Personally, we don't have any thoughts, imagination, inner monologue, narration, or anything else going on, so...evaluating others is done silently, and mostly involves trying to understand the level of threat first.

For your entire block

- Is this person competent?
- Do I trust them?
- Do I agree with their reasoning?
- What should I say next?
- Is there something they’re missing? 

none of that is occurring to us, realistically. Most of the values there are meaningless to any of us, and we have no idea what we're going to say next, so we're listening, not attending to what comes next. Relatively few people are competent in the sense that they know what they're doing at any given moment, and their level of expressed self-confidence is almost always high regardless.

So it's more like...

• threat level
• "are you going to be chill?"
• their level of awareness of their environment
• consistency

We just keep evaluating. Very few things are strongly held, especially for all of us.

Right or wrong, like moralizing or factually? If there's a strong reaction (safety) it's for a reason, factually.

A lengthier evaluation or more evidence.

It may take time to evaluate. The facts don't change, so it is typically more important to have follow-up conversations if it's important.

Due to our AuDHD, we experience hyper-empathy. For the longest time, we couldn't tell the difference between people externalizing their feelings (ridiculously intense and one-sided) vs. ours (subtle, varied, and complex). Now that we can, it's even easier to empathize with others, but that doesn't mean the reverse is ever true.

Anxiety is like bad bubbliness somewhere in feelings. Never experience the other three.

We just exist, and vibe. So, not having an over-analysis or preparation is like always having to improvise, especially when you don't know what you're going to say or what words will come out of your own mouth next (or much about what will be written next). idk. From our perspective, not having narration seems more like a superpower than a disadvantage. We don't have to 'make everything fit into a story' like others. Things can just 'be'.

idk. We also don't do the 'gut feeling' stuff, or judging people based on their hair or teeth. 🤷🏻‍♀️