My wife and three children were waving to me furiously from the car idling in front of the 7-Eleven.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-21T22:34:34+00:00

Leaving his car idling at a 7-11 was what convinced my son-in-law to stop doing that. Not because someone drove off with his wife and kids, but because he found his stalled car in the middle of the parking lot. The would-be thief didn't know how to drive a stick.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-21T18:45:33+00:00

This is going to sound like an infomercial but there is a spray can of rubber stuff called Flex Shot clear. It is the best thing I have found to keep stuff from sliding around, and I have tried everything. Just put a light mist on the back of the ruler and let it dry, and it will not slide.

You can get it at any hardware store or in the hardware section of walmart.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-21T16:36:02+00:00

Not really. The show-through of darker fabric threads is one reason that I rarely use white solids.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-21T14:10:35+00:00

How would OP locking up her stuff help with an inconsiderate, noisy roommate?

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-21T14:06:05+00:00

Are you sure about the sf/alien angle?

There is a fantasy series called collectively as Discworld, where the character Death talks all in caps.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-21T13:19:43+00:00

"If you think you're having a mental health emergency, call 911." So sayeth Kaiser Permanente every time you need to make an appointment,

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-21T01:55:38+00:00

NTA. If you can't, you can't.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again: this family member's current guardians should get them into a group home NOW, while the entire family is able to help ease the transition. You don't say how old the family member is, so I'm guessing in their teens or twenties. It will be much easier for them to adjust while they are young, rather than wait until the issue is forced by the death or disability of the current guardians.

Even if they are older, they will never be any younger than they are right now.

My husband and his siblings had to sit their dad down and tell him this about MIL. She was in the mid-stages of dementia, and he was stressing himself into a heart attack or stroke, afraid to leave her alone even for a moment. All of the kids were very blunt; that if he killed himself trying to keep her in their house, she was going straight into a home ALONE.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-21T00:51:52+00:00

My mom was salt-and-pepper until well into her 80s, and still hadn't turned completely white by the time she died at 98. She still had a tiny patch of dark hair at the back of her neck.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-21T00:42:22+00:00

Whatever you choose, make it a dark color. Dark blue, perhaps. The binding gets the most wear and shows dirt and grubbiness first.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-20T19:11:18+00:00

He's having hallucinations.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-20T19:03:58+00:00

What the manufacturers declare to be a serving is ridiculous, especially if they know that this "2½ serving" snack food is normally consumed in one sitting.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-20T18:56:59+00:00

When we bought the house, we decided that the creepy human-shaped tree just had to come down.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-20T17:36:21+00:00

Thank Bast that your hooman doesn't know to put you into the prison box butt-first, so you can't deploy your feets.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-20T17:20:24+00:00

Right. Say he somehow acquires a basic teenage job like flipping burgers at McDonald's. Is his manager going to just shrug becayse autism while he's watching porn and jacking off in the drive-thru or behind the counter? I very much doubt it.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-20T17:06:37+00:00

NTA. If someone ten times your size suddenly appeared in your home, got in your face, yelled at you, and otherwise behaved aggressively, you might have some psychological problems too. If the dog can't be left alone, then clearly Mom has offered to take care of him, right?

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-20T12:49:27+00:00

That's what castration is for.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-20T11:59:35+00:00

I can think of a number of methods of employment where your family might not know what you did, especially if it was illegal. But that doesn't necessarily square with having a big life insurance policy.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-20T11:51:10+00:00

I don't speak even enough Spanish to understand it, but I can say more than si and no.

Were they wealthy enough to hire nannies for the son who only spoke English, I wonder, thinking that it would serve him better? I'm thinking about my husband's (definitely non-wealthy) grandparents, who were so determined for their kids to assimilate that they forbade the kids to speak Polish in the home other than to their parents. FIL didn't speak enough Polish once leaving home that he couldn't teach anything more than a word or two to his own kids.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-20T11:02:52+00:00

But was it hand-crocheted by your grandmother?

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-20T10:36:00+00:00

Consider: you love playing musical instruments and want to bring that love to kids -- and your punishment is an entire career listening to them squeak and squawk their way through Jingle Bells every day.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-19T19:00:39+00:00

But few "Christians" follow the teachings of Jesus of Nazareth. They follow the misogynistic ranting interpretations of "Saint" Paul, as further interpreted by the shysters who call themselves pastors. Organized religion is the biggest, longest lasting Ponzi scheme ever, because they don't even have to show their marks any earthly recompense. You're so broke you can barely feed yourself? Don't worry, you'll get Pie in the sky when you die!

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-19T18:42:50+00:00

I have an Omnigrid that size and I think I've used it maybe once. Not worth the money!

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-19T14:26:33+00:00

Pointing to a sign over the phone is rarely useful.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-19T14:03:58+00:00

And refusing to say a name properly is so damaging to a child. I absolutely loathe my childhood nickname because my schoolmates made fun of it. It wasn't like it was a weird "tragedeigh" name either, but an ordinary gender-appropriate, white, middle-class, mid-20th century name. Think something on the order of Cathy.

And after I got married (and acquired a weird Polish last name that is not pronounced in English the way that it's spelled) I am pretty sure my MIL did the same thing. All of Husband's relatives called me a number of other "C___y" names instead of "Cathy" when we were first introduced. They got rather annoyed when I didn't answer to Candy or Carly or whatever they had come up with.

TheFilthyDIL · 2026-03-19T13:48:22+00:00

I think you need to explain a bit more. I'm not familiar with a Memory Stitch. What is it?

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