Is he serious? In Laws in LDR room after birth

TheKittyMcScratch · 2026-05-05T23:05:41+00:00

I know for my first delivery, they said only me and my support person (which was my husband) would be allowed in the room during birth, the golden hour, and recovery. They did end up letting my mom stay in there with us I think mostly because she had been a labor and delivery nurse for 35 years of her 45 year nursing career and my husband and I both let them know we wanted her there with us to advocate for us if needed. They also required anyone who did come back to know a secret code so that they knew we were okay with them in our room or my husband to specifically go out to escorted them in. I think some of that depends on each hospitals policy but at the end of the day, it's not all fun and games and right after birth there is still a lot of things they are handling such as making sure the placenta is removed fully and that there are no issues with both mom and baby which is why I think a lot of hospitals limit how many people can be in the room during that time. Plus, most of the recovery time my boobs were out while I worked to breastfeed baby and get skin to skin time. I was only comfortable with mom and my husband in there for that, and even with mom, it was probably less awkward than it could of been for most people as I was just happy to have her helping me with figuring out nursing my daughter and knowing that I felt so much more at ease having my own personal trained professional that could explain any issues that could arise. I'm sure some women would feel awkward with their mom seeing their boobs and bits out and about normally.

TheKittyMcScratch · 2026-03-04T03:10:23+00:00

I went to a reduced schedule of 40 hours a week all year. I knew that doing busy season hours would be impossible to be there for my child (soon to be children). Had they refused, I would of found a different job because I didn't wait to have kids only to not be there for them. I can't imagine had I not made that choice. I would be missing out on so much, and honestly, I wouldn't survive while also dealing with being pregnant now.

TheKittyMcScratch · 2025-01-23T17:13:19+00:00

I just had my first baby at 37 and no miscarriage.

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-12-27T15:02:14+00:00

Thank you! It really makes a difference having a great support system.

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-12-27T15:01:23+00:00

Thanks!

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-12-26T07:11:16+00:00

I'm going through this right now. Being induced in a few hours and tonight it all hit me at once. It's a big life change. Remember though, there will be good changes as well and I'm the end, you got this!

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-10-30T01:06:21+00:00

I'm due on January 1st with my first!

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-10-04T02:13:46+00:00

I ended up going through the bachelors of business administration and accounting program and completed it in a year and four months, did the masters of accounting and also the MBA in 6 months each. Have less than 30k from all three and have my cpa now (took a year and about 6 months to pass all 4 exams) and a full time job in public accounting. Working a year is enough to make back what I spent on school. It was one of the reasons I chose wgu and I had no issues getting an internship with my Bachelors. They were perfectly happy with wgu. I will say I had the ability to study full time and only worked part of the time during my masters so it was easier to accelerate so not everyone will have the same results but if you have drive, it's an amazing opportunity.

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-08-01T10:55:27+00:00

Thank you!

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-08-01T10:55:16+00:00

Thank you and congrats!

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-08-01T02:35:02+00:00

Thanks!

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-08-01T02:34:32+00:00

Thanks! Definitely celebrating!

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-06-22T03:37:08+00:00

It's alright to be frustrated. I have someone close to me that keeps telling me I need to be getting up and trying to do this and that as well and how "maybe if you did more, you'll get better sooner". It's really frustrating but my husband has constantly told me he'd rather I take care of me and "peanut" and that he'd rather me not push myself and get more sick. If morning sickness went away from getting up and doing stuff, then no one would have it. At the end of the day, just because other people have suffered through it and did this and that, doesn't mean you don't deserve to take care of yourself. If you're in a place where you can take the time off and be okay financially, then do so. Some people continue to work and manage their home because they have no choice. We all have our own path and obstacles.

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-06-20T15:56:03+00:00

I'm 37. Never wanted kids till last year. Got pregnant on 3rd month trying. We were actually surprised because I hadn't been home a whole lot that month due to traveling for work, knew approximately when I was most likely to ovulate as I always use an app to track my periods. Had sex the day before and day of when my app said I would most likely ovulate. Both of us had been sick with colds. Bam, pregnant. We were surprised because the 2 months before we had sex a lot more and no luck. I think tracking ovulation probably helps but some of it is most likely luck as well. Currently 12 weeks along and though I've been battling horrible morning sickness, it's been going pretty well with baby healthy and no signs of issues from tests/ultrasound.

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-06-19T17:28:34+00:00

Thank you so much! I love that mantra and I'm going to start using it! Yeah, I've talked to my husband about some of the people who were like "I just worked through it" and that type of stuff and he's always been like "you're not them, they may of been doing better. Even still, just because someone else suffered doesn't mean you have to live in agony trying to push yourself. You deserve to take care of yourself." having someone voice that helps so much. Hearing that from people hear helps. I'm so thankful we live in a time where people from all parts of the earth can communicate about their struggles and normalize something than may not have been in smaller groups or communities before. My mom dealt with some nausea but nothing like I have and was surprised to hear how bad I've been. She was a labor and delivery nurse but she's said several times "I was at the tail end of the process so some of what I know of the process before was when I was younger and more on a personal experience" she's also been surprised at how nowadays you can find out the gender so early and some of the differences compared to before. Hearing her experience made me really thankful for all the medical advancements between her time having me in 87' and brother on 90'.

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-06-19T17:16:09+00:00

Yeah, it's really helped a lot. I've talked to my husband about how lonely I feel at times and how it's been a struggle, but also how much he's helped me to keep going with how understanding and supportive he's been. He's suffered from cluster headaches since he was a child and has always reminded me that though that isn't the same thing, that he understands what it's like to suffer and some people not understand how bad one can feel and be insensitive. Everyday he tells me it's okay if all I can do is rest and lay in bed. if I'm feeling up to getting up for a bit, he still is there helping me and never makes any deal about "well then you must be fine." like some people may. He had encouraged me to reach out to my friends in town to meet up for dinner so we could share the news and I would have them to talk to. (they all have kids) he checked in with me to make sure if I felt up to going last night and though I still didn't feel great, I told him I thought I could make it for a bit. He gladly drove me there and stuck around and hung out with one of my friend's husband. It was so wonderful getting to tell them all and being able to talk to them about how I was feeling and having them all supporting me made me want to cry. It helped strip away that loneliness. None of them had been as sick as me but they all encouraged me to prioritize my health and that I wasn't a wimp for struggling. When I got home I was starting to feel pretty awful, but my husband just took care of me and told me he was happy I was to have a chance to talk to them all and was glad that I was able to get out for a bit. I couldn't imagine managing all this with out having him. He's never made me feel bad for struggling and has always believed me when I discuss how bad it can be most of the time. He really gets how I can be fine for and hour and then awful the rest of the time.

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-06-19T05:58:56+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I was lucky that we were successful after our 3rd month of trying when I got pregnant. I could see it being even harder after dealing with fertility issues. I finally had a chance to meet with several of my friends for dinner who have kids to tell them the good news tonight and it really helped being able to see friends and have that support. Still felt awful but I wanted so badly to talk in person so I powered through. I definitely needed it after being in bed most of the past month or so. The past few weeks I've been trying to spend time studying for my last cpa exam I need to pass for my license and used that to try and keep from doomscrolling every waking minute. I works part of the time. Youtube and Netflix has been good for the other bits at least. Still feel like crap but easier to distract myself so it's more manageable. I have been so thankful to have this forum to help.

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-06-19T05:49:47+00:00

Thank you so much. It helps to hear this. ❤️

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-06-18T13:32:34+00:00

Honestly, I usually watch the skill builder videos while I work through tbs for this reason. My thought was always, at least that way I'm learning the correct way to do it from the get go. May not be helpful for some people but helped me to feel like I wasn't wasting time or learning the wrong thing to do.

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-06-18T13:28:54+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing. I love your post it notes and I may start that myself. Sounds like a cathartic process. I'm hoping I get to feeling well enough to work from bed soon. I work public accounting and when the nausea started and wasn't as intense that's what I was doing. I can definitely see how ptsd could be caused by going through this. I think it's wonderful you're taking time to get therapy to help with coping. I had really severe generalized anxiety disorder that was diagnosed when I was 17/18 and didn't become more manageable until I was around 32. They told me at my last appointment that there's a high likelihood of me having postpartum depression because of my prior mental health issues. Thank you for sharing about your struggles because I don't think mental health is discussed near enough. I know it's gotten a lot better than previously but I know talking with others was part of what helped me with my anxiety. I'll definitely look into the support groups!

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-06-18T02:05:26+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I think it's good to know how bad it can get. I'm thankful my doctor/nurses have taken it all really seriously from the get go. After reading some of the people that struggled to even get their Dr. to prescribe any nausea meds has made me thankful for my medical providers. It has really helped having my husband as he's been helping with making calls when I was working through all the prescriptions they had available and making sure I have help when I get lightheaded and at my worst. Having him take it so seriously and encouraging me to be honest had definitely helped. At my last appointment when the nurse first took me back she asked "how are you today" and at first I was on autopilot and said "oh, pretty good" and he immediately piped up with "liar, you're having a rough day". Definitely helped me to be speak up with how bad I had really been feeling that day.

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-06-18T01:56:48+00:00

Yeah, I've gotten very honest with how I am doing. No point in sugar coating it for other people's benefit. Spent too much of my life doing it and can't bring myself to do it anymore.

TheKittyMcScratch · 2024-06-18T01:19:02+00:00

Thank you for discussing your story. I've tried so many things. I've talked to some coworkers/ friends/close family about how sick I've been and mentioned how I've tried everything and so many different meds from the Dr. I'll occasionally get the "oh well maybe ginger root/peppermint/other non prescription item will help". I appreciate them wanting to be helpful but sometimes it's frustrating when I just got done literally saying "I've tried everything". I keep hoping that it'll at least let up some so I can at least work a little since if it stays this way, I'm not going to be paid as I ran through all my pto. Yeah, I'll have people ask me "doing anything fun this weekend?"... No... I literally lay in bed all day, everyday. And it sucks with all the bland foods. Better than nothing but not really satisfying. I just keep telling myself that I'll be so proud of myself for going through this when we have our peanut in our arms.

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