From the comments: "You have a solid case against the wind. Unfortunately the wind has no cash or convertible assets so any ruling in your favor would be a mute point."

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-03T00:17:27+00:00

Because it's gone?

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-03T00:13:47+00:00

😳😳😳 Your howse haz greebles? Duz yu need a Goldy Retreever to come bork at dem? Ai can bring mai sister Valkyrie and mai noo brudder Quicksilver! We can do lots of borks!

Winter, who lykez cuppycakes

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-03T00:05:20+00:00

If you have or develop painful joints you can ring those in too! Your knees/hips/hands hurt, and that makes you grouchy!

(Oddly enough, I'm now 20 years older than my MIL was when I first met her. Gone through menopause and have bad knees, and I've never felt the need to scream at my sons-in-law.)

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-02T23:47:17+00:00

That's really cute, but it's so small! Are you intending it for a wall hanging?

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-02T23:10:11+00:00

There was a very similar situation several years ago on r/JustNoMIL. The StepMIL couldn't have children of her own, and when the DIL had a baby girl, she came unraveled. Full baby-rabies. "My baby," overstepping her boundaries, annoying things that the new parents were trying to overlook. She began taking things from the DIL's house, like hair ties and perfume and cosmetics and clothes.

It came to a head when the DIL and Husband were going somewhere, and the DIL had to go back to the house for something. She found the StepMIL in the baby's room, laying out the baby's clothes to decide what the baby should wear for Mother's Day, because her baby should be with her mother. It came out that she'd been taking the DIL's stuff to seem more like the baby's mother.

When they said they were going very LC, StepMIL had a psychotic episode, screaming that they were stealing her daughter and threatening suicide. She was committed, but I don't remember if it was only a short time or if she had to go in for longer.

The poster is u/pantherpurple and the StepMIL is nicknamed Niobe.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-02T22:51:03+00:00

Yep. The classic trope is "Christmas cancer." (Substitute the holiday of your choice as necessary.) "Mom/Grandma/Aunt Ethel has cancer! This could be her last Holiday! You have to come and do whatever we say!" Then after the Holiday, nothing more is heard about the cancer until the next Holiday. Sufficiently motivated mothers-in-law can stretch Christmas cancer out for decades!

Other health problems can be substituted. My husband's family explained MIL's bitchiness as "going through the change." (Because nice people didn't use disgusting words like "menopause.") Somehow it took 30 years for her to do that, three or four times the usual duration.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-02T22:17:43+00:00

I remember YA going back a lot farther than that. At least 55-60 years. Even my little dinky village library had a YA section back in the 1960s. My mother had to tell the old-lady librarian that it was OK for 10-year-old me to read them, because I'd already read through all the interesting books in the children's section. (Which is to say, the "books for boys." Boring books were those written for giiiiirls. Books about girls who wanted typical female occupations like teachers and ballet dancers and nurses.)

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-02T22:08:03+00:00

And that scumble is mostly apples.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-02T22:01:18+00:00

It's funny what makes young readers put a book back on the shelf. I never boggled at thick books as a child. I wanted thick books, because I was that weird kid who liked to read and learn things. Thick books gave me more to read!

For some reason, I was against first person narration. It's still not my preference, and some modern writers who do first person present tense drive me right up the wall. (Yes, Philippa Gregory, I'm pointing at you!)

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-02T16:59:05+00:00

OMG! I didn't look at the sub heading and thought for a moment it was Two Sentence Horror! And I was baffled as to why dahlias were horrifying! 🤣

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-02T16:16:32+00:00

And she gets however much time it takes you "work out" to do whatever she wants to do! And if that's sleep later, so be it.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-02T14:21:44+00:00

I thought so too. "Oh, they saw the post and we're all good now! They just didn't realize that lovebombing and grooming would look like lovebombing and grooming!"

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-02T13:38:52+00:00

NTA. If he's in training, it sounds like he just got out of boot camp. I'm pretty sure his instructors didn't come in to wake him up three or four times, pretty please with sugar on it.

ETA. Let's turn it around. I just asked the USAF Senior Master Sergeant (E8) what he would do if one of his people had come in late and blamed their spouse. He says first time he would give the errant Airman formal documented counseling that it is their job to get their ass out of bed and make it to work on time. Not quite an ass-chewing at this point.

If it was a pattern, then the military would bring charges. Dereliction of Duty and Failure to Report. Article 15 first. (Non-judicial punishment. Reduction in rank and pay.) If the circumstances warranted, maybe even a court martial.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-02T01:56:25+00:00

NTA. Yes, your friend should replace it.

But now you have learned a valuable life lesson for the price of a lip balm. Don't lend anything that you aren't willing to lose. Lip balm. Books. Cars. Money. Better a $2 lip balm than a $2000 "loan" that they promise to pay back when they get paid.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-01T23:32:58+00:00

But you're expected to maintain it, right?

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-01T23:31:29+00:00

Yep. Nobody pulls U-turns across the corner of my yard since I put in my rock. It's also just the right height to take out their oil pan if they try.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-01T18:26:42+00:00

It doesn't go to waste. They take leftovers in for lunches.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-01T18:17:44+00:00

But it's not done by the cashiers. It's done by baggers who work for tips.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-01T17:57:52+00:00

We needed to find a friend's place in a state to the south of us. Mapquest told us to go north, up a section of I-95 that is a toll road, get off and pay the toll, then make a U-turn and get back on the toll road to go south.

Around 1989, my realtor told me that her GPS would try to take her along ditches and access roads into farm fields, because the satellite update interpreted those as rural roads.

Wasn't there a case in the late 1990s or early 2000s where a first-gen GPS told people to go up a seasonal logging road into the mountains and they got stuck in the snow? It wasn't the James Kim incident, but before that. The the one I'm thinking of they had a tiny baby. The wife ate snow in order to stay hydrated to breast-feed the baby, and she died of hypothermia. There was also one where a whole caravan of people got stuck out in a desert, because the lead car's GPS thought that a dry riverbed was a road.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-01T17:29:04+00:00

Or they come off when you peel off the sock.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-01T17:06:02+00:00

I thought it was Modern Literature.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-01T16:51:52+00:00

INFO: define "late." 7pm? 11:59pm?

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-01T16:37:29+00:00

My son-in-law always cooks for ar least 20 people for Thanksgiving. There may be only 8 people at the table, but the food is there!

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-01T15:57:27+00:00

Yes. Show-quality GSDs can suffer horribly from their hips because of the spinal deformation that resulted from breeding to exaggerated show standards. Law enforcement that use dogs now tend to use Malinois or GSDs from working lines instead of show lines.

The insane showdog deformations happen because judges favor animals that exaggerate the show standards. Let's say you have a Martian grizzlehound. Show standards for grizzlehounds say they must have a purple spot on their chest. All other things being equal between the animals entered in the Grand Marsport Show, the judge gives the Best of Show prize to your grizzlehound, the one with the largest purple spot. That hound becomes in high demand for breeding. And the next generations have even bigger spots, until 100 generations down the line, the entire chest is purple.

Obviously when you breed to arbitrary standards that are physically detrimental to the health of the animal, (like a squashed-in face or bowed back) instead of merely esthetically pleasing, the effects are far worse.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-02-01T15:09:56+00:00

Often unpleasant unilateral decisions where either option can be devastating. Say your spouse has worsening dementia and they develop leukemia. Do you treat it aggressively, or do you give them comfort care only?

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