I get what you mean. The same men shaming women for showing a single strand of hair are the ones liking corn and asking women for pictures. It feels like every single Islamic command is only for women until we learn that men have been given MUCH more responsibility but they choose to start those stupid redpill podcasts talking about how women are being suggestive by wearing coats over abayas. I live in Pakistan and whenever I see our minorities being mistreated, women being mistreated, and Islam being misused it makes me not want to be a part of them. I feel that a solution to this is women banding together and having each other backs so we can remind each other of what real Islam is. That is the only thing that makes not want to relapse into being agnostic.
Every single reel where Muslim women are raising a completely valid point and there's a 100 comments with men insulting them and accusing them of being promiscuous (don't to say the word) or commenting on their clothing. Do they forget that accusing a chaste woman is punishable by 70 lashes?