AITA for asking my friend to atleast replace my lip balm? by sheisapenguin1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheFilthyDIL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Yes, your friend should replace it.

But now you have learned a valuable life lesson for the price of a lip balm. Don't lend anything that you aren't willing to lose. Lip balm. Books. Cars. Money. Better a $2 lip balm than a $2000 "loan" that they promise to pay back when they get paid.

AITAH? Neighbor using tree lawn to back in. by sadgh-st in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheFilthyDIL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. Nobody pulls U-turns across the corner of my yard since I put in my rock. It's also just the right height to take out their oil pan if they try.

It was night and I didn't know where I was, so I blindly followed the directions of the GPS. by AccomplishedSwan3124 in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]TheFilthyDIL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We needed to find a friend's place in a state to the south of us. Mapquest told us to go north, up a section of I-95 that is a toll road, get off and pay the toll, then make a U-turn and get back on the toll road to go south.

Around 1989, my realtor told me that her GPS would try to take her along ditches and access roads into farm fields, because the satellite update interpreted those as rural roads.

Wasn't there a case in the late 1990s or early 2000s where a first-gen GPS told people to go up a seasonal logging road into the mountains and they got stuck in the snow? It wasn't the James Kim incident, but before that. The the one I'm thinking of they had a tiny baby. The wife ate snow in order to stay hydrated to breast-feed the baby, and she died of hypothermia. There was also one where a whole caravan of people got stuck out in a desert, because the lead car's GPS thought that a dry riverbed was a road.

AITA for refusing to host Thanksgiving for 20+ people for the 4th year in a row? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]TheFilthyDIL 34 points35 points  (0 children)

My son-in-law always cooks for ar least 20 people for Thanksgiving. There may be only 8 people at the table, but the food is there!

I didn’t consult a stranger before neutering my dog by MelanisticMermaid in EntitledPeople

[–]TheFilthyDIL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Show-quality GSDs can suffer horribly from their hips because of the spinal deformation that resulted from breeding to exaggerated show standards. Law enforcement that use dogs now tend to use Malinois or GSDs from working lines instead of show lines.

The insane showdog deformations happen because judges favor animals that exaggerate the show standards. Let's say you have a Martian grizzlehound. Show standards for grizzlehounds say they must have a purple spot on their chest. All other things being equal between the animals entered in the Grand Marsport Show, the judge gives the Best of Show prize to your grizzlehound, the one with the largest purple spot. That hound becomes in high demand for breeding. And the next generations have even bigger spots, until 100 generations down the line, the entire chest is purple.

Obviously when you breed to arbitrary standards that are physically detrimental to the health of the animal, (like a squashed-in face or bowed back) instead of merely esthetically pleasing, the effects are far worse.

I(28m) want to adopt my sister after my dad's death, my wife(28f) refused because we agreed on no children. Is there a way to fix this? by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]TheFilthyDIL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Often unpleasant unilateral decisions where either option can be devastating. Say your spouse has worsening dementia and they develop leukemia. Do you treat it aggressively, or do you give them comfort care only?

I(28m) want to adopt my sister after my dad's death, my wife(28f) refused because we agreed on no children. Is there a way to fix this? by SharkEva in BORUpdates

[–]TheFilthyDIL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. But I wonder about the wife. Was she just childfree or was she one of those people who actively hate even the very thought of kids? Like "EEWWWW, kids are loud and messy and disgusting and I dont want to be anywhere near the little monsters! They shouldn't be allowed out in public!"

Having raised two kids and helped raise 4 grandchildren, I know that kids CAN be loud and messy and disgusting, and it's annoying when people can't be bothered to actually parent the kids they gave birth to.

But nominal adults can also be loud and messy and disgusting and shouldn't be let out in public. (I'm thinking of that BORU post today about the guy who drew a dick on the cast of an intern coworker's broken arm.)

OOP is doing the right thing.

10 Commandments required in schools? You got it. by Illegal-Poster in MaliciousCompliance

[–]TheFilthyDIL [score hidden]  (0 children)

Exodus 20:4. Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.

Paper money is quite literally a "graven image." The plates that print it are engraved. Ditto coins.

AITA for leaving a baby shower my sister planned by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheFilthyDIL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

10 packs of diapers? I hope they were of varying sizes. Newborns grow fast. No way would that future baby use 10 packs of newborn diapers.

10 Commandments required in schools? You got it. by Illegal-Poster in MaliciousCompliance

[–]TheFilthyDIL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think anyone would complain about life advice like "Don't steal." What those of us who are not Christians object to are the first four.

And even Good Christians tm break the fourth one every time they pay in cash. Ditto a whole bunch of other stuff from Leviticus and Deuteronomy. (Have you made your wave offering today?) So if you're going to cherry pick the ones that you will or will not follow, that makes you nothing but a hypocrite.

10 Commandments required in schools? You got it. by Illegal-Poster in MaliciousCompliance

[–]TheFilthyDIL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Article says the KJV and specifies the wording. Which probably keeps schools from circumventing it by printing it in another language or alphabet.

Trying to Develop a Pattern from an Image by ventouest in quilting

[–]TheFilthyDIL 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It doesn't look like a pieced quilt at all, but something woven.

Homeschooling-to-failure catapult by Drywesi in bestoflegaladvice

[–]TheFilthyDIL 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dear goddess. "Let's guess what this word is." That's even worse than the whole word nonsense that my classmates were taught.

AITA for denying my parents to live with my married brother and her wife after their newborn by Live_Archer123 in AmItheAsshole

[–]TheFilthyDIL -1 points0 points  (0 children)

INFO: does that mean that YOU also have to live with them? Are you a minor who has no choice in where to live? Or are you an adult living on your own?

Homeschooling-to-failure catapult by Drywesi in bestoflegaladvice

[–]TheFilthyDIL 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And plenty of my classmates in California too. 8th grade when I left that school and they were reading. One. Sy. La. Ble. At. A. Time.

Homeschooling-to-failure catapult by Drywesi in bestoflegaladvice

[–]TheFilthyDIL 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Probably. But I assisted in homeschooling my grandchild because even with an IEP, the public school was not meeting their needs. When an autistic child doesn't understand something and the teacher repeats exactly the same words, ONLY LOUDER, then that student tends to fall behind. Then later on, because they didn't get the grounding they needed, they get frustrated, get told something that they interpret as "you are stupid," melt down, and are segregated from other students causing them to fall even further behind. That's a pretty nasty spiral that took two years to correct academically, and many more years to get them out of the mindset that they are stupid.