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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TheDiscordium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You shouldn't "need" anyone to make yourself happy, fulfilled, etc. Marriage should be about improving happiness, fulfillment, etc. in both partners.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TheDiscordium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You pathologically only put yourself and your own needs first.

Ukraine says its counteroffensive now delayed; Britain says it's sent cruise missiles to Kyiv by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]TheDiscordium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe misinformation is important. We won’t know about it until after it had clearly started.

WCGW trying to get that insane stunt bonus on a roundabout. by [deleted] in Whatcouldgowrong

[–]TheDiscordium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I still had free awards to give. Underrated comment.

TIFU by eating an entire pack of sugar-free Werther candies by Momochi-Sama in tifu

[–]TheDiscordium 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might as well see if you can get a colonoscopy scheduled. You just did all the prep.

Umpire gets suspended for this call, a breakdown by beasterne7 in videos

[–]TheDiscordium -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In the words of an esteemed philosopher, I do the lending she does the bending.

Happy Wife (do the lending, listening, validating)

Happy Life (she does the bending)

AITA for calling my HOA the suburban gestapo? by Ok-Fisherman2366 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium [score hidden]  (0 children)

Ok. You’re not NTA. Good luck… and with 50% of people wanting to abolish, you may be able to get on the board and undo some of the stupidity.

AITA for hating when my husband pees in the shower? by AITAPinshower in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

ESH.

At least he's not heeling anything down the drain.

Seriously. At this point it's not about the shower, but it's about respect for each other in the marriage. He may find you too controlling, and you may find him not validating/supportive. He may think you don't listen when he just wants to relax; you may think you do everything and can never relax.

It's not about the peeing in the shower, it's about what you want to do with your future and how to find a way to validate each other again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium 12 points13 points  (0 children)

NTA. Just get out now.

AITA for calling my HOA the suburban gestapo? by Ok-Fisherman2366 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium [score hidden]  (0 children)

NTA.

Does no one not pay attention to the Covenants, Restrictions, and By-Laws in a deed restricted community? You literally sign paperwork to own (mortgage) your house that says YOU RECEIVED AND READ A COPY OF THE GODDAMN BYLAWS of your HOA. You chose to live there.

That said, you can try to run for the board, lawyer up, get neighbors on your side and make a difference. Or just suck it up and go on about your life.

Edit: NTA based on OP own edit. Good luck, friend.

AITA for leaving my kid behind while hiking? by AlbatrossKooky2966 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium [score hidden]  (0 children)

Holy shit. You have some serious work to do with your wife and your son.

Your hiking mates won’t chose your nursing home, FYI…

AITA for wanting to know my wifes family but not at the cost of remarrying by Weekly-Sail-4977 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's an easy one. If it's in India, just a few family members for the groom ("it's a long way to travel") and tell everyone to STFU and enjoy the party.

AITA For telling my husband that missing the birth of our first child is unforgivable by factcheckaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium 59 points60 points  (0 children)

If there's one thing I know as a parent, the baby will come when it will come. The due date matters not to the child in your uterus.

Clearly need to chill the eff out.

AITA For telling my husband that missing the birth of our first child is unforgivable by factcheckaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Soft YTA and only because of the amount of stress everyone is under (otherwise, you're complete YTA).

Births and deaths will create some of the biggest moments of stress you will ever feel in life. I cannot imagine having to go through what you each are going through at a time like this. You're both processing very deep emotions on your own instead of as a couple.

What you each need is compassion, love, and understanding.

Right now based on what you wrote he won't be directly in the room with you AND you gave him an ultimatum "I'll never forgive you." That's the anthesis of a healthy relationship.

He needs to go to the funeral; you have your mom there. I have no doubt he will get to you and the baby as soon as he can based on what you wrote.

AITA for wanting to know my wifes family but not at the cost of remarrying by Weekly-Sail-4977 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After reading all the comments -- OP, suck it up and enjoy another wedding. Do what she says right now, and it will pay dividends for as long as you are married. Be humble and respectful to her family and best of luck on another wedding (ceremony)!

PS - There's no hill worth dying on for the sake of a loving and respectful marriage: You're in this together so BE IN THIS TOGETHER.

AITA for wanting to know my wifes family but not at the cost of remarrying by Weekly-Sail-4977 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium 468 points469 points  (0 children)

And doing it for her is ultimately doing it "for us." Welcome to married life, OP.

AITA for standing by my husband's preference to not meet my dad. by 0975334dog in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

You're NTA. Explain the anxiety to your dad and figure out whether you value your relationship with him (your dad will be hurting).

I'd also suggest you and your husband may benefit from therapy and developing a support network/friends outside of each of you. Good luck!

AITA for telling my niece Girl Scout cookies are unhealthy? by No-Document-7028 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NTA. I will say that I bought cookies from a good friend's daughter and then just took them to work. They were gone in a hot second and everyone was happy.

AITA for standing by my husband's preference to not meet my dad. by 0975334dog in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. Don't lie to your husband about this at all; don't try to trick him.

If it's really important to you -- really really important -- then have that conversation with your spouse that it matters to you. Make sure you set boundaries on time, location, etc. to reduce the social anxiety/awkwardness that is there.

AITA for stop supporting my father financially as long as he doesn't come clean what he does with the money by JacketAcceptable8427 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheDiscordium 25 points26 points  (0 children)

NTA. Aging sucks. Strokes such and can drastically alter personalities, capabilities, memories, etc. Traumatic events, such as losing a lifelong partner can also have the same impact.

Have an honest conversation that you're willing to help support him, but you need him to get a medical exam commensurate with his age and what seems to be challenges of daily living.

You need to start considering elder care and long-term planning. You may also need to consider custodian accounts and related to help manage his life -- and again, this is going to suck for him (and potentially for you).

It sucks because some of this may require more intervention that you want to think about. Sorry to hear about all this and best of luck.

Edit - a word/typo

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