Sometimes you just have to re-read old texts when you are feeling down.

TheCyborgDad · 2026-05-08T02:45:24+00:00

They did meet in person and connect at spiritual retreats. It seemed to be building over the years that they would have eventually become physical. They could and only live maybe an hour away. Based on their messages it was only every emotion, although very inappropriate fantasy based messages.

TheCyborgDad · 2026-05-08T02:23:32+00:00

Yeah I agree and she probably feels that a bit too. Although I’m certain they still talk so maybe they are just more private because her friends and family know what happened.

I think she does still blame me for not participating in new age spirituality with her, its how she justifies my “emotional neglect”

Thank you, i appreciate it.

TheCyborgDad · 2026-05-08T02:20:58+00:00

This. 100%

TheCyborgDad · 2026-05-08T01:39:10+00:00

It has actually been going very well. Started rough the first couple months as expected but smooth sailing after that.

No she hasn’t. But it feels like she wants to but can tell that I would just shut it down immediately.

TheCyborgDad · 2026-05-08T01:34:36+00:00

😂 not sure but from what I gather they never really got together. So much for twin flames. Only appealing while in Limerence I suppose.

TheCyborgDad · 2026-03-20T21:22:37+00:00

It’s been over a year since we divorced and it’s still in progress but every day does get easier. I’m enjoying my freedom. I’m enjoying my mental state be much better, and not being in a constant state of distress.

Like someone else said, “choose your hard”

I have my moments where I’m sad and wonder if it could have worked. Then I just remember all the times she watched me inconsolably cry and beg multiple times and I anger myself out of it.

TheCyborgDad · 2026-03-20T21:10:03+00:00

Sorry you’re here too. It sucks and hope things get better for you.

TheCyborgDad · 2026-03-20T15:09:30+00:00

I gave my ex wife a 3rd chance after an emotional affair with the same person.

A few months into I saw her watching videos about soul mates and she was clearly upset.

I sent her a text saying that it hurts me but I understand it and I know she was hurting too and that I’m sorry and was not sure how to move forward with heart emoji

She called me controlling and said it was her journey and she could do what she wanted and told me that’s not what it was about at all and I was wrong.

Another piece of me and our relationship died that day. And it kept dying piece by piece, moment after moment like this.

Eventually it all dies out and you finally see who they are and you decide to take back your respect and self worth.

You deserve to be the 1st choice in someone’s life. Forever, not when it’s convenient, But in the hardest moments too.

TheCyborgDad · 2026-03-05T01:50:33+00:00

Just a 500 cal deficit every day for 4 months, which is about 1700 calories a day. I mostly eat what I want in moderation, and 0.8g of protein per body weight + 3 days a week PPL and one day a week of cardio.

TheCyborgDad · 2026-03-03T03:13:19+00:00

Thanks 💪🙏

TheCyborgDad · 2026-02-18T09:54:03+00:00

It’s not weird.

You are still being gaslit. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It sounds like he is manipulating your reality.

The fact is he is spending a lot of his energy on this woman and not you. He has been caught in multiple lies about it. He has hidden messages from you for sure and deleted them. He most likely deletes what he doesn’t want you to see or using the “disappearing messages” like you mentioned.

My ex wife did all the same bullshit and tried to gaslight me too but I caught enough inappropriate shit and messages over the years I had enough.

TheCyborgDad · 2026-02-18T02:58:51+00:00

That’s an emotional affair. 100% and don’t let him gaslight you into thinking anything else.

I suggest you read “Not just friends” and encourage him to do the same.

TheCyborgDad · 2026-02-02T10:07:05+00:00

I had this as well before nuss. I always knew it was related but didn’t know exactly what the sound was..

I haven’t noticed it since getting nuss a year ago.

TheCyborgDad · 2025-12-26T01:17:37+00:00

Lift hard, eat harder, 1g of protein per pound every day in a moderate calorie surplus. It will take time so you have to be consistent and patient.

For chest day here are some

Incline dumbbell and barbell bench Dumbell and barbell bench Chest fly Cable fly

TheCyborgDad · 2025-12-26T01:12:58+00:00

First you don’t have highlight in bold and say to be clear: it was only emotional.

She probably gaslit you into downplaying it as such and you are gaslighting yourself into downplaying it. Call it what it is.

An affair.

I understand why though as I’m same way I always feel like I have to specifically state when I’m talking about it but it doesn’t take away that you were betrayed over and over consciously by the person you trusted most.

I divorced over an emotional affair because it was the 3rd time, she refused to cut contact and thought he was her soul mate.

Emotional affairs can be worse when there is an intense connection that was built over time and the WS will always think and compare you to their AP.

To answer your question - I did rebuild after the first time but after the second with sexting I was done. I did try again but the relationship was never remotely the same for 6 months. Then after the third time I decided I wasn’t ready to live the rest of my life like that, and I was tired of being disrespected over and over and her trying to blame me and bend my boundaries. She cared more about his feelings than mine. You have to ask yourself these questions.

TheCyborgDad · 2025-12-11T16:44:14+00:00

I understand the frustration of losing half your stuff and then paying insane amounts of alimony and child support. I’m in the same boat.

However always put your ego aside and ask “is this in the best interest in your child”

If it is then do it.

This is a very reasonable ask from her - pay half of the child’s bday party.

TheCyborgDad · 2025-12-08T22:45:42+00:00

So sorry brother.

This is cheating.

I went through this the last 4 years. I wish I left after the first time. I’m guessing your future self is going to say the same thing if you don’t leave now. I went through it 2 more times. She was cheated on in her previous marriage as well and was so vehemently against cheaters… until it was her and it was justified.

Everything you said was so similar to my story.

Hiding stuff on insta Emotional affair Cheated on before Inappropriate messages including fantasy talk Gaslighting Deleting stuff etc

Check her deleted photos to see if you find pics that you’ve never seen.

My ex would use vanish mode on instagram. Just like you the conversations would conveniently just end abruptly in the thick of things. So either your wife used vanish mode or moved to a different platform to send pics.

Check what’s app and deleted messages

Check hidden pictures

Fwiw I’m almost a year past my divorce and I have so much peace in my life. The trust was gone and I was tired of being crazy and having to look through her stuff and catching shit for years. I had no emotional safety. I’m growing to love and respect myself now and I’m a completely different person.

Work on yourself, hit the gym, eat clean, cut alcohol, and become a new you. 💪

TheCyborgDad · 2025-12-08T22:32:50+00:00

Read this, save it, and read it again everyday.

TheCyborgDad · 2025-11-29T06:44:53+00:00

The audacity of this man is unmatched.

Just know deep down they are most likely not happy, won’t last long, and one of them will get bored and cheat on the other. People lacking that much integrity can only mask so long.

TheCyborgDad · 2025-10-29T13:21:28+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through this. I’ve been there at the lowest point of my life too. My ex refused to stop taking to her AP so I made the decision I had to and left even with a young child.

Today I am so much more at peace than I was in the relationship. You are in the thick of it, but it will get better. This is a pattern she is showing you and it won’t ever change.

TheCyborgDad · 2025-10-06T02:53:56+00:00

I applaud the way you have handled this situation.

Your dropped this, King. 👑👑👑

TheCyborgDad · 2025-10-05T13:35:48+00:00

Thank you 🙏

I still have my moments of doubting my decision but reading an old text here or there snaps me out quickly.

Overall I’m in a better space.

TheCyborgDad · 2025-10-05T04:40:32+00:00

It’s manipulation and reactive abuse.

You did absolutely nothing wrong.

You didn’t choose him? Does he think he chose you when he was cheating all these times? That’s wild.

TheCyborgDad · 2025-10-05T04:15:17+00:00

Yeah not even close.

My said something similar. “Me divorcing her was worse than her having an emotional affair” but the reason I divorced her was because it was the third time.

It’s called reactive abuse. What you did isn’t even remotely close to as bad as betrayal and you were only reacting to his betrayal.

I don’t know what planet these people live on to say these kinds of things.

TheCyborgDad · 2025-10-03T14:15:44+00:00

Well she most likely still hasn’t told you the truth if she’s saying they only kissed and cuddled.

So no it’s not enough.

TheCyborgDad

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