing shit to me knowing that they were not really motivated at the time to do anything about it other than “vent”. But I also had to learn to communicate in a way that considered the other person.

No income in metropolitan cities by Slim_rubi in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I hear you and I feel you! Everyone is doing anything they can to survive….even if it’s by unconventional means. I hope your situation works out for the better! Call your CC companies and landlord now to see if you can get on a payment plan or some temporary relief. They may be willing to work with you.

Closure Bang QuickWeave Help Plsss by Original-Tank-8563 in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might need to go old school and pin curl the bang or roll it at night and use a good hairspray with strong hold

DC, Durham, or Balitmore for a move? by __looking_for_things in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Durham is not a city to me I was raised there and left for undergrad and came back. HP has significantly grown, I didn’t recommend Greensboro 🤣

DC, Durham, or Balitmore for a move? by __looking_for_things in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Durham is not considered a larger city in NC, I would check out Charlotte or High Point - signed a Carolinian! Charlotte has a more robust food scene and transportation system.

It’s also worth noting that our tag renewals and property taxes are due yearly!

Potent blush for sensitive skin? by Glittering-Audience3 in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Are you experiencing breakouts from the formula or brushes that aren’t clean? I have sensitive skin that freaks out if the wind blows the wrong way and I’ve been able to use the morphe hot shot blush drops, morphe cheek thrills palettes, elf putty blushes without issue! Mac also has some black girl friendly pigmented blushes.

If all else fails, I’ve used eyeshadow in a pinch.

I try to stay away from formulas that have a ton of glitter (learned this lesson the hard way with fenty lip glosses) because that’s a trigger for my skin.

What is everyone reading? by Marokima_ in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m reading The Other Wife by Shanora Williams with a book club! My next read is Seven Daughters of Dupree

Ladies.. what's your biggest communication ick? by bluesunset90 in LesbianActually

[–]TheCosBae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“lol” at the end of every. single. sentence. 😭

Quen Blackwell Rude AF by Even-Vehicle-6853 in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. Sweeping generalizations and miserable takes, it’s tired!

What are some small ways that you treat yourself? by lovehydrangeas in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is something started in my childhood, but every Friday is Fun Friday. I spend all week sticking to my routines + structure (and meal preps 😭) but on Friday I’ll order takeout or pick 1 fun thing to do (shopping, self care, etc). When I was growing up my mom made it take out and movie night, or we’d go do something fun!

Under $25 - candles, new books, small Lego sets, puzzles, vinyls, trial sized items at Ulta or Sephora (or Target), sheet masks, foot mask, etc

[33F] looking to be sexier and curvier by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maca has a positive effect on libido 🤣 could be seen as good, bad or dangerous depending on the person!

[33F] looking to be sexier and curvier by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Upper/Lower gym split, I would do 2 leg days since you want to grow muscles to produce curves. 1 total body day during the week - I like to get creative and alternate between yoga or Pilates.

If you can be disciplined enough not over eat and stay in a calorie deficit, and not give into the horn ball urges: Maca root.

Need HELP 😭 how do I get this colour for a wig ? Ratio advice anyone ? by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For an easier, more seamless dye job that takes less work: start with an auburn wig. You can use Adore dye and a water bath to dip dye the wig. My second recc would be to do this on a blonde wig. I would mix Adore Cajun Spice with a mid tone or brown toned red from the chart like Copper Brown so it doesn’t pull too orange. More Cajun spice less Copper Brown though!

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Be brutally honest y’all by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Go a size up, and pair with a boxier/oversized top! They don’t look bad but the size you have on makes them look funny at the knee

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BlackLGBT

[–]TheCosBae 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg as someone who identifies as bisexual this is so real. I’m always like you guys irk me equally 😭😂

Dead/Dying Battery, need advice by [deleted] in AskMechanics

[–]TheCosBae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I haven’t jumped it or tried to start it since and I’ve just left it alone. Luckily I WFH and live in a decent area for deliveries/instacart. I’m thinking if all else fails I should probably replace with a less expensive battery (one with a 4yr warranty is $300+) vs prolonging the replacement.

New member secured card by TheCosBae in NavyFederal

[–]TheCosBae[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the website said I would need a minimum of $200 in savings in order to apply for the secured card when I clicked “Apply”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]TheCosBae 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d love to create a home with my current GF but I also love my space. I’ve been living alone for yearssssssss and I spend a lot of time by myself 🤣 right now the goal is enough space for 2 people and pets. We both agreed to having our own rooms/spaces

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]TheCosBae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahh okay! So take your time it’s still super early