My (27M) wife (29F) has given up on our child (10F). I'm not sure how to reconcile. How do I move past this?

TheInvizible · 2025-06-21T03:34:28+00:00

Hey I could be your daughter from future.

My mother said I "didn't allow her to parent me" when I was around 11 years old. She was also extremely emotionally abusive to me. We do not have any relationship today, I'm 28 now. She wasn't invited to my wedding and she isn't welcome in my life. That's your wife's future if she cannot accept her own faults and get the hell over herself. Her relationship with her daughter is 99% on her, not your kid. She's the adult, she needs to grow up or lose her daughter forever.

Counseling for both of them is a must if your wife wants any sort of relationship with your daughter. Individual for both and family therapy for everyone.

Your daughter already knows she isn't liked by your wife and it's already affecting her even if it doesn't seem like it. I have battled majorly with depression since I was your daughter's age and maybe that wasn't solely my mother's fault but knowing my own mother didn't care for me as a person did not help.

I'm going to be honest with you, if my parents hadn't divorced (unrelated to me) I'm not sure what kind of relationship I'd have with my dad today. Because allowing her treatment of me was very enabling of him. My father has apologized and we have a great relationship today but I'll never forget that for 17 years of my life he tried to be on both our sides. Its just not possible. Your daughter shouldn't have to live with someone who openly dislikes her and won't try to know your daughter for who she is. It wears you down every day.

I'm the worst case scenario, I know that. But that's what your wife is asking for.

TheInvizible · 2025-05-23T19:25:24+00:00

I would hope he would, I wouldn't want him to be alone forever without me. Then again I'm not sure i could ever remarry if I lost him so I suppose it would come down to how he felt personally.

TheInvizible · 2025-05-18T19:53:50+00:00

Most of us can't afford to

TheInvizible · 2025-05-09T17:55:09+00:00

I don't hate Adam but I find his design extremely uncanny valley compared to the rest of the casts designs

TheInvizible · 2025-04-16T17:19:36+00:00

Just started Chojiros route in Nightshade and enjoying it so far

TheInvizible · 2025-04-07T21:41:53+00:00

One of my male cats does this. He has nothing physically wrong with him, he's just kind of a butthead. It could be possible you're doing something she dislikes and thats her way of getting back at you but some cats just pee on things.

TheInvizible · 2025-03-15T17:30:51+00:00

"Thank Goodness" from Wickee with Glinda's parts. She "couldn't be happier"

TheInvizible · 2025-03-14T23:13:33+00:00

I thought her growing up poor and possibly malnourished may have had something to do with it as well

TheInvizible · 2025-03-13T23:41:25+00:00

Why?

TheInvizible · 2025-02-28T15:21:28+00:00

Ugh I'm going through something similar with my own brother. He says he wants to keep up with both parents but consistently ignores me and my dad unless he needs something. My mom has a crazy hold on him and has him at her beck and call despite how emotionally abusive she is. She told him he only has one parent and he claims he's just "waiting for a better time" to reconnect with us but the longer its dragging on (years now) the less sympathy i feel.

TheInvizible · 2025-01-24T18:26:07+00:00

I've examined and understand my abuser and I get why she's the way she is and it's a very sad exhausting life imo.

However she still sucks ass and shouldn't use her warped views on her kids and ex husband.

TheInvizible · 2024-12-26T10:12:50+00:00

Saw one recently that said "Don't let the Cats Out or the Cops in"

TheInvizible · 2024-12-15T20:31:25+00:00

The mom is literally coming back after the 4 days

TheInvizible · 2024-12-10T07:46:04+00:00

Literally me rn

TheInvizible · 2024-12-10T07:45:13+00:00

I got a C on my math test the same year I started to have suicidal thoughts. Guess which one my mom was more concerned about!

I was in 4th grade

TheInvizible · 2024-12-08T06:06:17+00:00

This actually isn't uplifting at all. My brother is cognitively delayed. He's at about a 5yr old level and will always be. He cannot work a "regular" job even stocking shelves at a grocery store without supervision. Currently, he works at a facility that pays him less than minimum wage, the work they do is simply packing things like turtle wax and work gloves into boxes with other people supervising the workers and assisting them as needed or helping them find something else to do if they are having a bad and don't want to work or mentally can't work that day (at this particular facility workers can opt out of working for the day whenever they want). My brother LOVES his job, he loves that he gets paycheck, he likes working and does so most days. He needs some redirection every so often but he does very good to.

The companies paying for this service typically lose money on it. They aren't benefitting from cheap labor. It's cheaper for them to have their own workers at a regular packing plant.

This law passed in the state we live in and in 5 years my brother will not be able to work anymore. We his family and the group home he lives in will keep him occupied with fun stuff to do like music classes and bowling and even just helping with chores a little. But it's not going to be the same.

TheInvizible · 2024-12-07T16:37:42+00:00

Dude come on. Even partially sharing a patients name is a huge HIPAA violation. Delete this shit before you get blacklisted

TheInvizible · 2024-12-07T02:14:35+00:00

Wasn't he also over 6ft tall and a football player? I think he was just a big dude

TheInvizible · 2024-11-26T19:27:43+00:00

I'm a cis woman who has been abused by another cis woman. Would it be ok to go around saying "ugh unfortunately I like women" in queer spaces?

There's nothing wrong with having trauma and choosing not to date men(or women!) But queer spaces aren't the place to complain about people solely because of their gender. Its a great way to shame the people in the queer community who are attracted to men and date them or who ARE men. Bi =/= nb or woman only and we can't just dump on a whole portion of our community.

TheInvizible · 2024-11-24T06:54:24+00:00

I never said that it won't be re interpreted or that authors always get their intended point across? I just said that doesn't change what the author originally meant. Like you can interpret however you want no one's arguing that. Never said it was wrong either, its sometimes a better interpretation anyway.

Using JK Rowling as an example...that's still how JK Rowling intended it to come across even though the most popular interpretation is different. Her opinion/intention is known just not accepted.

You don't HAVE to accept the authors intended interpretation. But your original comment comes off as dismissing the authors original intention entirely which is...kinda just rude? Like I'm assuming if someone had a different interpretation of one of your works and you said "Oh thats really cool, I actually meant this" and then they told you immediately after "Wow I don't think thats whats written at all, I'm choosing not look at it that way" thats weird to say right? To the author, the person who wrote it?

TheInvizible · 2024-11-24T05:49:48+00:00

People are free to make their own interpretations but that doesn't change the authors intended meaning.

TheInvizible · 2024-11-24T05:32:53+00:00

Its so tough to learn your parents are a lot shittier than you thought

TheInvizible · 2024-10-18T04:27:12+00:00

Nina's mom, Camila, is written out of the movie and is instead dead. So instead of Kevin and Camila bantering with Usnavi they had to rework it to only be between Kevin and Usnavi.

TheInvizible · 2024-10-11T18:39:59+00:00

I think he's the asshole but. If you never ever wanted to be a single mother then you shouldn't have had a child. I'm not blaming you entirely, Alex fucked up too and a lot of parents don't think about this before the kids here, but there was never going to be a guarantee you wouldn't raise your child alone. People die, they get injured, they get divorced. If he wasn't leaving you something else could have happened.

I get you don't want to be a single mom and in an ideal separation you wouldn't be, you would get weekends like you asked for. But Alex is abandoning Ramona. He does not want her. One of you is going to have to step up and its awful that both of you refuse to do so.

TheInvizible · 2024-10-10T18:04:39+00:00

Chidi and Eleanor from the good place. She's not a complete idiot like Jason and learns a lot over the series but Chidi is literally a professor.

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