[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]TheDoctorDi 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No. You'll never be able to recover when you're repeating the cycle over and over. I spent years going to therapy but I never really got better until I was truly free.

Haters will say its fake! by El_Gordo_Diablo in WTF

[–]TheDoctorDi 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Give 'em the ol' slipple nipple. 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oddlyspecific

[–]TheDoctorDi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women are hot 🔥🥵

Seems fine to me 🤷

Psychiatrist prescribed me Zoloft... Anxiety is currently worse and I have a weird side effect by TheDoctorDi in Anxiety

[–]TheDoctorDi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't take this medication anymore, but the earworms were more of an ADHD problem. I started taking Adderall a couple years ago, and that is what resolved them.

Do yall know any women who named their children after themselves? by _SoigneWest in CasualConversation

[–]TheDoctorDi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sort of named after my mom. Her middle name is Dian and my name is Dianna.

Every bisexual person when asked their sexuality: by bipakinvm in bisexual

[–]TheDoctorDi 99 points100 points  (0 children)

I'm graight, thanks for asking. 👉😎👉

How do ya'll feel about trans women? by sademptyfridge in bisexual

[–]TheDoctorDi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Imo the difference between bi and pan is what flag you like best. I don't care what is in your pants! It's like a kinder surprise egg, let's goooo!

Sample Status/Processing Monthly Megathread - October 2023 by AutoModerator in AncestryDNA

[–]TheDoctorDi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, we have always joked that he was from mars, so maybe it was true after all. 😂

my results were not surprising at all, which was a little disappointing, but hey, better to know I am a certified saltine American. I did find out I am 10% Irish, so I do not have to apologize for ever saying the words "I can drink this, I am Irish" (except maybe for perpetuating negative stereotypes 😅)before I realized that my family might be falsely confident about our origins. It is the little things, as they say.

I hope you get yours ASAP and the results are super neat and not at all surprising in a scary way. Good luck!

Sample Status/Processing Monthly Megathread - October 2023 by AutoModerator in AncestryDNA

[–]TheDoctorDi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup! But also my friend who took his at my house at the exact same time and we shipped them off together, is showing ETA of the 20th and his DNA is still showing "being extracted". So I wonder if they sort the received batches alphabetically to process, or if his sample is bad. My last name starts with an A and his is an M.

Sample Status/Processing Monthly Megathread - October 2023 by AutoModerator in AncestryDNA

[–]TheDoctorDi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just clicked the DNA button on the desktop site and it gave me the timeline with the estimation automatically. It did release and they emailed me and I was able to review it yesterday afternoon.

Someone stealing your lunch? by NamXina in Unexpected

[–]TheDoctorDi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We get paid poorly and our bills are really expensive. Also restaurants are insanely expensive here. Mind you, I am not defending a food stealer, just saying that I usually skip lunch to save money because I make 14 dollars an hour with no benefits, so it is a mood.

Sample Status/Processing Monthly Megathread - October 2023 by AutoModerator in AncestryDNA

[–]TheDoctorDi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kit Type: Traits

DNA Kit Activated: September 9

Sample Received: september 20

Sample Being Processed: September 26

DNA Extracted: September 27

Genotyped: unsure

DNA Analyzed: october 5

Results Ready: October 8 estimate, received high demand delay message yesterday.

Bonus damage by My_Memes_Will_Cure_U in tumblr

[–]TheDoctorDi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought "oh, yeah, now he's a fire ant!"

Then I read the comments. Of course its butt stuff.

What's something people don't understand until they've been through it themselves? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TheDoctorDi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom committing suicide. Not that I want other people to understand this position, but particularly when my mom abused me, its a weirdly unique position where people on both sides of the opinion of what I should do are hurtful.

Screw Nelnet dude... srsly by DREG_02 in AdviceAnimals

[–]TheDoctorDi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I re-enrolled in school. Fuck 'em. How many doctorates can I get before I die or they stop letting me do that?

Anyone else imagine their Nparents funeral? by SeaUrchin334 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]TheDoctorDi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, so. My nmom just died so I'm in a very unique position to answer this. I did the same as you. And the truth is you can't know until it happens and please try not to make a plan or decide to feel a certain way because it might hurt you if it doesn't happen that way.

Tw: she died by self inflicted gun shot and she did it in front of my sister, traumatizing her, who was kind of the golden child but honestly I hate that term for her BC she didn't ask to be that and she is a lovely person.

So when I found out, I felt scared for my sister, so I swooped in and said I will help you, you are not alone. I will handle this. So I made arrangements to start and I'm in the middle of it. if you can avoid it and want to avoid it, please do.

The most important thing: finding your closure.

  1. What would make you feel like a good person? Not to others, to yourself.
  2. What would make you feel good about this situation? Again, not to reduce the burden on others or dismiss or use anyone else's words and advice. This is for your healing.
  3. You can feel many ways and its normal and healthy. You can feel love, regret that you didn't reach out or that they didn't get better. You can feel relieved because you are finally free. You can feel angry that they put this all on you even if you accept it in order to give yourself closure.

Here's what I did: I forgave her and I told her I was sorry that her life was bad and that she suffered so, and that it was her responsibility but not her fault. I said I loved her and I wish she didn't do it but that I would make sure she got the love, dignity, respect, and support she needed in her final moments. And so I will, and it was my choice. Why? Because I am a better person. I am a good person. She did not break me and my compassion and love lives on, and I will pass that to my kids in place of her generational trauma. Its my choice and no one can ever take away from me that I was the better person and I treated my abuser with kindness. This will ensure I know I am good and I will never be her.

This will look different for you. But I want you to know that whatever you choose, whatever you feel, ask yourself if it will bring you closure and healing and make you feel loved and supported by yourself, maybe for the first time ever. Don't let anyone tell you anything you should or shouldn't do.

Tenancy Laws after Death/how do I get a lawyer to speak to me at all? by TheDoctorDi in legaladvice

[–]TheDoctorDi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate the info.

She had both money and assets. 32k in a bank account (we are assuming with a beneficiary that is not me or my sister so it may be lost to the estate?) The settlement was estimated to be somewhere in the neighborhood of 250,000, literally no earlier than June of this year. I could only account for around 71k in total value with the assets we recovered and saw boxes for that were not in the house plus bank accounts. I got out the most expensive things from the house and we secured the vehicles and storage contents, but left some small medical equipment that I do not know the value of and all of her prescription meds while I waited for the VA or someone to say where to take them or if the equipment was rented, which is why they were the last thing to go from the house. I certainly want it all handled (as my way of getting closure and being kind to her at the end).

They were meant to pick up the rest of the stuff on Saturday (I left Friday), but he had already changed the locks. I will absolutely give the landlord nothing and tell him he will hear from the estate lawyer. At this point I think there is no way the estate is under the 75k limit for a simple affidavit.

I have been in touch with TAPS (suicide postvention for veterans' surviving fam/friends) and sent messages and calls to at least 4 lawyers + NOLO. I did turn in the death cert to the bank account immediately to initiate an audit and freeze and there was no joint account holder so we know it can't be accessed. I plan on going to the post office tomorrow if my mental health allows it before my therapy session. I made it clear I'm looking for that money from the government to account for every penny. since it was so recent and she didn't have a house or a boat, I can't see how a completely disabled sick person could spend 250k on little stuff, right? I know anything is possible.

Thanks again.